He destroyed the trees on someone else’s property that was worth a fortune, regardless if it was his parents and. The “kid” is still an adult, so if you’re gonna cut down 10 trees out of someone else’s yard with their money then yes getting kicked out for a while is very low.

He could sue his kid and send him to jail for cutting the trees down in those circumstances. It wasn't his property, he didn't get permission, he basically stole money by selling the trees and keeping the money. He's lucky his Dad punched him instead of prosecuting him.

First story: NTA on so many levels.
That money is for the nephew — full stop. It’s not for the new husband or the new kids to dip into.

As a twin myself. Not every single item needs to be created or purchased for each individual child, especially right away. They’re not gonna have fully formed personalities, likes, and dislikes for years. Let them share until they’re old enough to actually want their own stuff. By then, the nephew will probably be done with it anyway, so they can inherit the gear.
Simple, logical, and fair. End of discussion.

Cutting down trees could be a legal matter.  His son could get in serious trouble.

ST1: Nta clearly ex sil new husband is only with her for her son’s trust. Also op isn’t the unborn twins uncle so he owes ex sil nothing for them. Maybe the husband should work harder to provide instead of having ex sil asking for “favors.” The new husband sounds like an effing loser.

ST2: The son made such a bum move but learned his lesson lol. He definitely needed help and thankfully he got it. Good thing they offered him a job & good things came of it.

Sandalwood Trees that size would be worth a fortune! They’re heavily regulated because of how rare they are. It’s illegal to cut them down in Australia!

16:48 yeah in Canada trees are regulated on a provincial level so just cutting them down could get you in trouble lol

Regarding the sandalwood trees…

First, the trees were on father’s property, not anywhere else.
Second, The sandalwood trees were old growth and they are highly sought after.
Third, he was smart enough to know that, after all he made THIRTY FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS.
Thus I think kicking him out was mild.
It forced him to grow the hell up and face the consequences of his MASSIVELY WRONG DECISION!

Last story: the mom has zero right to get so sad when she rejected her daughter TWICE

19:49 nta the connection between biosiblings has zero to do with parents. Mum the  ah for not dealing with her guilt and trauma and projecting

S2: this family is messed up. For son to go this sideways in his sophomore year of high school means there is a dysfunction not being mentioned by op.

After update: as expected... that stated, holy crap! The issue was worse than i thought. That poor kid! Went back to the start of the story and yeah... wife was still in the picture at the time.

Destroying trees is a crime. In my country, you could get a fine and in some cases have to go to jail. Every tree still currently alive is a treasure. Kicking him out is NOT an a-hole move. Trauma is NOT an excuse for killing trees.

S1: 100 percent true, under 18s get free dentist checks, eye tests and prescriptions and there’s no tax on kids clothes and shoes etc.

Lol story-1 the trust should change rent to non family members. Except mom for caregiver

In the uk all health care is free. That includes appointments, prescriptions, operations etc but the wait time for a lot of thing can be something else😂

He stole your property.  Put him in jail

Trees costs hundreds to thousands of dollars
Lots of us pay for the trees in our yards
Trees have to be planted and take decades to grow large
You can sue over them

Since when were trees on our own properties considered the public’s property? The average person hates the hear how much landscaping costs bc they feel they have a right to destroy nature for some reason

Im not sure how 8 years of trauma related to an adult cheating causes u to think u can destroy your fathers property to make money off the things he spent money on 😭😭 seems insanely unrelated

Wait the trust wasn't done properly if the house is not in the sons name through the trust! Ugh

Most civilized countries have "free" or near free health care for children. It's tax funded so "free", and near free because in some cases there are small fees for the appointments (think 25USD to see a doctor and get the prescription). Although these fees are usually just for adults in countries with universal healthcare, there are some that also have them for kids. In Sweden and Japan it's "free", Sweden it's tax funded and also applies to dental care (which is not included in the universal healthcare for adults) in Japan you don't pay anything for the kids while adults have a percentage of co-pay. However you do pay for health insurance through a monthly fee. It's paid by your employer if you're employed or you have to pay it yourself (it's relatively affordable when you're unemployed). It's a legal requirement.

I can only answer in detail for these two countries as they are the only countries I've lived in and received healthcare in. The Japanese health insurance does include teeth, just not fancy treatments. You get the cheapest bare minimum treatment for free. This means if you need to fill a tooth they will use the old method of using metal, but you can pay extra and get the ones that match the colour of your teeth.

The son stole thousands of dollars from his parents. Changed the landscape for ever and destroyed the garden. NTA. Kicking him out at 19, was to protect whatever property was left because, if he can do that to his parents and not care, what else would he do?