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4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive

Dom Sub Living

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Are you the sub you want to be? Dive into the 4 key pillars that separate a good sub from a great one in this video. Uncover exactly how submissives can better serve their Dominants. This video is packed with actionable tips for enhancing your submission in your D/s relationships. To elevate your submission even more, be sure to grab our "How to Be a Good Sub Cheat Sheet"!

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00:00 Intro: What Makes a Great Sub
00:26 Podcast Welcome & Overview
01:00 Funny Story About Being a “Brat”
01:55 Episode Goal: Improving as a Sub
02:14 Pillar 1: Communication
02:41 Why Communication Matters
03:10 What to Communicate (Desires, Limits, Feedback)
03:40 Weekly Check-Ins
04:06 Asking Permission to Speak Freely
04:33 Journaling as a Communication Tool
05:27 Processing Emotions Through Writing
06:03 Using Journaling Before Conversations
07:11 Listening as Part of Communication
07:53 Pillar 2: Personal Growth
08:06 Why Self-Growth Matters
08:41 Avoiding Over-Reliance on Your Dom
09:19 Building Self-Awareness
09:49 Growth Outside the Dynamic
10:16 Goals, Hobbies, and Independence
11:03 Becoming More Well-Rounded
11:30 Pillar 3: Letting Go of Control
11:56 Bratting vs Control Issues
12:18 Why Letting Go is Difficult
12:37 Building Trust Through Consistency
13:07 The Freedom in Letting Go
13:54 Supporting Your Dom’s Confidence
14:59 Avoiding Taking Control Back
15:17 Pillar 4: Proactive Service
16:04 Anticipating Needs & Daily Acts
17:09 Building Rituals & Habits
18:18 Asking How to Serve Better
18:49 Recap: The Four Pillars
19:21 Closing Thoughts & Outro

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20 Comments

@DomSubLiving Creator 1 year ago Pinned

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@philipdevine2465 1 year ago

I attempted to seve my dom proactively and she verbally disciplined me severely for presuming to know her mind and her desires.
She explained to me that my job was not to think, but to obey and serve.
Every Dom is different. There are probably many Dom's who would like to be served proactive,but mine definitely doesn't!😊
Best to check first.

@Ulvdronning 2 years ago

I love the people who tell on themselves by commenting that they hate the lifestyle when they literally had to have the algorithm bring them here lol

@mysticgothmama6796 1 year ago

My husband and I are new to D/s dynamics and this is very helpful for me! We're both switches but currently I'm finding myself more interested in submission so I'm glad I found this.

@Mezcon2 1 year ago (edited)

What you said about giving up control and getting freed up thinking space is why I love this dynamic so much with my Domme. For so long relationships went wrong for me because I had to have control because society told me I had to and I would do things wrong constantly and always end up single, until I meet my Mommy Dom. She’s amazing.

@DannyLanders-k7z 1 year ago

You really got me with “How can I serve you better?”. I love that!❤

@crazyguywatchnu 11 months ago

"If you are constantly taking things back from your dominant it is discouraging to them"

Jesus this so much.

@americanpatriot4170 3 weeks ago

Isn’t this part of negotiating and vetting each other. I happen to enjoy my girl knowing me so well too, that we know what each other’s turn ons are and she presents them to me. It’s definitely a hot way of communicating without words.

@billbreneman3053 1 month ago

I love how, right at the beginning of your video, you used the term, "practitioner". This is absolutely terrific - as both the Dominant and submissive (at least in theory) should be "practitioners" of their roles. Why that term? Because both should be constantly practicing at getting better in their respective roles/responsibilities. "Practicing" also alludes to constant, consistent effort - which is deeply needed in any relationship dynamic, but especially in a D/s one. Well said!

@RavenmoreStudios 1 year ago

I’m so glad I found your page.
I’ve been struggling to find a way to talk to my Domme and express to her my feelings about how I love being her sissy slave! Thank you so much!!

@shushens 10 months ago

I was always curious if I could get into this dynamic. But honestly, I find it exhausting. Every time I look into this, it looks this this dynamic would take over everything if I let it, including my work life. That stops me from engaging with potential submissive partners, whose personalities would otherwise be a really good fit. The more control they relinquish, the more of my time it will take.

@HeatherNeese-o5u 1 year ago

I love my dom he understands my needs so well ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@tanaayotte 2 years ago (edited)

I'm very new to this and I love your videos. They're very helpful to me trying to start out as a submissive. But what I find fascinating is in the of this beginning of video is that your dominant wanted to know what you were recording and you told him and that you would probably get in trouble later and have to be disciplined. That puzzles me because you always are so graceful and calm and soft spoken and polite. You never say anything damaging or inconsiderate at all ever so I'm very curious that's why you would say that you are extremely respectful.