8. Pathological lying.
9. Victim mentally.
10. No responsibility.

Just my 2¢ worth.

They will cry out in pain as they strike you.

Nurture isn’t always the cause of narcissism. There’s plenty of people who went through a bad childhood but still develop empathy

1- Shamelessness
2- Magical Thinking
3- Arrogance
4- Envy
5- Entitlement
6- Exploitation
7- Bad Boundaries

They hate everything that doesn't make them look good

People complain that I go on about narcissism yet it literally is everywhere.

My narcs biggest defenses:  "That was not my intention."  and "I didn't know."

Oddness and creepiness... that's the piece of narcissism that I've heard almost no one else talk about. After a while, looking at them was like staring into a haunted house.  I also went do the path of thinking it was both autism and brain damage.

Haha...."I want all the toys." A perfect description of my divorce.  He managed to coerce and bully his way into getting my parent's inheritance to me (their belongings) and 97% of everything we owned together including the vehicle.  The life lesson I understood that I had to go through was, it is better to leave with nothing and have my sanity, material items can be taken away in a blink of an eye.  Are you going to hate who took them from you/would not share them with you?  or are you going to forgive and move on?  It is better to muddle your way through starting from scratch than to continue to endure hell.

If you want a clear picture of what they're doing to you, just look at what they accuse you of doing. Also, if they reach absurdly high levels of disgust towards you, they are not likely to be in the normal range of people - they are within the narcissistic range. A relatively normal person can put you somewhere in the spectrum of people they dislike or are indifferent to with a reasonable level of accuracy - the narcissist goes into "full hatred mode" toward people who don't merit that level of anger and disgust.

For anyone who hasn't watched it, find a way to watch The Invisible Man. It's about a woman who escapes from a relationship with a controlling narcissist. The film deals with gaslighting, and other tricks they use to make the victim think they're crazy. It is extremely relatable to anyone who has suffered narcissistic abuse, right down to the ending. (there are some spoilers in the replies).

1. Shameless - hate criticism
2. Magical thinking - perfection
3. Arrogance - bullies
4. Envy - attack others
5. Entitlement
6. Exploiting
7. Bad boundaries

The narcissist I married received excessive attention from over bearing narcissistic parents who covered up his destructive anti social behaviour.  The narc spoke of his hatred for his mother often, and was arrogant, wealthy, entitled, highly intelligent but exhibited a frightening, exploitative, childish envious bullying behaviour when the mask slipped. Understanding my codependence through therapy has given me the strength to escape and grow in amazing ways. Thank you for your help, as few therapists understand the destructive effects of this virulent condition. 🙏👏💥

It's true about not being able to stand criticism (they love dishing it out, but heaven help you if you criticise them). It's probably why when I broke up with mine she immediately contacted everyone we knew to tell them that she'd broken up with me because I was "toxic" and had been "abusive" to her. She even went to the lengths of (AFTER we'd broken up and were no longer living together) contacting a domestic abuse charity so she could say - "Dave was abusive, it was so toxic, I've even had to contact a domestic abuse helpline". I only found out by accident - so my message is, if you DARE to leave them, be ready for the almighty backlash you're going to get, where they paint you as a monster by projecting everything they did onto you.
It makes you feel like a pariah.

My soon to be ex husband is awkward, like social anxiety disorder.   He is verbally abusive and thinks he’s done nothing wrong.  He has no ,zero emotion.  He wasn’t nurtured,  and held his breath as a infant.  Was given Phenobarbital for “ anger and temperament “.   His dad was alcoholic, his sisters were made to take care of him most of the time.   I’ve learned , he told me he doesn’t like to be touched.  He’s not affectionate,
 Married 23 years, always felt trapped,  I’m packing now he’s in denial , won’t help get the house ready to sell.  
Yes, he’s been to therapist and was asked to leave.  He’s smarter than them.   I’ve known he’s sick,  but I’m not afraid anymore.  He’s become more quiet.  I need to go , it’s my time now.   I enjoy and learn from your channel, thank you.

"They cannot tell the difference between you and themselves"... SO TRUE AND SO CREEPY!!!
It's been a few years I've noticed that when I would say something that maybe my sister found interesting, or original, or I don't know what... she would remain silent and look at the floor, as if she was thinking something. Then without fail, some time later, she would repeat what I had said word for word, as if she had thought it, or lived it. I can be an opinion, an information about myself, a trait, a memory.
When I noticed that, it really freaked me out. It still does.

I had to laugh because I did the exact same thing, thinking my ex was autistic, though also looked into ADD, and questioned something else being wrong because of such odd, awkward communication issues.

Ive recently become very ill and it has shown their nasty true colors more than anything i could of imagined. They have tried to pretend to care, pretend to be a help but its so blatantly obvious that they dont care at all and their “help” is really just adding problems to and already bad situation.
I can tell how they are actually enjoying the fact im sick. They are getting off on it, in some way.
Truly disgusting.

Whenever anything didn't go to plan, as things often do in life, he'd go to pieces. It was all doom and gloom, and I should sit in a corner and cry. Mood swings, hibernation, blame shifting, gaslighting and the good old silent treatment that would go on for days. I'm so glad that I'm not in Lock-down with him.

Sounds like I am addicted to these explanations of narcissism.. the more I learn about it, the more I feel better.