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Why She Comes Back Months After She Leaves You (3–6 Month Timeline)

Dimi Herath

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In this video I break down the real timeline and psychology behind why women come back after a breakup when they were the one who ended things

Most men think it is random but there is actually a pattern. At first she goes through a distraction phase where she is out with friends, getting attention, and avoiding the inner work. But over time when you have pulled back, stopped giving attention, and focused on yourself, everything starts to shift

I explain
What happens in the first few months after the breakup
Why she avoids doing the inner work and feeds the ego
How reality and emotional baggage catches up
Why she starts to feel the loss once you detach
Why she reaches out months later when she realises what she lost

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20 Comments

@DimiHerath Creator 5 months ago Pinned

If she left you… I know exactly where your head is at right now.

You’re wondering if she’ll come back, what she’s doing, and if you messed it up.

Truth is, this is the phase where you either stay stuck thinking about her… or you rebuild yourself and take your power back.

Everything I’ve spoken about in this video, I’ve been through myself and seen with clients too.

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@pedrosilva9497 3 months ago

It amazes me how most of us, are from different countries, speak different languages, and yet, our problems are the same and we try to protect each other. This is brotherhood at it's peak.

@HansH-kw2er 4 months ago

She is gone, just move on!

@pakistani.0077 3 weeks ago

attraction and trying to convince someone to want you are two very different things. thats where the marcus veyne rabbit hole gets interesting

@pakistani.0077 3 weeks ago

whats crazy is i thought i was dealing with mixed signals. after the hidden rules of attachment by maya ellison i started seeing it as a structure who pulls away who chases who waits. once you notice that a lot of old conversations look different

@BenDoodles 3 months ago

Insecure attached women go from relationship to relationship always never satisfied and end up alone…fellas you will win in the end and attract a secure woman into your life.

@dledassilva4207 4 months ago

What a necessary video!
That’s exactly what happens — they see “perfect lives” on Instagram and start comparing themselves. Then their “friends” get into their heads and make them think they’ll easily move on. Later, after sleeping with a bunch of people, they come back thinking we’ll just accept them again. Guys, close the door. Don’t let what destroyed you come back into your life.

@ocelotrevolver674 3 months ago

you should have the mindset to encourage her to "find better" in your head, trust me theres a big chance she will not find the right man because she will start remember how you were always there for her, good love is hard to find and not every man is gonna be like you. she thinks she will get the exact same treatment, it's gonna be sahara desert out there lol

@os3688 4 months ago

Fully detached from this girl that insulted me and told me i didnt have what it takes to provide for a woman. I respectfully said I understand and hope she can find that in a man. 64 days later she asked how i was doing and appologized. I have no interest

@georgeclooney1293 3 months ago

I agree with most. But to advice all men/women not to come back with their ex no matter what does not sound right. It depends on the circumstances. If she/he sees all their mistakes and take accountability and do the therapy and the work to upgrade themselves, then a reunion could be possible, and the relation can be better than ever. Rare but possible

@explenator9423 4 months ago

Breakup after 8 years, 6months later we were back together. I proposed to her, together decided that we’ll have kids.
3 years later and she is gone again. Fuck comebacks.

@spiderjump 3 months ago

My ex gf left when I called her out on her disrespectful and manipulative behaviour. She thought I was going to chase but I just dropped out of her life after one brief conversation. Weeks later, mutual friends began to drop hints that she wanted to talk to me. I just nodded and smiled and did not say anything. I did not call . I had to tell mutual friends to stop telling me about my ex . Months later she called .. by that time I was over her.. refused to talk to her or meet her in person

@arcpulseh 4 months ago

Very accurate. My ex of 6 years left me 9/2024. We would hang out once or twice a month but she never wanted to consider getting back together so I said, hit me up when you want to work on things. A year and half later, she hits me up and says she made a huge mistake. Unfortunately. It was too late. I drastically improved my life and am dating a new girl. I wished her the best and hope she will be okay but I cannot back track and go back to someone who doesnt know what they want.

@ln6494 4 months ago

7 months of genuine no contact, no social media interaction, no clue about her life, no expectations at all. Modern dating is full of strategy becareful where you give your time and attention.

@DeronGordon 4 months ago

This man is saving is saving lives

@MudassirYaseen-b7v 3 weeks ago

someone coming back after you stop chasing raises another question. do they miss you or the attention? thats the kind of marcus veyne discussion worth having

@kc_rockaholic6220 3 months ago

I concur with the dude here. If your girlfriend leaves you and she has an intimate relationship with another man before she then begs for you back, I highly discourage you from accepting her back. That’s some nasty work from a girl. She is tainted at that point.

@sarthakjain139 3 months ago

I broke up with my girl when i came to knew she cheated on me with her ex at a weeding of a common friend i was initially emotional that things happened and i might give her a chance but then i reminded myself that she is not worthy of my care love and protection she always wanted to keep all options alive let her keep those but i am now out of her reach and range

@AmirulFaiq-rg6gd 10 days ago

They came back only because they failed to replace you. Never take them back or you will regret it.

@DrKeez 3 months ago

I'm with this guy on the rebound intimacy thing. I took one back who had done so and at first during our 2nd honeymoon stage you overlook it. Then when the dopamine wears off you will often find yourself imagining her with him...what positions did they do...did she enjoy him better than me...how often did they do it...etc etc etc. It has the potential to become a phycological nightmare for you in the long run. I she admits to it (some won't), don't take her back. Trust me.