We get the life that we end up settling for.

You could start to show your son a new example of a married couple in Japan. Spend more time with your family. Let your son know you’re there for him. Talk to your wife, try to solve your problems together. Go to couples therapy or something. There must be something you CAN do.

7:04 - Household Finances
7:51 - Long Working Hours
8:51 - Societal Expectations
9:25 - Communication Breakdown

Alas, marriage never works itself out on its own.
It's a long-term project and always "under construction", full of bumps and holes, a never-ending work in progres...
Wherever you invest your time, focus and energy, it grows and succeeds..
Whatever you neglect and just hope for the best, it fails to some extent..
Problem is, child rearing is crucial part of a marriage.
This is the most difficult task in the universe, should never be left to one person.
An old saying goes like "it takes a village to raise one child".

I would love to watch his wife's  YouTube channel

One big question ,  does the " Demon Wife " watch your videos ? , if she does Samurai Daddy is in the shit big time !

"At heart everyone wants to speak freely and feel safe".  "Most people were simply never taught that" - I do hope that you will break the cycle when it comes to your son's future and that he won't fall into the same trap so to speak of what you are enduring with your wife.  Stay safe SD.

постепенно, снимая такие видео, мы дойдем до видео по типу: "почему женщины виноваты в плохих отношениях с мужчинами, которые проводят 20 часов вне дома"

What a very sad and lonely life for you both

You are a captive in your society, and so is your wife. I have never felt more freedom than when I stopped feeling that I needed to meet other people’s expectations. The human dynamics you discuss here are NOT UNiQUE to Japan.

The system can only change when the people change. Marriage is between a husband and wife where they can tell each other that it is safe to speak up, discuss and plan all things and solve them together too. To help each other when the situation asks for it. Nothing is wrong with that. Communication, love, supporting and forgiveness are key. Doing fun things together also creates a good bond while they can still do their own things as well. My parents were married for 62 years. Now they are both in heaven. They loved each other to the end and did a great job raising us together.

You are a grown up man.  Please read the comments and decide what to do to change the way you are living.  Do not blame others for what is wrong - you have done this to yourself.  You have the power to change.

"Takusa" is a Filipino colloquialism and acronym for takot sa asawa, which translates to "afraid of one's spouse" or "henpecked". It is a slang term used to describe men who are controlled by, intimidated by, or fear their wives.

At the end of the day , you can’t blame everything on societal rules .  Every man and woman has the choice to make their marriage however they choose to be , whether a success or a failure .
We can’t blame the failures of marriage on society . Personal responsibility is a choice in every society , especially when children are involved .

Who were confused at first by the title?😂😂😂

Communication is one big key to a successful marriage. Not communicating leads to so much misunderstanding. Perhaps it’s time to start an open conversation with your wife and also step in to relieve some of her household duties. In the United States, many men helped their wives with household chores, especially if they work full-time, and you have children. Parenting is not a single parent option, it takes both parents to raise their children. My son and his wife have a very open communication with each other. It prevents so many misunderstandings. He also helps her with housework. It isn’t demeaning to him, he was in the Marine Corps for six years. A very strong young man. I hope that many younger Japanese couples start putting aside the dystopian view of marriage and start more open communications with each other.

Seems like Japan is currently in 1950.

Sometimes I wonder.... Is there an actual wife, of is it all just for show?

С женой обязательно нужно поговорить и не бояться ,что сразу всё получиться.Будьте терпеливыми и спокойно, без раздражения поговорите, что её беспокоит.Поймите и её чувства и эмоциональный надлом! С приветом к Вам. Украина.Счастья вашей семье и благополучия! Перевести  на японский язык.

Who said, happy wife, happy life? 😢