First OP's wife clearly settled for him because he was the nice guy she could settle with. She had her hose era and wanted to get married before 30. And since she just settled and wasn't as attracted to OP before, she figured she didn't have to do anything extra for him to get his approval. She absolutely does enjoy those previous things, just not with the guy she settled for and isn't as attracted to.

His wife should do things he would like to try. It can’t just be about her. This is why women tell other women don’t let him leave the house with full balls

It's crazy to me that Reddit will tell someone to leave, shout it from the rooftops that he's a cheater and she should leave him, but then turn around and blame her when it turns out the evidence she had was faked. Like we've seen people on these stories refuse to admit they were cheating even when confronted with evidence. I don't think I would have recommended her to do anything differently. It just sucks.

How come nobody is talking about suing the neighbor in this story?!

Be careful what you wish for. My husband always was more up for spicy time than me. I started to make more effort and hit my stride and then he couldn't keep up and the poor guy was in over his head for 6 months 😂 he was absolutely exhausted 😂

If his wife did all those things before but doesnt with her husband, theres a problem with the wife. If she had attraction and love for her husband, she d be open to some things together, not rejecting him like she did.

Sounds like shes with him for what he provides

Husband is very insecure with his wife's past as much as he says otherwise. From past experiences, this will most likely not end well.

25:41 what is even more crazy that not only do we no longer live in a society where we can thrive on a single income, but we dont live in a socoety where having a two income household afford help with the house and also for some freaking reason our society absolutely demonizes multi generational living
I think the "you need to move out at 18 or youre a lazy bum" is just a scam to keep people poor.
If you get along with your family/parents its so much smarter. Like if the MIL did all the housework, doesnt work outside the home, keeps her rental income for whatever she wants, and they maybe like take care of their personal things like laundry and cleaning up their personal messes, this would be so ideal! Moms income is solely for her squandering, she just cooks and cleans up the house. They both work but dont have to over stress about dinner or groceries or general household cleaning just basic cleaning up after themselves and working and paying the bills.

30:47 omg when my dad was dying me at the time on and off bf said "well what do you expect me to do about it" when i called him. I jusy didnt want to be alone. I called a friend who immediately ahowed up in minutes to make sure i wasnt alone and then he continu3d to come over every night to make sure i was okau and that my brother didnt unalive himself (and that i didnt have to babysit him through it alone) AND NO we were not, are not, never have nor ever will be romantically involved. He is still my good friend and has come through for me in so many ways, so many times.
I immediately wanted nothing else to do with my shithead bf, we went from on and off to totally off and now hes fat and racist.

Her brother ruined the family more than the neighbor. 👍 good job

Story one: my soon to be husband ex wife left him so she could explore her s** life. Saying she married him too soon before she got to see what was out there.


While on the other hand, my best friend married her husband who was her first everything and they're in the best relationship I've ever seen. Yes, they have their ups and downs but they're going strong and will continue to do so.

Tell me why I got a spiderman ad immediately after Dakota mentioned the spiderman theme haha

Husband assaulted and the wife getting empathy. Another example of the skewed perspective here

First dude has some serious ugly duckling syndrome going on. He needs to reevaluate himself and what he wants in life. Having a good marriage is hard to find these days. The experiences might not be worth getting rid or jeopardizing that. But I understand the feeling of being unfulfilled. Eats some people up, causes mid life crises and shit.

You guys were too easy on the first OP. The comments from redditors were spot-on

FOMO is one hell of a drug. If my spouse shared stories of their sexual history with me, the last thing I would want to do is attempt to reenact them out of a warped sense of equality. Especially if it included pressuring them into performing sex acts they’re not comfortable with like OP and his wife.

Furthermore, maybe I’m leaning into this too much, but his language sounds a lot like sexual coercion. He basically threatened her with the notion of cheating or divorce if she didn’t immediately submit to fulfilling his sexual desires.
PSA: Coercion is a form of assault, please stay safe yall

for the second story, i do find it off that OP immediately took the “cheating” as truth and didn’t even rlly hear him out at any point before they found out about the neighbor if the husband had never previously had issues with infidelity but i absolutely think OP would’ve mentioned them if there were previous issues so i highly doubt there were. i can understand having a rash immediate reaction but OP immediately turning to shutting him down and not hearing him out wasn’t the right thing to do. i get her being upset at first but not hearing your spouse out when they’ve never done anything like this before is just not emotionally mature. esp when catfishing is a huge well known thing with exact situations like this. i do wonder if it could’ve been fixed despite her reaction if her brother didn’t get involved but the incident with her brother completely destroyed that. i think we kinda skipped over the fact that the brothers behavior is concerning and he clearly needs some sort of help or anger management if he has a history of acting that way. i hate a cheater more than anything, my mom cheated and abandoned our family for a married man but at no point despite all our anger even my dads did anyone get assaulted.

Riley is not in the same reality as everyone else

It’s funny how OP 1 did what ppl say all cheaters should’ve did instead of cheating. Op even said he don’t want to do it with other wm he want to do it with his wife. If he was a woman and did this she would be praised

4:50, I believe that this is called sublimation in psychology. My problem with that is that, having tried it when I was in FAR better shape than what I am now, it works but it doesn't. A hobby and the energy directed towards it, simply does not and can not replace sexual satisfaction.

I don't agree with OP and his resentment, however, I do understand it.

31:50 Leave and Let Live