I don't resent that they walked away, I resent how they did it.

This is exactly what happened to us. Our marriage is collateral damage for a war he is waging within himself.

my ex told me he forgot who he was and what his dreams were. after 1 month  he started posting photos with his coworker

Sounds like Avoidant attachment style to me.

Darlene your empathy and wisdom are so appreciated. Thank you

This is the ultimate break up video because you explained very well what’s behind the curtains..but I don’t know how to be ok with this, I just feel so powerless and sad going through this and accepting to let go all the past behind

Wow, I really enjoyed listening to you. It made so much sense. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend many years ago. The funny thing is, we were happy. I can honestly say I always put her first. We used to laugh at other people because they were not as happy as us. I found out she was cheating on me when I asked. Why all she could say, with tears in her eyes, was 'I don’t know.' I was hoping that she would make something up, but she had no reason for being unfaithful. Because I treated her right, I know that she deeply regrets what she did. She is stubborn, so she will never admit she messed up. Anyway, it’s her loss, and she will never find a good man like me.

Worst thing is when they regret the discard so much, that they tell you they can’t stand your presence because they feel so much guilt just by looking you in the eyes. So they walk away. Again

Darlene, youre one hell of a soul. thank you.

Darlene.. I was the latter, I realised i sabotaged the whole relationship. Did the work and felt the emotions alone. I took the courage despite the shame, guilt and burden, and fought for her, with all my might, to be vulnerable, to be not afraid any longer! -she said no, she closed the door. She said she started seeing someone else too. It cuts deep.. i have to bare this weight.. keep doing the best i can, but when im alone and the thought of her comes up. oh how i miss her so, and now hurts too much.

She didn't have to dump me so abruptly , our relationship was so good there were arguments or anything negative. We had so much stuff planned for the future

Oh my gosh!!!! This video. Yes!!! Sooo 7 days ago my husband of 2 years who I have up my whole life for moved countries and supported him emotionally for 7 years! Told me I don’t want to be married anymore. It’s not you it’s me. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever heard. Because the love I feel for him knows no bounds. And I thought that this was it. That this was my happy ever after. How could he just end our marriage when nothing has happened. Why would he want to be alone! And why is he soooo god damn happy and fine about it all. About shipping me back off to the UK. I know for a fact he’s going to regret this one day. And I still can’t understand why he’s doing this. But your videos are helping me. And this one helped with how I was feeling tonight.

I will never know if he will regret it ot not because i blocked him. It wasn't a decision i did right away, before i tried saving our relationship.  However he didn't want to hear it, and after not only a month after the breakup he's dating another woman.  Im so hurt. So I decided since he doesn't want me in his life, i need to remove myself from his, he doesn’t even deserve 1% of me. I deactivated my social media and blocked him from other apps. I did this for myself.  I love him but i decided to choose myself,  especially when someone doesn't want you in their life.

This hit home for me. Been watching you since my breakup 18 days ago. Day 16 of NC. Your videos have been sooo helpful for me. Hoping to book a session soon. Thanks for all your help.

Thanks Darlene. Your videos are so healing. You say what my heart needs to hear like “don’t tell yourself you didn’t matter” ♥️

Hey Darlene, I really thank you for everyrhing! You are such an Angel to All of us that are heartbroken❤ My Ex doesnt want to talk to me about the relationships ending since we broke up 5 months ago. I know that to a certain point the relationship gave her a safe place in her daily struggles. But than Trauma from both of us kicked in. But yk when i tried to ask for a meeting to talk about this a month after the breakup she told me the best Thing for her life is not to speak with me and all i do is wunder why and where this comes from

Definitely one of the best videos on YouTube ❤

Great video, great peace of advice. For everyone going through a difficult time concerning their marriage, I pray for you that you'll find strength at the hard times.

I get what you’re saying, and you put it out there for people to understand and want people to understand that they did matter, but it honestly goes through one ear and out the other with me. I don’t think I meant anything to her

I watch these kinds of videos over and over again but I’m still very heartbroken and can’t move on. This is the hardest thing I had to endure. Seeing my baby growing without his dad breaks my heart to the core.