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How to Not Look Like a Jackass in Court with Judge Mary Evans @maryevans1284

Rebecca Zung

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Family Court Secrets Revealed: What Judges REALLY Look For in Custody & Divorce Cases

What actually happens behind closed doors in family court? In this eye-opening conversation, a former family law attorney sits down with a family court judge to discuss how judges evaluate evidence, determine credibility, make custody decisions, and what mistakes can destroy a case.

If you're facing a divorce, custody battle, co-parenting dispute, or navigating family court as a self-represented litigant (pro se), this interview provides valuable insight into how judges think and what can impact the outcome of your case.

In This Video:

• What family court judges look for when making decisions
• How credibility can make or break your case
• Why first impressions matter in the courtroom
• Common mistakes litigants make during divorce and custody disputes
• How emotional emails, texts, and communication can affect your case
• What judges consider when determining the best interests of a child
• The importance of documentation and evidence
• How self-represented litigants can improve their chances in court
• What attorneys wish their clients understood before trial
• Real insights into the family court process from the judge's perspective

Key Takeaways
✅ Stay focused on facts, not emotions
✅ Document everything
✅ Be prepared and organized
✅ Understand how credibility is established
✅ Learn what judges actually consider important
✅ Avoid common courtroom mistakes
✅ Present evidence clearly and effectively

Who Should Watch?

• Parents involved in custody disputes
• Individuals going through divorce
• Self-represented litigants (Pro Se)
• Family law attorneys
• Co-parents navigating high-conflict situations
• Anyone interested in understanding the family court system

Chapters

00:00 Introduction
02:15 Meet the Judge
06:30 How Judges Evaluate Cases
12:45 Why Credibility Matters
18:20 First Impressions in Court
24:10 Common Mistakes Litigants Make
31:45 Emotional Communications & Evidence
39:20 Documentation That Strengthens Your Case
46:30 Custody Decisions & Best Interests of the Child
55:10 Self-Represented Litigants: What Works
01:03:15 Courtroom Behavior & Professionalism
01:11:40 What Judges Wish Litigants Knew
01:19:30 Final Advice for Family Court Success
01:25:00 Closing Thoughts

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20 Comments

@RebeccaZungEsq Creator 3 months ago Pinned

Knowing how judges evaluate evidence can completely change your approach. 🔥💯

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@KnitPersonal 3 months ago

This is deeply disturbing. People are being judged on their appearance, demeanor, and how they present themselves in front of a judge. If someone becomes emotional, nervous, or struggles to explain themselves clearly, it can count against them. Yet individuals with psychopathic or narcissistic traits are often skilled at appearing calm, confident, charming, and persuasive.

What is even more concerning is the suggestion that judges may not always have the time to thoroughly review all of the paperwork and evidence before making decisions. If that is true, it raises serious questions about fairness and due process.

The whole process can feel incredibly subjective. Life-changing decisions should be based on facts, evidence, and careful examination of the circumstances, not on who happens to present themselves most confidently in a courtroom. It is a troubling system, and frankly, it is difficult not to feel outraged by it.

@SKBottom 1 month ago

My lawyer friends have always told me that the worst judges become Family Court judges.

This tracks.

@Exod365 3 months ago

what I was taught growing up is definitely not what I experienced. I lost trust in the process

@Spider_7_7 1 month ago

“A judge is a lawyer who grades his own exam papers.” HL Mencken

@Sissan56 1 month ago (edited)

In a brutal divorce after 34 years with a covert narcissist. Apparently it’s the same problems with the justice system all over the world regarding these people. My husband is not only a narcissist but a lawyer. Which makes him an exceptional abuser of the system, and therefore me!🇳🇴

@FlowerShopGirl8 1 month ago

1 minute in and MY first impression of the judge is she's wanting to create a an afternoon picnic vibe by the way she's dressed.

@pamelawarner6896 1 month ago

Well said knitpersonal. This has been happening for years. The system needs an overhaul away from the expert gravy train and onto professional accountability not based in self regulation.

Parents caught in the mayhem need at least to be warned how inadequate the system is.

@pamelawarner6896 3 months ago

Why is it considered OK for a judge dealing with the long term welfare o children to have such a high case load?

@mrs.becomes1234 3 months ago (edited)

It’s surprising that a judge would form such opinions about people they don’t know; making false judgments about someone is quite interesting.

@kellydoolittle6964 1 month ago (edited)

Very sad to hear a judge say cheating / adultery doesn’t matter, because you don’t know why they cheated??? Adultery for a year and half to a SAHM of your children … wow! It’s almost like the judge is saying the wife must’ve caused it if the husband was cheating. she must have caused the affair by doing something or not do something he wanted. To me this is unacceptable if he wants to cheat go get a divorce before!!! don’t do it behind their back and say that’s ok, he must have a good reason for doing it?? . That’s just wrong.

@MrMrmetro 2 months ago

Don't get me started on family law. It's the red-headed stepchild of the DOJ. They never check their work. Not one of them bothers to follow even one of their rulings for the next ten to fifteen years to see the outcome of a pattern of decisions that they make.

That is why it is broken. They never have to clean up the mess that their decisions make. I have observed the wrong parent consistently get the majority of custody time in so many cases.

@rrdp2 1 month ago

So heartbreaking for the children.

@JMurei 3 months ago

A colleague once told me that within the legal field, family lawyers are universally hated, even by all other types of lawyers. I watched the first 21 minutes of this video, and I can describe what I see as two arrogant individuals who are clueless of the hell they put people through. If the universe is just, there’s likely a special section in the hot place for people who make a living in family law.

@CallsItLikeISeizeIts 1 month ago (edited)

And that’s why you do everything to not walk in the courtroom 🤨. No one knows what bias, attitude or good day bad day that judge is having. I saw one dismiss any DUI in 5 seconds, but throw someone who flicked a butt out a window in jail,for 72 hours. Avoid at all costs and control your own destiny, a judge is a wild card.

@Douevenliftbro6 1 month ago

And lady shut up we want to hear the judge speak 🤣🤣🤣

@daniellefielding924 1 month ago

Thank you for your time and effort.

@KS-sd3ih 1 month ago (edited)

I do remember the judge saying he didn’t read my motion… my ex took me to court so much the judge would go over my response with me and edit it like I was in class and tell us to come back… I was so tired of being in court…it felt like a game.. my ex would take me back and I’d have to respond… my ex had kidnapped my son… it felt like the judge was trying to make me learn law and be responsible for my sons dad… I was taking law classes to help but it just was a waste of my time. My son was being neglected and I was being forced to do legal paperwork instead of being a mother…

@User0player1 2 months ago

People that work in the legal fields seem rather Disturbed.

@LarryBrunelle-f2q 2 months ago

Everything I hear so far, about 10 minutes in, tells me that a good and just result in such a court is a crap shoot, even assuming the highest competence and probity of the judge. Too many cases, insufficient briefing. And HOW can we have a court without any juries?
Can't assign any more time to this.