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ConVINCE yourself that she's no longer coming back is the key regardless

My mission is my LIFE, I’m the star of my life, my artistic endeavours, my health and fitness, my investing and finances, my learning new skills, my travelling, my singing and sense of humour, my friendships, my family, my work. Women have to play a minor rule in your life lads,it’s the only way forward.

Dont do it. Never ever. My Girl blocked me after good times, and with hot and cold games she left me alone like a street dog 8 years ago. Now i dont need to work again ever, she found out my new adress and new phone number. Never opend the door, never answered the calls. Guys be clever. They are better woman out there.

😂my purpose is to survive.

She came back after 2 months after breaking off a 3 year relationship. Had no accountability. So we hooked up a couple times but I refused going back into a relationship. Then she acted like the victim and I went back to leaving her in the past. I told her I'm only physically attracted to her now but I have no interest in a relationship with her anymore. She tried to play the victim card and said "I keep trying to show you how important you are to me"  I said "yea I felt so important when you left for 2 months". Haven't heard from her since and it is for the better. She would be foolish to try again because my answer will still be no.

I would take her back... BUT, it's because she's been going to therapy for her depression, hitting the gym to work on her physical health and is looking for what she wants to do in her career.

I've been doing small/odd contracting jobs, getting into longshoreman work, hitting the gym, I'm buying a car soon and I've been saving all my money beyond what I need to spend and I think we are both going to be in a much better space mentally and physically. I taught her how to cook, she taught me how to be creative and express myself more. We of course had disagreements but never fought or argued. Just had disagreements where we could understand each other's sides.

She left me because she had really bad depression over the winter. I think her mom (she moved back in with her mom/stepdad) manipulated her to come back.

I genuinely think we are meant to be together and the fact that we are both working on ourselves and giving each other space to grow I think is a good sign. Of course I want to reach out and I constantly think about her but I know the space is needed and I think we will get back together, stronger and healthier.

Thank you for your perspective though. I really needed to hear it.

This video was perfect I needed to hear this, Thank you Brother

5 yrs , Revolved my whole world around him 💔😪 Just to be tossed under da bus .. it really hurts cause ive been all about dem and wanting to do right in life .. and i thought we were on da same page , till friday he turned it and said nomore , as if i was wrong or some shit 😪💔 he really had me believe he was their , this was my Soulmate , i still cant believe this but no contact 7 days now and as much as i miss hiss ass i wont call or text , not how bad and long dey been negelctin and treatin me and shit while i still meet dem wit love and compassion , Never again in life !🙏😪

we all have to play our parts,,
you wanted a monster,,,, and you are already,,  dont know what to do,,
i dont know either but i will find something,,  or may be manipulated 😊

Yeah......not every break up is meant to be forever.  All of the old folks ive talked to that have been married for decades tell me that they've been through this very situation and it only made them stronger. Not all relationships follow the same template. Not all men have low self-worth. Sometimes, there are other factors at play that just need to be worked out. If it's meant to be, you will come back together after you work on your shit.

It’s the hardest when I’m feeling tired and vulnerable. My mind always goes to her. I contemplate on contacting her, but then I ask myself, have I done what I said I was going to do? The answer is still no, so I just go back to work.

This helped alot

Thank you

Brother thank you so much for making this video. It really help me . Can you make another and go into details of how you well able to move on , gym , hobbies friends etc .

Hi Dimi, any chance you could do a video on what you eat in a day? & also one on overcoming childhood trauma thanks man

Unfortunately, I don’t think 99% of female ex’s come back… especially when we were a big problem in the relationship

How long did it take to heal?

If she dumps you she isn’t coming back. Women don’t come back they emotionally detach very fast