💚 If you're 3–6 months into grief, you're not necessarily supposed to just "wait it out." There are things you can do to begin moving forward.

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Grief is the love we still feel for our loved one and it never goes away.

The myth of closure - there are no stages to grief, it’s not some linear process. You don’t move on from it, you just move forward.

I unexpectedly lost my wife of 20 years four weeks ago last night.  She was 52.  Not liking this grief crap, not at all.  Never had experience with real grief before.  I'm reading, studying and watching video's to try and understand the process.  Joined a weekly grief group.  I'm ping ponging around the various stages that they talk about.  I don't really have the luxury of breaking down, we have a special needs child and I have to keep a calm and consistent environment for him.  While I'm busy I'm functional but when he's in school or asleep it does sneak up on me a bit.  Kim was always told that she couldn't have kids so our son was the center of her universe, her miracle.  If I don't give him as happy and normal a life as possible I wouldn't be surprised if she came down just to kick me where it counts.  

It does give me focus but also scares the crap out of me.  I've never been a fearful person, always was an adrenaline junkie.  But now I'm worried about getting hurt or sick because there is no backup to help care for our son or our pets.  My closest family is a 16 hour drive away.  I fell off of a 10' ladder onto our tile floor while changing light bulbs last year.  Ended up on crutches for 6 weeks.  I can't afford to have something like that happen now.  Not a fan of this fear either.  

I stopped smoking on Christmas Eve, Kim died on January 5th.  Talk about timing.  I don't miss the smoke or nicotine, that kind of stuff doesn't get to me.  I do very much miss taking the dog out with Kim and having a smoke and conversation.  Going out to a restaurant and grabbing a smoke and more conversation on the way to the car.  Grabbing a smoke and a chat before we went into  a store.  Haven't broken down and smoked, not going to since I'm the only caretaker for my son now.  But any time one of those smoke/conversation moments pop up it sure puts a lump in my throat.  

I miss our conversations, nobody on this planet knew me the way that she did.  She'd always giggle at my stupid Dad jokes, even if she'd heard them a dozen times before.  She was interested in the same books, the same entertainment, mostly the same music (she gets a strike for the disco and the rap), the same world events.  She'd always call me on my BS.  She knew when I needed a hug and when I needed to be kicked in the rear.  It's still hard to believe that this huge part of my life is over.  All the plans and dreams that we had.  All the things we were going to do together as old farts.  I always thought that I was pretty independent, I didn't really need people, never had a problem spending time alone.  Boy did that come back and bite me.

Can't believe that I'm mourning conversations that we'll never have.  We both got hooked on a book series called the Dresden Files when we first got together.  The author pumps our a new book every year or so, we'd both read them and have some great conversations about them.  He put out a new book over a year ago that had some major events take place that would completely change the series.  I've impatiently waited for over a year to talk to her about it, I didn't want to spoil any of the surprises.  Now we won't be having that conversation at all.  I get mourning memories of things that we did together, never thought it would include things that we hadn't gotten around to doing yet.

I lost my mom 2 months & 10 days ago, I can’t understand it and i can’t accept it. Life keeps moving and doesn’t even let me process the fact that I lost her. I don’t know how to accept this loss I miss her smile and laughs I miss everything about her. I can’t wait to be with her again 😔

Lost my wife 3 months ago after 57 years of being together....I am destroyed and can't imagine that I will ever be happy about anything again.  I love my wife so much , I can't wait to be with her when the Lord calls me home.

It's been 3 months since I lost my dad passed miss him more than anything he was my best friend he was 93 so sick of everyone saying he lived a great life

Mom died in February. The bad feeling is different than it was in the beginning but it’s still really strong. Struggling to find meaning in life without her in it but I keep trying. She lived with us for the last 5 years. I’ve canceled all her accounts but I still get mail for her regularly. Going through the mail is really hard now because I don’t knows what triggers are waiting for me in each pile. This is the most painful loss I’ve ever experienced. I miss normalcy so much.

I lost my dad and I was in shock and felt like I was getting past the new sting and rawness of it then my mom passed

Its been 3 months since losing my childhood dog of 17 years. I miss her. Im crying all of a sudden

I lost my precious childhood dog about 3 months ago. I always feel like he is coming back and I still can't believe I won't create new memories with him
I still cry or nearly cry everyday

He was my best friend

Right now, I’m only at month 2. Life has picked up and there is work to be done, children to take care of. I’m so sad though, thinking about all of the things that I won’t get to do with my dad, and they things that I wish I could reach out and talk to him about like we used to. The disbelief is the predominant feeling, and the only thing I really have is pictures and memories that keep me a little lifted.

Loss my wife for almost 23 years just over a month ago. Die 6 days befor my birtday n our 19th wedding anniversary. The hardest thing I had to deal with in my life.

The worst thing in grief is that nothing more makes sense after she is gone, life is not worth living...emptiness takes place of all my being.

It's been only 2 months.I'm in unimaginable pain..my world has just stopped. He was the love of my life
I dont know how to move forward! I stopped going to therapy bec I dont think they  understand the gravity and enormity of my loss

I’m grieving the loss of a relationship and just want the pain to go away. This is a fight.

I am five and a half years into grief. I never anticipated anything this devastating but I am slowly coming out of denial and beginning to become fully cognisant of my situation. This development makes grief almost unbearable as I acknowledge the full extent of my loss. I have accepted that my grief is permanent and probably won't get better unless something major happens in my life, and I get openly angry when people say how wonderfully I have coped!

I lost my mother 6 months ago... Thank you for this, it helps a lot...

I lost my wife from cancer in 2021 and five years later it is still painful to recall. Sometimes I can talk to people about it without feeling too bad and other times it brings tears to my eyes. The only  positive thought I have is that these five years of being sad and lonely are five years less to face of however many more years of life I have to live.

My mom died February of 2024 (this year).  It is now July and I am still not getting past any of this.  She died so quickly - she was dealing with beginning stages of dementia and was still mobile at home - then breaking her hip, finding out she had pancreatic cancer and was in hospice for a week before she died.  Within 3 weeks she was gone.  I hurt all over, can’t get back into any type of routine and most of my friends have ghosted me.  I’m drowning.