I like this new channel and format.

its definitely iffy trying to date someone where , if it fails, now youre stuck chronically seeing them every damn week lol. I feel like for me, maybe id go to the gym with friends and have a good time, seem social and laugh etc. Let her see me have a good time without her and that other people like me. Then later give it another shot, let the distance kinda soft reset the interaction a bit. Oddly for me alot of the girls i had the most impact on , i didnt really flirt with them but knew them for a few months and eventually they usually start to like me and its kinda easy.

This is why i dont like approaching random people, because its such an uphill battle, even if youre good looking. As much as i want to do the entire checklist a part of me wonders about the fact that women absolutely suck at reading if your a match or not, they kinda just are purely reactive. You basically have to spoon feed it. You cant be interesting, you have to show it, without them asking. Meaning, they dont even bother to get to know you, they just assume if you were interesting theyd inherently would know. You cant be smart and they'll pick up on it, you have to inject opportunities to spoonfeed everything about yourself.I dont like talking about myself.  IDK why but that to me always turns me off , i honestly feel like im talking to an NPC and i dont find that dynamic attractive, and therefore lose the motivation. If a girl sucks at texting and is just waiting for me to neurotically set every text up for a bigger thing, its just unnatural. Thats really my thing, i just hate feeling like i gotta pull all the strings. I lose attraction at that point. Maybe my issue is i dont find women interesting. I like their personality, if they are feminine, i like the femininity, the lightheartedness, but i kinda hate the fact they are so uninteresting. Its hard to put so much effort and planning into a person who hasnt shown any value, ok so she's cute but she sucks at conversations and loses interest if you arent constantly on the gas pedal. Then often the types of conversations she wants to have are kinda shallow. If you get into too much detail on anything, she is just silent, because she doesnt go that deep into anything herself, so you kinda have to just constantly entertain her, its not natural feeling. IDK.

To me if one harmless message is enough to get ghosted, then thats a sign that person youre talking to would utterly suck long term in a relationship and has no clue or patience on how to interact with another person in a meaningful way. If a guy were to do that to her, she'd probably move on and thinks she deserves better but she would be ok with doing it to a guy. Its just hard to ignore the hypocritical nature of women and their non existent standards. Its very hard for me to find that appealing. So I like women but i have a strong distaste for what seems like these shallow judgement calls they make on a whim. Imagine being in a relationship where just one thing is enough to kill all the momentum.  Women need dating coaches more than men IMO

State intent early ...are you single? Its hard but 3 words cuts through the games and misunderstandings. Takes seconds.

Super helpful

Hes right definitely a sticking point allot of us have. I still think if you get put in the friendzone it can help you understand how you got put in it in the first place by who your new friend dates also she can help you in meeting another women if shes open to that. My advice is if she doesn't want to help you meet someone else its specifically she just wants your attention. You need to say before hand how do you feel if i talk to another female if we are out. If she says thats fine her presence alone makes getting a date easier more than anywords you could say. So dont take the friendzone as a bad thing unless she specifically says she doesn't want you to talk to anyone else. Which is strange and plays a role in issues she may have with needing attention.