One of the most effective tips I've learned as a mom of 3 active boys (now a baby daughter as well) is to practice the GOOD behavior.  So if a child slams the door, he goes back and shuts it softly; if he answers rudely, he answers again nicely; if he says something mean to his sibling, he then says something (or three things!) nice to them.  The good practice is also particularly effective when there isn't any problem and can even become a fun game. That helps to reinforce good habits rather than just honing in on the bad ones.  Another tip (in addition to the great ones you've already mentioned, thank you!) is to keep the children busy helping me and doing positive things.  They find so much fulfillment in being useful (even if it initially slows me down), and the time together creates great child-parent bonding, so that they have less desire to be disrespectful or disobedient to their best friend.

I truly appreciate that you take the time to put these videos together.  I have felt very frustrated at times and when I go looking for ideas, so many 'help with kids or homeschool' videos are moms with 2 kids saying how tough it is... I'm a homeschool dad with 7 kids (so far) with 4 school age and 3 littles.  Your practical, calm, yet realistic walk through of these issues just helps me think through things as I've found being a dad at home I lack a support network as I know no other at-home dads to talk through stresses with. So, long story short, thank you and I hope you keep up the videos!

It’s a good idea to stop and pray with our children and ask the Lord for help.

Great video. I have a child who just turned ten. He’s has the absolute worst attitude about all things school. We had a long chat. He needed me to be next to him more. He basically said he thought he needed another year with me just like a kindergarten kid would. After our chat, we set the consequences of bad and good attitudes. Zero tablet time for a bad attitude, extra time for good ones. After one day of needing to follow through, he has changed significantly! His dad had a talk with him, it’s not about school, it’s about attitude in general. I was so happy my husband caught that little piece! Those eye rolls and huge sighs, have stopped, and the whining about reading and math practically gone in under a week! I have 4 younger ones, and they have all had to be told this and needed a few days , but I’d say follow through and consistent expectations are absolute key.

After six years homeschooling, yesterday we experienced our worst homeschool day of all time. Last night at bedtime , we had a brutally honest conversation, and we each expressed what is not working for us, as well as what is. After my child went to sleep, I took a very hard look at our daily routines, all of it, not just the homeschool routine. I made drastic changes. Major simplification.

This morning, I introduced the new plan for our school days. Best school day we have ever had. Sometimes humbling ourselves to see things through their eyes answers the question “What the heck is happening right now?”

Thank you for addressing this! I looked this up because I’m ready to put our 4 boys in school. I’ve been homeschooling for 6 years but I’m so done with my boys fighting and being disrespectful and not paying attention or valuing my time and love and their education.

My daughter has been really liking to work in her bedroom at a desk.  We also use a lot of charts for things. Morning chart, chore chart, school checklist. It helps her know what the expectations are without me having to tell her all the time.

This is my favorite homeschool channel! I enjoy the topics and how you layout the information for us! God bless you and your sweet family ❤️

Thank you so much for your videos! This has video has been a huge encouragement. I homeschool and have 7 children. What has been helping a lot lately for the general behaviour of my children is getting out in the morning for a few hours to exercise before coming home to do school work. Thank you for your encouragement. :) Martine

Even the simple knowledge of knowing that it’s not just my kids, encourages me. Thank you so much for sharing these tips ❤

Amen! Amen! And Amen to your last topic!! So important!

I worked with a kindergarten teacher that would get quieter the louder that it got in the classroom. This made it so the kids had to be quiet  in order to hear her. It really worked for her. The room was quiet and peaceful.

Thanks for another great video and thanks for being so real!
In our home there is a lot of conflict, and what has helped the school related conflict is separating the kids to have their own subjects (e.g. not doing geography, science and history as a group.  The conflict and competition we had with the family style learning was creating big problems for us.

Also, lately talking though actual steps of how to resolve conflict or just let things go has been helpful.

You're right though, it is a constant part of parenting and homeschooling, but learning to navigate it well as a parent is good for all of us!  

Thanks for your great content!

No experience, but grateful for the tips. I typically have us push through bad attitudes (mine included), but have been convicted lately that this may be causing more harm than good. Thank you for the reassurance that a break is more important; our relationships are more important.

This is like a cup of water to my thirsty soul. I've been homeschooling for 6yrs, however in the beginning it's only one child. As the number of children to teach grows and as they change, it becomes more and more complex. I don't have any suggestions at this time, but a lot of thankfulness for this video and the comments here.

I understand the idea of setting the books aside to work on attitudes and character....but I'm not sure what I would do after that step. To me it almost looks like letting them get a day off of learning because they misbehaved. Or maybe they would still be fighting over chores and cleaning the house.  I appreciate your comment about the normal struggle.   It is a struggle some days and some seasons of their development. And it's difficult to not feel like we're failing when children keep getting mad at you or their sibling. Emotions are exhausting!

I have experienced my children purposely being fussy at each other and then suggesting that we take time off from our books to do something together. Yep, it takes boat loads of wisdom and discretion to raise children.

Thank you for all your videos. I am from Korea, but I have three boys homeschooled in New Zealand, and two of them have ASD, which challenges me with meltdown and tantrum.
It's hard to share my problems with other homeschool mums either, and your channel helps me a lot 😊

You and your gentle spirit are an inspiration.  Thank you for sharing.

Thank you!! I think this was my question that you quoted. Youre truly an inspiration and a great mentor for me. Wonderful and practical to video. I loved the perservere advice. Wonderful. 🙏 God bless you.

I practiced the opposite of staying by them. When things got out of hand, I disappeared, sooner or later they noticed and knew that something was wrong and thought...