I Lived in 3 Countries in 6 Years and This Is What I Learned
Bethari Abianti
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Have you ever changed your life on the outside, only to find yourself feeling stuck on the inside?
Maybe you moved somewhere new, changed careers, walked away from an old version of yourself, or thought a fresh start would finally make everything feel right. But what happens when you change your circumstances and still have the same questions about who you are and where you belong?
After living in Indonesia, London, and the United States, I've learned that starting over can change you in ways you never expected. But it can also teach you that a new environment can't solve everything you're carrying inside.
In this episode of The Heart Experiment, I share three lessons about identity, belonging, and finding stability when life doesn't go according to plan.
We explore why some of what you call your personality might actually be an adaptation to your environment, why you don't need everyone to understand your choices to feel secure in them, and how you can learn to trust yourself even when you don't know what comes next.
If you're feeling stuck in life and wondering whether it's time for a change, I hope this conversation helps you figure out what you actually need—not just what you think you should change.
Because sometimes, starting over isn't about finding the perfect life. It's about learning to trust yourself in the life you're building.
What are you hoping a fresh start will give you?
Timestamps:
00:00 Why You Feel Stuck in Life
00:58 Do You Need to Change Your Life or Your Perspective?
02:00 How Your Environment Shapes Your Personality
06:57 Who Are You at Your Best?
08:31 Why You Can't Outsource Belonging
11:58 When Your Family Doesn't Understand Your Choices
14:09 Are You Looking for a Better Life or a Life Without Discomfort?
16:05 Rethinking Stability When You're Starting Over
18:24 Learning to Trust Yourself Through Uncertainty
20:27 Building Confidence Without Knowing What's Next
22:26 What Living in 3 Countries Taught Me
23:32 One Question to Ask Before Changing Your Life
#StartingOver #SelfDiscovery #PersonalGrowth
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I Lived in 3 Countries in 6 Years and This Is What I Learned
Bethari Abianti
41 views
Have you ever changed your life on the outside, only to find yourself feeling stuck on the inside?
Maybe you moved somewhere new, changed careers, walked away from an old version of yourself, or thought a fresh start would finally make everything feel right. But what happens when you change your circumstances and still have the same questions about who you are and where you belong?
After living in Indonesia, London, and the United States, I've learned that starting over can change you in ways you never expected. But it can also teach you that a new environment can't solve everything you're carrying inside.
In this episode of The Heart Experiment, I share three lessons about identity, belonging, and finding stability when life doesn't go according to plan.
We explore why some of what you call your personality might actually be an adaptation to your environment, why you don't need everyone to understand your choices to feel secure in them, and how you can learn to trust yourself even when you don't know what comes next.
If you're feeling stuck in life and wondering whether it's time for a change, I hope this conversation helps you figure out what you actually need—not just what you think you should change.
Because sometimes, starting over isn't about finding the perfect life. It's about learning to trust yourself in the life you're building.
What are you hoping a fresh start will give you?
Timestamps:
00:00 Why You Feel Stuck in Life
00:58 Do You Need to Change Your Life or Your Perspective?
02:00 How Your Environment Shapes Your Personality
06:57 Who Are You at Your Best?
08:31 Why You Can't Outsource Belonging
11:58 When Your Family Doesn't Understand Your Choices
14:09 Are You Looking for a Better Life or a Life Without Discomfort?
16:05 Rethinking Stability When You're Starting Over
18:24 Learning to Trust Yourself Through Uncertainty
20:27 Building Confidence Without Knowing What's Next
22:26 What Living in 3 Countries Taught Me
23:32 One Question to Ask Before Changing Your Life
#StartingOver #SelfDiscovery #PersonalGrowth