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Dating After 50: 5 Smart Ways to ACTUALLY Meet Someone in Real Life

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Tired of dating apps?

The advice we always hear is, "Get out and meet people in real life."
Okay. But where? And then what?

Should you go out alone? Is a table full of girlfriends making you unapproachable? Where should you become a "regular"? “And if you're trying to strike up a conversation at the grocery store... is the meat counter a better bet than produce?” 😉

Because simply going somewhere single people might be isn't enough. You can sit at the same bar, coffee shop or grocery store every week and never meet anyone if you're not actually giving people an opportunity to connect with you.

In this conversation, Robert Manni ‪@RobertManni‬ and I get really specific about what you can do to give yourself a better chance of actually meeting someone—without relying on a dating app.

Because meeting someone in real life isn't just about where you go. It's what you do when you get there.

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Robert Manni is the author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, a novel that has been recognized as “the man’s successor” to Sex and the City, and the host of Guy’s Guy Radio and TV. For more information about Robert, click here: http://robertmanni.com/about-robert

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20 Comments

@Mizallison 1 month ago

Like I’ve said here before, my cousin met his wife at the grocery store. He didn’t know what panko was and he asked the random woman standing in the aisle. They’re married 10+ years-I lose count

@bdrogin 1 month ago

PUT AWAY THE PHONE!

@mhenry1962 1 month ago

Only thing that's worked for me is Ballroom dancing, which is like a cheat code.

@michaelhammond5895 4 weeks ago

Believe it or not I met my girlfriend at our public library. We've been seeing each other for 7 months now & long-term relationship.

@tedh8390 1 month ago

I just have to say this. ALL of the women I meet that are over 60, active (hikers or runners not mall walkers), some level of fitness, decently put together, and still curious about life, are taken. They are extremely rare.

@Comluc 3 weeks ago

Being content alone in life is best. No fusses, no divorce, no drama. 😃

@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls 1 month ago

Ours is a singles group for 40+, all never married and we all are very happy.

@AQUARIUMART123 1 month ago

my advice to women is NEVER CURSE... EVER in front of a guy you like.. make up another adjective and use that when you get aggrivated but never curse.. its a low class thing to do that is not neccessary to do at all.

@Bunny-mv6rb 3 weeks ago

A friend of mine met her soulmate in her apartment complex. Maybe with luck the same thing will happen to me.

@ik1482 4 weeks ago

I am a female who travels solo on business and pleasure. I eat dinner at the bar. By night two the bar tender remembers me, and I can chat with the other singles at the bar. Even when a restaurant is full there is usually a single seat at the bar. I bring a book.

@vintagevoices4610 1 month ago (edited)

I have had success at just about every place imaginable in the last couple years. I am able to carry on a good conversation and it usually starts from there. My smile and talking skills got me dates with The grocery store check out clerk, the girl behind the counter at Chipotle,a very attractive woman on the green way, and a few in the gym in the last two or three months. A sincere approach and intelligent conversation evokes positive outcomes. Then I bring it on home by singing them songs on my guitar or piano. Fortune favors the bold

@JaneDoe-g4b 3 weeks ago

It is VERY DIFFICULT to meet someone in a rural area; I visited my cousin in Southern California's Long Beach area (Seal Beach, Huntington Beach, etc) and wow- there are so many fun events and concerts & people walking the boardwalk etc

@Gbandy11 1 month ago

You'll never find me in a bar looking for a man because I don't drink and I don't like boozers. Supermarket? That's a great idea for me because I don't enjoy cooking! ;)

@adrianabrown1011 1 month ago

An interview with Robert is always a treat! 😊
About meeting IRL: you have to know yourself. In all my years being single in my 30's, then 50s and 60s i have not been approached by a man even once unless there was a common activity (hiking meetup, singles social). I would still be sitting home alone with my cat if it wasn't for dating apps. At least there the guys are available and looking (usually).

@gardengirl5330 1 month ago

Thank you both!

@garyyoder8880 3 weeks ago

I agree that meeting someone through your friend group is pretty much the ideal. I'm fortunate to have a fantastic group of friends both male and female, married and single. But, they have proved to be absolutely useless when it comes to meeting someone.
Anytime I hear someone say they know lots of great single women, it's inevitably someone I do not know personally and does not live in my state.

@Linda-BTJ 1 month ago (edited)

Don't be rude to anyone who you are not interested in, when they have done nothing wrong. If they are seriously violating social etiquette and crossing boundaries, that's a different matter, and there are ways to properly handle that too. But importantly, I would never want to be in a relationship with someone who I observed treating others poorly. Also, hang out at places where YOU enjoy being, regardless of who you might meet there. That way you increase the likelihood that anyone you do meet there will also have something significant in common with you. These days too it can be challenging to make new friends, especially if you have moved to a new area, so be open also to forming peer friendships with others who are there. Plus then you have more friends who are also single, and could join you when attending the next singles event (or hangout location), so you are not going by yourself.

@mlaiuppa 1 month ago

1. Turn your friends into your dating app.
2. Go to the grocery store and have a strategy.
3. Go out alone...or at least don't travel in packs.
4. Become a "regular" somewhere.
5. Go and do something where men actually are.

I will say I have done all of these things. And I am still single.
1. spent a decade going on blind dates and finally told my friends to stop.
2. Never happened.
3. I go out alone all the time because otherwise I'd never leave the house.
4. Regular in several places and am recognized, some light chatter but otherwise nothing.
5. I just don't know where to go any more.

I'm going to start ballroom dancing again. Women out number the men and most of the men will likely be there with their wives but I need the exercise and I need to try something new.

@andrewhaven9438 1 month ago

Your Best guest

@mypov4343 1 month ago

Yes dog walking is a great Icebreaker to other people that love dogs. And of course getting away from screens and doing things that you love with other people is one of the best ways to network. And if you want to know where you might find a good man he just might be a mountain biker should that be something as a woman you can do