자존감 바닥이던 내가 존잘 완벽남을 안달나게 만든 연애심리학ㅣ일타강사 도파민선 연애특강 ep 01
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Dating Lecture Part 2: What People with Low Self-Esteem Must Know
👉 자존감 낮아도 안달나게 하는 여자 되는법ㅣ1타강사 도파민선 연애특강 ep2
I am Dopamine Sun, your dating navigator and top instructor!
My dear friends, have you ever felt like you were becoming smaller and smaller the more you tried to make things work?
For those of you who started dating and ended up eating away at your own self-esteem trying to accommodate your partner, it is absolutely not because you are lacking or unqualified!
Dating isn't a test to prove yourself in order to win someone's heart; it's simply a process of getting to know who you are, what you like, and what moments make you happy 🥹
(Words I want to say to my past self)
It took me about 40 years to realize that when you start respecting yourself, taking the lead in the relationship naturally follows...
So, my dear older brothers!
Please don't trap yourselves by acting like the subordinate, okay?
You are all people who are fully worthy of being loved.
Hoping today's video served as a small pause in our friends' love lives and hearts 💚
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근데 저거 절대 안통하는 존잘남이 있음. 존잘남은 두가지 부류가 있음: 1) 존예녀만 만나는 존잘남 2) 지적 결핍 있는 멘헤라. 내가 존예녀가 아니면 1번은 아무리 자존감 높은 척 바쁜 척 결핍 건드려도 안됨. 그냥 안됨. 저거 다 해봤자 존예여친이 질투하는 여사친됨. 백날 여친 질투 받아도 나는 결국 여사친에서 신분상승 안됨. 결국 2번이 전제가 돼야 저런 전략 통할 수 있음.. 결핍 없는 존잘남은 만날래야 만날 수가 없음
2. 고급 QC(Quality Control) 마인드셋 (06:34 - 11:11): 상대에게 서운함을 감정적으로 호소하며 매달리는 대신, 마치 고급 브랜드의 고객이 품질을 평가하듯 상대의 부족한 태도를 품격 있게 지적하여, 상대방이 스스로 자신의 가치를 증명하도록 승부욕을 자극하는 방법입니다.
3. 정서적 락인(Lock-in) 전략 (11:13 - 16:32):
상대방이 밖에서 완벽한 모습을 유지하느라 겪는 내면의 외로움과 결핍을 이해해 주는 '대나무 숲'이 되어주세요.
지치고 힘들 때 생각나는 유일한 안식처가 되어 상대가 나에게 정서적으로 의존하게 만듭니다.
현연애에선 퀸마인드로 바꿨더니
ㄹㅈㄷ알파메일이 불안형마냥 연락이 왜이렇게 안되냐고 매번 속상해하더라고여 진짜 맞는듯❤❤❤
- 예측 불가능한 템포(재밌게 놀고 헤어진 뒤 불규칙한 답장텀)
6:30 감정구걸X 자존감/완벽 욕구 건들기
- 고급 클레임 넣기 09:05 내가 남자보는 눈이 있는줄 알았는데 꼭 그렇지만은 않나봐. 좀 실망했어. 10:30 예시
저는 언니가 보여준 고치기 전 화법들로만 지금까지 연애를 해왓는데 ㅜㅜ 이제부터 군대식으로 들어가야겠어요
자존감 바닥이던 내가 존잘 완벽남을 안달나게 만든 연애심리학ㅣ일타강사 도파민선 연애특강 ep 01
도파민선
199,684 views
Dating Lecture Part 2: What People with Low Self-Esteem Must Know
👉 자존감 낮아도 안달나게 하는 여자 되는법ㅣ1타강사 도파민선 연애특강 ep2
I am Dopamine Sun, your dating navigator and top instructor!
My dear friends, have you ever felt like you were becoming smaller and smaller the more you tried to make things work?
For those of you who started dating and ended up eating away at your own self-esteem trying to accommodate your partner, it is absolutely not because you are lacking or unqualified!
Dating isn't a test to prove yourself in order to win someone's heart; it's simply a process of getting to know who you are, what you like, and what moments make you happy 🥹
(Words I want to say to my past self)
It took me about 40 years to realize that when you start respecting yourself, taking the lead in the relationship naturally follows...
So, my dear older brothers!
Please don't trap yourselves by acting like the subordinate, okay?
You are all people who are fully worthy of being loved.
Hoping today's video served as a small pause in our friends' love lives and hearts 💚
📌 Dopamine Line PICK: Dating Enthusiast Items
1️⃣ A lip gloss in the 10,000 won range that you absolutely must wear if you have warm undertones
👉 https://link.coupang.com/a/furtgdrFAq
2️⃣ Pore-minimizing blush in the 7,000 won range that disappears instantly
👉 https://link.coupang.com/a/furwz3KyM8
3️⃣ The impenetrable makeup fixer used by celebrities
👉 https://link.coupang.com/a/furzzpfiE0