After reading many of these ridiculous comments under this video shows me that many of you fantasyland idealists didn’t hear this part -> 43:49 “The knowledge that we’re looking for is awareness for how reality actually works.  Not how we want it to work…not how we think it should work…not how our society tells us it’s supposed to look, but how it actually works.  Because if we can understand the principles and the laws by which reality operates, we can flow with those currents, and we won’t be vulnerable when we’re out on the open sea” - Orion  This is as real as it gets…

If I actually believed relationships were like the way he describes them, I would rather live and die alone.

I have women friends who've fallen terribly ill with cancer - lost their breasts, endured the ravages of multiple rounds of chemo, etc - and their husbands stayed with them and loved them through their grave illness.  If the only thing keeping a man around a particular woman is that she's sexy and puts out, what a miserable, shallow existence.  It's not just about money, status, or sex.  Real relationships are much more complicated.

Keep in mind that psychologists don't usually get people in their practice who are good at relationships.

I believe him when he said he's been heart broken far too many times. 80% of what I hear is logic and no heart...

This is a great example of why getting GOOD help with mental health is so difficult.

I met my husband over 20 yrs ago when he was a dish washer. We fell in love and the rest is history. There have been times when I was the breadwinner and other times when he is. (Now I stay home with our baby son and he works) I'm thankful I never gave a rat's ass about any of these games. We work hard together and lean on eachother for friendship and guidance.  Thank God for good men!!

I've been single for a couple years now and I have to say I am happier than I have ever been.

It's been three years since I retired, and while inflation has made it tough to maintain my lifestyle especially when I was living in the city relocating to the countryside has helped me manage things better. Being divorced, it’s been a bit lonely with most of my friends and family still caught up in their routines. But out here, it's been easier to stretch my savings, and I’ve come to appreciate the slower pace. It’s not for everyone, but it’s worked for me so far, and hopefully, I won’t outlive what I’ve set aside

As a psychologist myself, I'll just say that if any of you want to be in a fulfilling relationship, listen to everything this guy is saying... but don't forget that the purpose of your relationship is to rise above all that. He's talking about the game, not the winnings.

Last year I went through a phase of listening to this guy, and while he makes some logical points, the biggest effect his words had on me was making me feel suspicious towards my loving, supportive wife. His perspective encouraged me to resent working to provide our family with the stability we need in order to grow.

At the end of the day, it’s your own choice whether you reside in the worldview Dr Taraban spins. Remember that he has a target audience, and maybe you’re not it. If you have high goals and morals, don’t be swayed by anyone who leads you toward bitterness

What I’ve learned from this video and the comments is that women definitely don’t like being generalized.

Man, this comment section has restored my heart. This man is not speaking for the 99% he is speaking for the shallow carnal mind of most of the 1%. They can have their "investments," and I'll take my simple love and lifelong commitment to the man I said for better or worse to. ❤12/20/2005.❤

As a father of four kids this interview made me sad. I feel sorry for the current generation and the future that lies ahead of them. At least as far as relationships are concerned. Our society is plummeting.

I've been married for 26 years, never cheated and am totally happy.  I did this by consciously NOT following this kind of advice. I pursued my wife for a year before the relationship got sexual.  Before, I lived by this advice and all I got were a chain of damaged women.  Find a woman with a strong sense of self worth and boundaries and develop them yourself.  The approach he's talking about brought me 20 years of misery.  It's cynical, transactional and, unhealthy.

I dated a man who followed all of this therapist’s teachings. He was financially successful, acted confident, and never “gave in” when I was upset. We had amazing sex, I cooked for him, and let him lead the relationship. I ultimately left him because I was so miserable and lonely. His demands on me were exhausting, I felt like I had to constantly “perform” for him and could never have an off day. When I tried to express this to him he didn’t care and wouldn’t change. One day I asked myself “why am I breaking myself to please a man who would never do the same for me?” If I married him sure, I’d have a nice house and nice things… but I’d basically be  a live-in bang maid. And the moment I couldn’t fulfill that role… I’d be out. There was no love in that relationship. Ladies, don’t fall victim to this sad worldview. It will only hurt you in the end.

81 y/o woman here. My advice to women is that men want (were born to be?) heroes. Let them know when they are!

Women want to feel safe .. but I’m old and I think it boils down to feeling safe with a person who has your best interest at heart ..
social media wretched our perceptions

I'm watching this video for all of 2 minutes and already I am thinking "When relationships go bad,this is the guy every man wishes he was buddies with"

I've been single for like 5 years and after hearing this I'm not sure I'll ever want to put this amount of stress on myself.