6 Taoist Ways to Protect Your Energy From Draining People
The Quiet Monk
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Is there someone you need to lie down after talking to? Twenty minutes, nobody shouted, and you are empty. This video explains where it went.
Japanese has a word for that state: kizukare. Two characters — ki, inner energy, and exhaustion. The spirit worn out. It predates the word "toxic" by centuries and it is more precise.
But the name is not the point. The point is that you are not drained by bad people. You are drained by a one-way spend — and the person doing it may be lovely and may genuinely love you.
Six techniques, each resting on a line from the Tao Te Ching. Close the gates. Build a fence, not a wall. Know where to stop. Say little. Don't accept it. Change your own side, not theirs.
Section fifty-two puts it plainly: block the openings, close the gates, and to the end of your life you will not be worn out. Twenty-five centuries ago someone recorded the link between open gates and permanent exhaustion.
Plus the Buddha's answer to a man who stood there insulting him — four words, after which other people's rudeness stops reaching you.
Who came to mind while you were reading this? You don't have to tell them. Just know the answer yourself.
Disclaimer
The texts behind this video are read in more than one way: translators have disagreed over these lines of the Tao Te Ching for centuries, and what you heard is one reading. The story of the brahmin and the refused meal comes from the Pali canon and is retold here in my own words. To repeat a point the script itself makes: "not accepting" is not suppressing and not pretending it missed, and not everything said to you belongs back with the sender, because sometimes a rude sentence carries something true. And this is a conversation about everyday relationships, not about situations where someone is being genuinely harmed — those call for help rather than techniques, and seeking it is the sensible move. The images in this video were generated with AI and are used for illustrative purposes only.
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6 Taoist Ways to Protect Your Energy From Draining People
The Quiet Monk
304 views
Is there someone you need to lie down after talking to? Twenty minutes, nobody shouted, and you are empty. This video explains where it went.
Japanese has a word for that state: kizukare. Two characters — ki, inner energy, and exhaustion. The spirit worn out. It predates the word "toxic" by centuries and it is more precise.
But the name is not the point. The point is that you are not drained by bad people. You are drained by a one-way spend — and the person doing it may be lovely and may genuinely love you.
Six techniques, each resting on a line from the Tao Te Ching. Close the gates. Build a fence, not a wall. Know where to stop. Say little. Don't accept it. Change your own side, not theirs.
Section fifty-two puts it plainly: block the openings, close the gates, and to the end of your life you will not be worn out. Twenty-five centuries ago someone recorded the link between open gates and permanent exhaustion.
Plus the Buddha's answer to a man who stood there insulting him — four words, after which other people's rudeness stops reaching you.
Who came to mind while you were reading this? You don't have to tell them. Just know the answer yourself.
Disclaimer
The texts behind this video are read in more than one way: translators have disagreed over these lines of the Tao Te Ching for centuries, and what you heard is one reading. The story of the brahmin and the refused meal comes from the Pali canon and is retold here in my own words. To repeat a point the script itself makes: "not accepting" is not suppressing and not pretending it missed, and not everything said to you belongs back with the sender, because sometimes a rude sentence carries something true. And this is a conversation about everyday relationships, not about situations where someone is being genuinely harmed — those call for help rather than techniques, and seeking it is the sensible move. The images in this video were generated with AI and are used for illustrative purposes only.
Subscribe: @the-quiet-monk
DISCLAIMER: All content on this channel is for informational, educational, and analytical purposes only. The materials are created to provide information, broaden horizons, and discuss various ideas, approaches, and perspectives. The author does not call for any specific actions, does not provide individual recommendations, and does not guarantee specific results.
All examples, reasoning, and conclusions are presented in a generalized form and are intended for the viewer's independent reflection. This content does not constitute professional advice (medical, financial, legal, or otherwise). The viewer bears sole responsibility for the interpretation and use of this information. The opinions expressed in the videos are subjective and are presented within an educational context.