Кто должен платить на свидании?
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This analysis covers the origins of the date and why the norm of "the man pays" is barely a hundred years old; how courtship was paid for in an Olonetsky hut in 1897; why restaurant dates never caught on in a Soviet city; what a dinner bill really amounts to—and why today the entire partner test has been squeezed into one evening.
TIMESTAMPS
00:36 I. The History of the Date
03:46 Katie Pace: New York City Working Women
04:43 Treating and Charity Girls
06:02 II. The Village: Gatherings on Kulikovsky
08:41 "Sexual": Paying for the Right to Sit Down
11:43 III. A City Where Knowledge Remains
12:07 Market and the Department
13:09 Komsomol, Accordion, and the House of Culture
13:56 Kharchev: Where 500 Couples Met
15:29 Shortage, Nepotism, and the Cost Signal
16:54 IV. What a Bill Buys
17:10 A Couple as a Life Support Unit
17:55 Trivers: The Price of Mistake
18:45 Waller: Campus Rating
21:24 Shalashnik and a Series of Attempts
22:57 V. Who Pays: Dating Apps
23:47 The Solution to the Five Percent
24:02 Why a Bill Is Heavier Than Before
24:47 VI. The Abandoned Couple
25:08 Wednesday Has Cooled Down
25:37 Questionnaires from 1981 and 1988
26:41 The Internet Has Overtaken Friends
27:17 Who Paid for Wednesday and Why Did They Stop?
28:57 The Couple — a Public Good
30:18 VII. Finale: Nash Equilibrium
31:45 Sources
Previous video — "Why Don't We Have Children?": [link]
SOURCES
VTsIOM. The Economics of Romantic Dates. Analytical Review, July 1, 2025
Bailey, B. L. From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth-Century America. Johns Hopkins UP, 1988
Peiss, K. Cheap Amusements: Working Women and Leisure in Turn-of-the-Century New York. Temple UP, 1986
Fourth Report of the Factory Investigating Commission. Albany, 1915. App. III, p. 403
Kulikovsky, G. I., From the Communal-Artel Life of the Olonetsky Region. Petrozavodsk, 1897
USSR Population Censuses 1926–1989 (Demoscope Weekly)
Slezin, A. A., Bezgin, V. B., “The Activities of Rural Komsomol Members in the 1920s to Overcome the “Vestiges of the Past”” // Nauchny Dialog. 2024. Vol. 13, No. 3
Kharchev, A. G., Marriage and Family in the USSR. 2nd ed. Moscow: Mysl, 1979
Kaplan, H. et al., “A Theory of Human Life History Evolution” // Evolutionary Anthropology. 2000. 9(4)
Trivers R. L. Parental Investment and Sexual Selection // Sexual Selection and the Descent of Man, 1871–1971. Aldine, 1972
Waller W. The Rating and Dating Complex // American Sociological Review. 1937. 2(5)
Efimenko P. S. Materials on the Ethnography of the Russian Population of Arkhangelsk Province. Part 1. Moscow, 1877
Zahavi A. Mate Selection — A Selection for a Handicap // J. Theor. Biol. 1975. Vol. 53
Grafen A. Biological Signals as Handicaps // J. Theor. Biol. 1990. Vol. 144
Bruch E. E., Newman M. E. J. Aspirational Pursuit of Mates in Online Dating Markets // Science Advances. 2018. 4(8)
Tyson G. et al. A First Look at User Activity on Tinder // ASONAM 2016
Zayonchkovskaya Zh. A. Rural-Urban Migration as a Geographical and Political Phenomenon // Demoscope Weekly. 2021. No. 923–924
Archival Bank of the Information System of the Federal Research Center of the Russian Academy of Sciences: Studies No. 050 (1981) and No. 349 "Work and Family" (1988)
Rosenfeld M. J., Thomas R. J., Hausen S. Disintermediating Your Friends // PNAS. 2019. 116(36)
Nash J. F. Equilibrium Points in n-Person Games // PNAS. 1950. 36(1)
Images: Library of Congress, Missouri Historical Society, DPLA, Internet Archive, Wikimedia Commons. The remaining engraving-style illustrations were created using a neural network.
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Кто должен платить на свидании?
Corvantua
25,162 views
This analysis covers the origins of the date and why the norm of "the man pays" is barely a hundred years old; how courtship was paid for in an Olonetsky hut in 1897; why restaurant dates never caught on in a Soviet city; what a dinner bill really amounts to—and why today the entire partner test has been squeezed into one evening.
TIMESTAMPS
00:36 I. The History of the Date
03:46 Katie Pace: New York City Working Women
04:43 Treating and Charity Girls
06:02 II. The Village: Gatherings on Kulikovsky
08:41 "Sexual": Paying for the Right to Sit Down
11:43 III. A City Where Knowledge Remains
12:07 Market and the Department
13:09 Komsomol, Accordion, and the House of Culture
13:56 Kharchev: Where 500 Couples Met
15:29 Shortage, Nepotism, and the Cost Signal
16:54 IV. What a Bill Buys
17:10 A Couple as a Life Support Unit
17:55 Trivers: The Price of Mistake
18:45 Waller: Campus Rating
21:24 Shalashnik and a Series of Attempts
22:57 V. Who Pays: Dating Apps
23:47 The Solution to the Five Percent
24:02 Why a Bill Is Heavier Than Before
24:47 VI. The Abandoned Couple
25:08 Wednesday Has Cooled Down
25:37 Questionnaires from 1981 and 1988
26:41 The Internet Has Overtaken Friends
27:17 Who Paid for Wednesday and Why Did They Stop?
28:57 The Couple — a Public Good
30:18 VII. Finale: Nash Equilibrium
31:45 Sources
Previous video — "Why Don't We Have Children?": [link]
SOURCES
VTsIOM. The Economics of Romantic Dates. Analytical Review, July 1, 2025
Bailey, B. L. From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth-Century America. Johns Hopkins UP, 1988
Peiss, K. Cheap Amusements: Working Women and Leisure in Turn-of-the-Century New York. Temple UP, 1986
Fourth Report of the Factory Investigating Commission. Albany, 1915. App. III, p. 403
Kulikovsky, G. I., From the Communal-Artel Life of the Olonetsky Region. Petrozavodsk, 1897
USSR Population Censuses 1926–1989 (Demoscope Weekly)
Slezin, A. A., Bezgin, V. B., “The Activities of Rural Komsomol Members in the 1920s to Overcome the “Vestiges of the Past”” // Nauchny Dialog. 2024. Vol. 13, No. 3
Kharchev, A. G., Marriage and Family in the USSR. 2nd ed. Moscow: Mysl, 1979
Kaplan, H. et al., “A Theory of Human Life History Evolution” // Evolutionary Anthropology. 2000. 9(4)
Trivers R. L. Parental Investment and Sexual Selection // Sexual Selection and the Descent of Man, 1871–1971. Aldine, 1972
Waller W. The Rating and Dating Complex // American Sociological Review. 1937. 2(5)
Efimenko P. S. Materials on the Ethnography of the Russian Population of Arkhangelsk Province. Part 1. Moscow, 1877
Zahavi A. Mate Selection — A Selection for a Handicap // J. Theor. Biol. 1975. Vol. 53
Grafen A. Biological Signals as Handicaps // J. Theor. Biol. 1990. Vol. 144
Bruch E. E., Newman M. E. J. Aspirational Pursuit of Mates in Online Dating Markets // Science Advances. 2018. 4(8)
Tyson G. et al. A First Look at User Activity on Tinder // ASONAM 2016
Zayonchkovskaya Zh. A. Rural-Urban Migration as a Geographical and Political Phenomenon // Demoscope Weekly. 2021. No. 923–924
Archival Bank of the Information System of the Federal Research Center of the Russian Academy of Sciences: Studies No. 050 (1981) and No. 349 "Work and Family" (1988)
Rosenfeld M. J., Thomas R. J., Hausen S. Disintermediating Your Friends // PNAS. 2019. 116(36)
Nash J. F. Equilibrium Points in n-Person Games // PNAS. 1950. 36(1)
Images: Library of Congress, Missouri Historical Society, DPLA, Internet Archive, Wikimedia Commons. The remaining engraving-style illustrations were created using a neural network.