Communication with my elderly dad was so much better when one day it half-way clicked for me.  Dad was not nor ever would be capable of living in my reality.  It was frustrating, exhausting, and defeating for both of us when I would try to get him to see reason.  There was pain in the realization that I had lost the dad who was so strong, virtuous and wise before dementia changed him.  There was  a certain peace, however, that came with acceptance and loving him for who he was in the moment.  Here’s a short story about the day the click was completed.  One day I went to visit my dad in his personal care home.  He was seated as always by his window in his rocking chair, looking outside.   Dad: Look at those birds out there in the yard eating that chicken!  Me: I don’t see that, Dad.  At this point my dad’s anger and frustration already erupt.  Dad:  What’s the matter with you?  They’re right there.  Me:  Dad why are you so upset? What kind of birds do you see?  Robins?  Dad, angrier yet:  Robins don’t eat chicken.  They eat worms!  Finally, I get it.  Me:  Oh yeah, there they are!  I see them now plain as can be.  That’s amazing, Dad!  Dad calmed down then and I found a certain peace in giving up the struggle.  He was living in his own reality and it was up to me to join him.

My mother in-law was one of the meanest people on earth, yet when she got dementia she was the sweetest little girl. A 100 percent change. The best part instead of having hard feelings against her I now have good thoughts.

That's the saddest thing about moving a parent into care, the ending of so many chapters of their life lived in one place, and knowing the next chapters will never be that good. As kids it makes you feel very guilty, to take that from them, and to know that the transition will be difficult for them because of the dementia. Safety has to be the number one reason to place them though, and we have to feel confident in that choice.

Difficulty with depth perception is real

I worked in a convalescent home. From what families told me some people were sweet people and then turned mean with dementia. Then some people that were mean and became sweet people.  I showed respect for all people, they deserved that no matter what.

My mom is in the last stage of Alzheimer's, horrible. The mom I know and love is gone, but I love and take care of her the best that I can. So horrible to see a parent you love so much go through this disease.

Mirrors and reflections can be upsetting, as they cannot see themselves and think it’s a stranger, so sad❤

😂 I can laugh about it now, but the not washing and changing clothes, was hard. They would go to bed fully dress, slippers and all. Now, I dont care about pjs,day wear, night wear, I could care less as long as they're dry, watered and fed.

You can't argue w a person w dementia.  I just ask my mother in law which shirt/ pants they want to wear (give choices). Arguing just gets you upset.

My grandma, my Aunt and my Mom, all had either dementia or Alzheimer’s. I don’t really know the difference. My mom’s also happened pretty fast and she would act just like your mom. I’d say from the time I had to step in and take care of her finances to the point to where she couldn’t be left alone was maybe 6 months. Then after I put her in an adult living facility, she lasted a year. Every weekend when I would go spend time with her, I would see a decline. She eventually became pretty unstable and fell a few times but luckily didn’t hurt herself too seriously. She really needed to use a wheelchair but her mind was so gone that we knew she wouldn’t even remember to use the wheelchair or even that she had a hard time walking. It was inevitable and she finally had a bad fall and broke 5 ribs. Sadly she never could recover and after a couple months or so, she passed away from complications. I planted her ashes under a small avocado tree I planted in my yard and have a nice plaque to remember her. She always loved avocados.

Your experience with your mom is EXACTLY like mine! The personality changes, seasons, anger and experiences they you describe are identical to what I’m going through. I have never been so physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted in my life. I feel like the changes in the past six months have been extremely noticeable and a very fast decline

my 85 year old husband has had dementia for 10 years. His brain remembers how to play tennis! But he  blew up the microwave yesterday, does not remember ANYTHING from 2 minutes ago and asks me over and over and over and over the same thing. He does lose his temper occasionally which is unusual for him. I am blessed he still reads the newspaper, but stays in bed all day 'reading' it until 2:00 PM. he doesn't even come down to eat, he's not hungry. I miss my husband so much. But this is my life now and I will take care of him until he's gone.

My mother in law is totally in stage 5 maybe 6. Prayers are with you!

Prayers for all of us that are taking care of loved ones with AD.❤

I worked at a few end of life care centers for adults. MY JOB WAS EXHAUSTING DAILY NONSTOP! FOR MINIMUM WAGE IN CALIFORNIA! I also cooked served all meals did clean up as well as all personal care, administered medications. Gave showers, dressed everyone, took care of catheters, all physical needs. Provided transportation to md appts. Bought personal care items that the company did not that were vital for the comfort and well-being of my clients. Try doing this job while appearing happy and well for all your clients or patients. It's nursing, custodial home chef, and entertainer all in one. 😢😢

I inherited early onset ALZ. Found using CBD oil restored function in minutes & have been able to stay functional for about $40/month. Zero bad side effects. It ought to be the main source of new thinking on this illness. I have help now. First sign of my illness was visual distortions. I was part of global study at univ Wisconsin for 8 years. The worst part of the ilness is relatives who try to steal your home & money. My advice to anyone diagnosed with ALZ is tell NO ONE until you visit a lawyer who will protect your assets. Beware home health aides unless they are monitored by camera. It doesn't have to be so hard.

I’m stage 4 now and whilst I know something is wrong I cannot fix or understand it.

Most of the folks I work with who have advanced dementia get scared/anxious a lot.  Losing control of your life like that can be really scary.

Yep, yep, yep! My Mom is doing everything!!!!! So this is stage 5. She and I live together. She has a great disposition. She is a pleasure to take care of. Thank you for this video!

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