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The Secret to Looking Stylish Isn't Your Clothes

Jawnz Addiction

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Can you really "pull off" anything?

I think so... and apparently that's one of my most controversial fashion opinions.

In this video, I dive into why I think the whole idea of not being able to "pull something off" is mostly a myth, why confidence matters more than people realize, and how the Italian concept of sprezzatura (practiced nonchalance) might actually be one of the most important ideas in personal style.

Along the way we talk about my new Burberry trench coat, Adam Sandler somehow becoming a style icon, Shia LaBeouf, Jonah Hill, fit pics, men's fear of judgment, all the hits, all the favorites.

Again, this is apparently a very controversial take of mine, but I hope you'll watch the full thing and let me know if I've swayed you at all. And if not, let me know why in the comments. I have a feeling this one's going to be a fun debate.

#mensfashion #styleadvice #sprezzatura #confidence

00:00 - Intro - "Pulling it off" is a fake idea

02:05 - The big problem: "I don't think I can pull that off."

04:16 - Just be confident, bro

05:09 - What the Burberry trench coat taught me about confidence

07:59 - Sprezzatura - How to be practice nonchalance

09:31 - Adam Sandler, Jonah Hill, and confidently bad fits

11:18 - Why "vibes-based" outfit critiques are totally valid

13:04 - Style tip 1 - Be bored

15:04 - Style tip 2 - Wear sunglasses

15:49 - Style tip 3 - Look to your elders

17:30 - Are there exceptions!?

18:38 - No escape from judgment

19:39 - Casual vs costume

20:27 - Outro

20 Comments

@Amphibax 2 months ago

People tend overestimate how much other people care about your look. Generally they simply won't at all.
The vast majority of people won't care at all how you look, unless its something really crazy, and there is a good chance you never see the random person on the street ever again.

@ApricusInaros 2 months ago

It baffles me that someone is afraid of wearing a necklace. It's trivial. So much more important stuff to worry about in life.

@b3naqua 2 months ago

"you can't pull that off" wears off after the 1st public wear. then it's like oh, wait no one rly gaf lol, just wear whatever tf we want ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

@brianschlegel821 2 months ago

I think you are spot on with your thoughts on confidence playing a key role in what we choose to wear. I have gotten in to the loud silk shirts from Casablanca Paris, and I once thought that I “couldn’t pull it off”, but then I stopped caring and embraced my desire to do and wear what I want! Many thanks for your thoughtful content!

@throwingRomānss 1 month ago

One of the best things you can do is be thin and in shape. If so you will pull off 99% of whatever you put on.

@w4768 2 months ago

one of few female viewers checking in! unfortunately and fortunately, the thing that made me really feel invincible with being experimental with clothing was the first time someone made a negative comment about my outfit irl and realizing… I didn’t explode and perish or become socially exiled. wearing wack fits on the way to finding what really resonates is just a part of the process.

@kruka86 1 month ago

I totally agree with you.

@emmm_mmm 2 months ago

I will add, nothing has ever freed me more than realizing people just don't care. Even the ones who make a comment. They are thinking about themselves way more than you. Ever. And especially your clothes. Changed my life

@tophateyeball7198 2 months ago

IMO the pointers of how to make stuff outside your comfort zone look better on pics are spot on and helpful. One can tell that you're a seasoned fit pic taker ;)
I think where the "Just be confident, duh!" thing falls a little flat is that confidence is an emotional thing and we can't fully control our emotions. If we go out and feel judged by others or receive negative comments, most people are probably going to feel a bit insecure and we can't just switch that off.
The most important thing to me that you said in this video is "Wear what you like and think looks cool!" (not your exact words but you know what I mean). If you yourself genuinely like the look of an outfit, even if it's rather out there by conventional standards, that can give you the motivation to wear it out and the more you do that, the more confident you're gonna feel and you sorta grow into it and make it look better and better. That's another reason for me not to hop on every trend but rather experiment to find your own style and cultivate it, no matter how crazy (or normie) it's gonna look.

@reesespieces3379 8 days ago

I agree with you, confidence and intentionality are soooo 🔑

Totally agree

@miguelgarza4162 13 days ago

The movement in the trench is amazing

@Bluntz_ 2 months ago

My wardrobe greatly expanded when I decided that I can wear anything and my confidence grew massively. The amount of fun you can have with fashion when you don't give a damn is literally the best!

@DragGuy 1 month ago

love your sweater

@stevephillips8732 2 months ago

Such an important conversation especially in men’s wear. This is something affecting so many men, I think your right about confidence if your wear it long enough it becomes you. You reshape what you are , or what your style is to others. I think it’s levels however, if you don’t do fashion then one day wearing jorts in your 40s or something you will get so many comments that it might knock your confidence. Starting small will build it and it won’t be so jarring to others. They will be on the journey with you. I went from a no watch to a watch, a year later I’m over 40 and got my ears pierced. Yes I got comments, that I planned for and I decided it represented me, everyone else needed to accept it or catch up. I now shop all departments and my next step is carrying a bag outside the small box of what is acceptable in main stream men’s wear.

@Maeve.suzuki 2 months ago

If you’re adjusting your style due to fear of judgement..you’re trying too hard. If you look like you’re trying too hard most of the time youre actually not trying

@suppifier6692 2 months ago (edited)

I do see where you are coming from. Confidence can determine the line between an odd outfit and a random collection of clothes. I still feel however that its too broad to make that statement because there are some outfits that objecyively speaking look terrible regardless of confidence.

Everyone has photos of themselves where they think they got that thang on (lol) ony to look back 5/6 years later to ask themselves "How the hell did i leave the house like that" . I think i would amend your thesis to say:

Confidence always improves an outfit ,no matter how small the effect, however theres only so much it can do

@Bargain_bin_villain 1 month ago

Yea, the size 50 on you is fire

@tm-stn 2 months ago

Coat looks smart.

@RenBroc 3 weeks ago (edited)

When Bowie put out The Man Who Sold the Future album in 1971 he was wearing a dress. Scandal? So cool that it gave me permission----I didn't want to wear a dress but I got the point, wear what you want, and if you are being yourself that's confidence. (Fidelity with yourself, literally.) But Bowie owes this to Little Richard, and there'd be no Prince without all of them before him. Style like confidence is infectious.

@KRTLyfe 2 months ago

Had a similar very similar experience. A few years back bought the Camden Car coat instant buyer’s remorse. Fast forward to today it’s my favorite and most worn coat. I use it from fall to spring and it’s so damn comfortable and versatile I sold a lot of coats I stopped wearing after purchasing the Burberry. And it still looks brand new after years of wearing. Zero regrets now, but when I got it I wasn’t sure I would be able to pull it off.