Whoever thought borderlines had a high degree of empathy clearly never dated one.

Predator or prey? Just run man

If anyone is erratic, rude, unpredictable, disrespectful, arrogant repeatedly and is not willing to listen or accept any feedback or criticism. Run for the hills. Don’t waste your time by watching YouTube videos to make your decision.

I promise you this, the red flags you ignore with a borderline will be the exact same red flags that will end the ‘relationship’. You will 100% look back and be disgusted with yourself with what you tolerated once you’ve been through the devaluation. The ‘good times’ are nothing more than the bare minimum you would expect in a relationship but seem so much better when you’re comparing it to the frequent disrespectful, crazy making, abusive, push pull devaluation you went through with it

Sam Vaknin is the only one who really knows how the mind of a borderline works. It's incredible how well Sam Vaknin knows us. It's almost a miracle to discover someone who knows us like that.

It doesn't matter what you do for people with bpd, if they dont activly seek to understand their issues they will continue the unhealthy behavior until it destorys every relationship they have even their relationship with themselves,

You cannot help them because they will destroy you.

You are not strong enough to sustain constantly being emotionally abused without having any consequences

The emotional blackmail and manipulation will eventually destroy your sense of self and once theres nothing left to destroy they will blame everythjng on you and leave

And you will spend months or possibly years questioning your reality while they just go on with their life

You cannot fix her, period. it's waste of your  time.

The perfectly mentally healthy (sarcasm) Richard Grannon and all his borderline exes springs to mind 😂

He's the best, I've never heard anyone talk like him about us borderlines.

My ex wife splits on her own son and my daughter.  Its wicked crazy. The son is 13 and he is in adolescence which means hes been distancing himself. Well come to find out, that triggers her abandonment.  Its brutal what ive seen her do and say to thay child. And he just retaliate, with the same energy.  Mind you he is autistic. I trying to get custody of my daughter right now, but its very difficult when she moved so far away. As for her son, i pray he makes it out alive. He's going to so messed up, it's sad.

My ex bpd has all but destroyed me. But my god I miss her. One hell of a drug. Excruciating withdrawal.

I avoid the men I’m most interested in. I don’t want to look needy and fear rejection. I act so aloof it’s completely self defeating. I’m also afraid of it going well, and then getting enmeshed and then abandoned. I watch these videos to make sense of the last man I (secretly) loved who was highly emotionally dysregulated and grandiose, but now I’m analyzing all my past relationships and keep thinking, am I just really good at recognizing cluster b men who are no good for me early on (a good thing) or is my own approach avoidance playing a role in my being perpetually single.  Am I a borderline that just has more self control? Or does this mean I’m healthy. I try to always trust my gut, but holy shit it is lonely.

Predator or prey? Depends what mood I'm in.

Nurse here, have understanding of Psychosis, Bipolar, Schizophrenia. Now on my own learning about personality disorders for a while. Dr. explanation here delivered like a package in most clear and brilliant way. Thanks Doc👏🏼

Genius I never had heard it explained so clearly 🔮💎

they say the crazy ones, are fun.. THE CRAZY ONES, ARE HIGHLY STRESSFUL !!!!!!! 😬😡🥵🤬🤪🥺😭

I cherish you so much Sam ❤ -BPD Woman ❤

I'm relieved to know I'll heal from my seven-year relationship with my ex-wife, who has BPD. Losing her is heartbreaking. The start of our relationship was intoxicating, addictive, and felt like eternal love. Sadly, she struggled to share me with my children and later she had issues with her own children's relationships. It was a challenging ordeal. I'm now seeking professional help to address the trauma bond. I wish her well

Noone can deal with an explosive and hiperpetulant bpd for more than a week,and if one does,it's the sign that something is terribly wrong inside the apparently non disturbed person

How adorable!
Careful not to call out the narcissist, they’ll hit you with the “I know you are, but what am I?”