【社会心理学】「どうすれば好きになってもらえるのか」がわかる授業【恋愛】
たかの / 心理学YouTuber
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▼Video Table of Contents
00:00 Introduction
01:40 Points to Note
02:09 ① Increase the frequency of meetings
05:42 ② Pick up on what the other person says and ask questions
11:08 ③ Talk about yourself
18:29 (Bonus) 3 things you shouldn't do
29:11 ④ Find similarities and say them out loud
34:15 ⑤ Make small requests
37:41 ⑥ Express your affection without hiding it
41:42 What you need to do to take these 6 actions
46:11 Summary
47:35 Bonus short story
▼Membership
@yusuketakano
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【宣言】日本一の心理学YouTuberになります
▼References (in order of appearance in the video)
There are too many to list here, so they are listed in the comments section.
▼3 Recommended Books for Self-Studying Psychology
① "Thoroughly Illustrated Psychology"
https://amzn.to/2MKzdav
② "Step-Up Psychology Series: Introduction to Psychology - 10 Approaches to Scientifically Understanding the Mind"
https://amzn.to/2Jn10ff
③ "New Liberal Arts Selection: Psychology, New Edition"
https://amzn.to/2WdbRNT
▼X
https://x.com/YusukeTakano91
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▼Profile
Takano
• Graduated from Keio University Graduate School
• Majored in Psychology (Specializing in Cognitive Psychology and Social Psychology)
• Certified Psychologist
*The above link URL uses some Amazon Associate links.
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Moreland, R. L., & Beach, S. R. (1992). Exposure effects in the classroom: The development of affinity among students. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 28(3), 255–276. DOI: 10.1016/0022-1031(92)90055-O
Reis, H. T., Maniaci, M. R., Caprariello, P. A., Eastwick, P. W., & Finkel, E. J. (2011). Familiarity does indeed promote attraction in live interaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 101(3), 557–570. DOI: 10.1037/a0022885
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Huang, K., Yeomans, M., Brooks, A. W., Minson, J., & Gino, F. (2017). It doesn't hurt to ask: Question-asking increases liking. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 113(3), 430–452. DOI: 10.1037/pspi0000097
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Collins, N. L., & Miller, L. C. (1994). Self-disclosure and liking: A meta-analytic review. Psychological Bulletin, 116(3), 457–475. DOI: 10.1037/0033-2909.116.3.457
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Sprecher, S., Treger, S., Wondra, J. D., Hilaire, N., & Wallpe, K. (2013). Taking turns: Reciprocal self-disclosure promotes liking in initial interactions. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 49(5), 860–866. DOI: 10.1016/j.jesp.2013.03.017
Kardas, M., Kumar, A., & Epley, N. (2022). Overly shallow?: Miscalibrated expectations create a barrier to deeper conversation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 122(3), 367–398. DOI: 10.1037/pspa0000281
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Eastwick, P. W., & Finkel, E. J. (2008). Sex differences in mate preferences revisited: Do people know what they initially desire in a romantic partner? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 94(2), 245–264. DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.94.2.245
Eastwick, P. W., Luchies, L. B., Finkel, E. J., & Hunt, L. L. (2014). The predictive validity of ideal partner preferences: A review and meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 140(3), 623–665. DOI: 10.1037/a0032432
Dai, X., Dong, P., & Jia, J. S. (2014). When does playing hard to get increase romantic attraction? Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 143(2), 521–526. DOI: 10.1037/a0032989
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Teichmann, L., Petrowsky, H. M., Boecker, L., Soliman, M., & Loschelder, D. D. (2026). How the timing of texting triggers romantic interest after the first date: A curvilinear U-shaped effect and its underlying mechanisms. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 43(2), 570–593. DOI: 10.1177/02654075251377184
Whitchurch, E. R., Wilson, T. D., & Gilbert, D. T. (2011). "He loves me, he loves me not…": Uncertainty can increase romantic attraction. Psychological Science, 22(2), 172–175. DOI: 10.1177/0956797610393745
Montoya, R. M., Faiella, C. M., Lynch, B. P., Thomas, S., & Deluca, H. K. (2015). Further exploring the relation between uncertainty and attraction. Psychologia, 58(2), 84–97. DOI: 10.2117/psysoc.2015.84
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Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., & Kirchner, J. (2008). Is actual similarity necessary for attraction? A meta-analysis of actual and perceived similarity. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 25(6), 889–922. DOI: 10.1177/0265407508096700
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Niiya, Y. (2016). Does a favor request increase liking toward the requester? The Journal of Social Psychology, 156(2), 211–221. DOI: 10.1080/00224545.2015.1095706
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Curtis, R. C., & Miller, K. (1986). Believing another likes or dislikes you: Behaviors making the beliefs come true. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 51(2), 284–290. DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.51.2.284
Eastwick, P. W., Finkel, E. J., Mochon, D., & Ariely, D. (2007). Selective versus unselective romantic desire: Not all reciprocity is created equal. Psychological Science, 18(4), 317–319. DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2007.01897.x
会いたいと伝えてそれに応えてくれる
連絡してそれに頻繁に返してくれる
①を作り上げるために
②、③、④で話を盛り上げるみたいな
初めから①になかなか応じてくれない人は
会った時に②、③、④、⑥を頑張っても無理でした
逆に①にしっかり応じてくれる人は好きになってもらえてました
⑤はあんまりしたことが無くてわからない
社会人になってより会ったりマメな連絡が難しくなり、好意のある相手でもマメに連絡取るのがめんどくさくなったりしてたら全然恋愛上手くいかなくなりました
体感人と連絡とるのがそもそもダルいみたいな人も増え始めてそういう人を好きになったらより難しいです
そういう人も元々初めからタイプの人にだったらマメかもしれませんが、好きになってもらえるパターンは難しそう
同じコミュニティにいれば別ですが、どちらかが誘わないと会えない状況なら、会えている時点で多少なりに好意のある状態ですし。
①から⑥頑張ってます💪
大好きをLINEで伝えてから、相手の態度や反応も、前のスカした冷たさから多少は変化してきました。
電車で座席譲ってくれたり、コンビニ行くけど何かいる？って気遣ってくれたり。
ただ、②が弱い。
私が基本話して、相手は😊聞いてるか、聞けば答えるか、話しかけない時はスマホ見てるか。
私が話したことは覚えてるみたいで、なんとかって言ってたねとか反応はあります。
なので、私の自己開示はたぶんめちゃくちゃしてるけど、相手は聞かないと自己開示してこないです。
男子って嫌でも、避けたり拒否したりわかりやすくしないって聞いたことあるけどほんとですか？
リクエストなんですけど、今回のおまけみたいなのもっと見たいです😆
色んなタイプの男性心理とかあれば教えてほしいです！
1年半後に帰ってくるんですけど、
手紙のやり取りとかLINEで定期的に連絡は取ってます。向こうも海外生活半年くらいで大変だしで、あんまり踏み込まないで良好な友人関係のままいた方がいいのではと思ってしまうんですけどどう思いますか？
中学の同級生で今年の4月に再会して好きになって2人で飲んだりカラオケに行きました。来年の4月頃に会いに行こうとも思ってます。
相手はフレンドリーで社交的なタイプで話してるだけでも本当に楽しいです。ただ向こうがこちらをどう見てるかは僕からでは分かりません。少なくとも悪い印象ではないと思いますが、Loveではなくlikeなのかも？ってかんじです。
長文すみません！
色々ありましたが、付き合えることになり本当に幸せです！
本当にあの曲は告白する前に勇気づけてくれますよね！♡
この曲知ってる人は私の年代だとあまり多くないので、嬉しくてコメントしちゃいました😂
【社会心理学】「どうすれば好きになってもらえるのか」がわかる授業【恋愛】
たかの / 心理学YouTuber
24,773 views
▼Video Table of Contents
00:00 Introduction
01:40 Points to Note
02:09 ① Increase the frequency of meetings
05:42 ② Pick up on what the other person says and ask questions
11:08 ③ Talk about yourself
18:29 (Bonus) 3 things you shouldn't do
29:11 ④ Find similarities and say them out loud
34:15 ⑤ Make small requests
37:41 ⑥ Express your affection without hiding it
41:42 What you need to do to take these 6 actions
46:11 Summary
47:35 Bonus short story
▼Membership
@yusuketakano
If you would like to support my dream, I would be very happy if you would become a member. I look forward to hearing from you!
▼Dreams
【宣言】日本一の心理学YouTuberになります
▼References (in order of appearance in the video)
There are too many to list here, so they are listed in the comments section.
▼3 Recommended Books for Self-Studying Psychology
① "Thoroughly Illustrated Psychology"
https://amzn.to/2MKzdav
② "Step-Up Psychology Series: Introduction to Psychology - 10 Approaches to Scientifically Understanding the Mind"
https://amzn.to/2Jn10ff
③ "New Liberal Arts Selection: Psychology, New Edition"
https://amzn.to/2WdbRNT
▼X
https://x.com/YusukeTakano91
▼LINE Stickers
https://line.me/S/sticker/1463597
The cute hedgehog illustration "Harisuke," which appears frequently in the video, is now available as LINE stickers! Available now on the LINE STORE!
▼Profile
Takano
• Graduated from Keio University Graduate School
• Majored in Psychology (Specializing in Cognitive Psychology and Social Psychology)
• Certified Psychologist
*The above link URL uses some Amazon Associate links.
#Psychology #Classes #Takano #Learning #Education