Intensität & Trauma: Lerne, als Alien im unspektakulären Leben zu landen
Julia Krawitz
6,796 views
If you grew up in a toxic environment, your home planet was probably the "Planet of Intensity." Chronic alarm, drama, constant high tension, and emotional roller coasters are seared into your nervous system early on—and often continue seamlessly into narcissistic relationships later in life. Intensity becomes your native language.
Anyone who breaks free from this system suddenly lands on a completely new planet: in the calm, uneventful waters of normal life. But for a traumatized nervous system, silence and predictability don't initially feel like a respite, but rather like a hostile, alien land. You stand there like an alien who has to painstakingly learn the language of peace, letter by letter.
In this video, I talk about:
Why chronic intensity in childhood calibrates your nervous system for constant activation
How narcissism and drama in adulthood keep this dynamic alive
Why you initially feel like an alien in true peace
Why we often attract people who simply speak the familiar language of intensity
How you can practice living a safe, unspectacular life, step by step
#ComplexTrauma #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse #TraumaHealing #NervousSystem #PeoplePleasing #Cptsd #SelfCare
If you recognize yourself in this video and feel that you've lost yourself, are constantly trying to fit in, or are missing out on your vitality:
→ Here you can find my services and coaching: https://juliakrawitz.com/trainings/
My work isn't about overthinking yourself. It's about reconnecting with your body, feeling yourself, and gradually letting go of old survival patterns – living and working with dignity and self-determination.
Psychology meets theater.
Reversing self-loss.
Embodying vitality.
🩷 My book: "Where Were You, My Heart? – From the Fog of Toxic Relationships Back to Yourself and Your Vitality"
→ Get the book here: https://juliakrawitz.com/buecher/
If you'd like to receive regular inspiration for more vitality, self-connection, and inner freedom:
→ Sign up for my newsletter here: https://juliakrawitz.com/newsletter/
Note: The term "narcissism" is not used on this channel as a medical or psychiatric diagnosis. From the perspective of survivors of toxic relationships, it describes people who consistently exhibit certain harmful behaviors over extended periods. The goal is to give survivors of these dynamics a voice to process their experiences, regain trust in their own perceptions, and find their way back to themselves.
Important note: The content is intended solely for psychological education and guidance. It does not replace individual psychological, psychotherapeutic, or medical advice or treatment.
20 Comments
Ich höre dir gerne zu, du wirkst auf mich beruhigend, was Körper und Seele gut tut. Danke für deine Arbeit.
Liebe Grüsse aus der Schweiz.
Unsere ganze Gesellschaft hat die Zeiten 1. und 2. Weltkrieg „über“-lebt, aber tatsächlich aufgearbeitet??
… Und dann kommt da noch ein „fremdes“ Kind in meine Herkunftsfamilie. -
Drama!!
Danke Julia Deine Klarheit!
🙏💐
Diese ist kontraindiziert, wenn die Reaktion des Nervensystems auf (frühkindlichen) Stress der sogenannte Freeze-Zustand ist, das heißt das Totstellen. Hier braucht es dann eine Aktivierung durch verstärkte (innere und äußere) Bewegung.
Ziel sollte ja in beiden Fällen eine flexible Schwingungsfähigkeit des Nervensystems sein, mit der es auch immer wieder zu einer goldenen Mitte zurückkehren kann.
Ich denke, diese Schwingungsfähigkeit ist das, was du als wahrhaftige Lebendigkeit bezeichnest.
Balsam für die Seele...10 Jahre.. Beziehung geht langsam zu Ende..es Schlimste daran nicht diesen Entzug...Sucht nach Intensität..
Sondern ich weiß nicht wie ich war vor der Beziehung...
Ich hoffe ich kriege es mit der Zeit alles hin... Danke ❤🙏
Ich würde gerne ergänzen, da nur Narzissmus erwähnt wird, dass Impulsivität, schwarz-weiß denken und die Suche nach extremen ( Dopamin) auch Hauptsypthome bei ADHS/ Autismus Spektrums"Störung" sind!!!
wie ist das mit VERDECKTEN Narzissten, die sind so stumpf und langweilig , langsame Schleicher sie setzen null Energie ein, null Aktion ...sie sind muffelig - keine Intensität- nicht mal Aktivität ...faul bequem , abwesend - sind so still dass man verzweifelt ...man muss bei ihnen für zwei Personen die Lebendigkeit und Aktion bereitstellen... man trifft immer auf gähnende Leere was Aktion und Intensität angeht.. -- man wünscht sich da mehr Intensität - und wäre glücklich und froh mit mehr Intensität und Aktiviät . Wenn man aus diesem Modus kommt....wünscht man sich in was sprühend lebendiges intensives ...das Leben mal spüren.
Wie geht man da vor ?
Intensität & Trauma: Lerne, als Alien im unspektakulären Leben zu landen
Julia Krawitz
6,796 views
If you grew up in a toxic environment, your home planet was probably the "Planet of Intensity." Chronic alarm, drama, constant high tension, and emotional roller coasters are seared into your nervous system early on—and often continue seamlessly into narcissistic relationships later in life. Intensity becomes your native language.
Anyone who breaks free from this system suddenly lands on a completely new planet: in the calm, uneventful waters of normal life. But for a traumatized nervous system, silence and predictability don't initially feel like a respite, but rather like a hostile, alien land. You stand there like an alien who has to painstakingly learn the language of peace, letter by letter.
In this video, I talk about:
Why chronic intensity in childhood calibrates your nervous system for constant activation
How narcissism and drama in adulthood keep this dynamic alive
Why you initially feel like an alien in true peace
Why we often attract people who simply speak the familiar language of intensity
How you can practice living a safe, unspectacular life, step by step
#ComplexTrauma #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse #TraumaHealing #NervousSystem #PeoplePleasing #Cptsd #SelfCare
If you recognize yourself in this video and feel that you've lost yourself, are constantly trying to fit in, or are missing out on your vitality:
→ Here you can find my services and coaching: https://juliakrawitz.com/trainings/
My work isn't about overthinking yourself. It's about reconnecting with your body, feeling yourself, and gradually letting go of old survival patterns – living and working with dignity and self-determination.
Psychology meets theater.
Reversing self-loss.
Embodying vitality.
🩷 My book: "Where Were You, My Heart? – From the Fog of Toxic Relationships Back to Yourself and Your Vitality"
→ Get the book here: https://juliakrawitz.com/buecher/
If you'd like to receive regular inspiration for more vitality, self-connection, and inner freedom:
→ Sign up for my newsletter here: https://juliakrawitz.com/newsletter/
Note: The term "narcissism" is not used on this channel as a medical or psychiatric diagnosis. From the perspective of survivors of toxic relationships, it describes people who consistently exhibit certain harmful behaviors over extended periods. The goal is to give survivors of these dynamics a voice to process their experiences, regain trust in their own perceptions, and find their way back to themselves.
Important note: The content is intended solely for psychological education and guidance. It does not replace individual psychological, psychotherapeutic, or medical advice or treatment.