Stop Chasing Validation: Confidence, Women & Social Media with Bentzy Goldman
The REZ Podcast
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In this episode of *The Rez Podcast*, Reza sits down with *Bentzy Goldman*, an accredited men’s coach who helps ambitious men reclaim their attention, strengthen their relationships, and live with greater integrity. Together, they explore men’s complicated relationship with *attraction, attention, confidence, and validation from women*.
Is wanting attention from women automatically unhealthy? Bentzy argues that attraction and the desire to feel wanted are natural, but the bigger question is *how much of your identity, motivation, and energy depend on receiving that validation*. The conversation explores the difference between taking care of yourself because you respect yourself and doing it primarily to gain approval from others.
Bentzy explains why real confidence is not something that can simply be manufactured through appearances, attention, or social status. Instead, he believes deeper confidence develops through self-mastery, personal growth, and becoming someone whose actions align with his values.
Reza and Bentzy also break down the difference between *healthy and unhealthy validation*. Validation from a partner, close friends, or people who genuinely know you can carry very different meaning than approval from strangers online. The key question becomes: Are you desperately seeking validation to feel worthy, or are you receiving it naturally as a byproduct of how you live and treat the people around you?
The conversation then turns to one of the biggest challenges of modern life: *social media*. Reza openly discusses the emotional impact of views, likes, and engagement, while Bentzy explains why these platforms can become so psychologically difficult to step away from. They discuss digital detoxing, removing notifications, limiting access, and learning to create without allowing an algorithm to determine the value of your work or your self-worth.
A candid conversation about *men, confidence, attraction, social media, self-mastery, and learning to enjoy validation without becoming dependent on it*.
Learn more about Bentzy and his work through The Free Man and his coaching focused on helping men develop stronger identities, healthier relationships, and greater control over their attention.
Stop Chasing Validation: Confidence, Women & Social Media with Bentzy Goldman
The REZ Podcast
13 views
In this episode of *The Rez Podcast*, Reza sits down with *Bentzy Goldman*, an accredited men’s coach who helps ambitious men reclaim their attention, strengthen their relationships, and live with greater integrity. Together, they explore men’s complicated relationship with *attraction, attention, confidence, and validation from women*.
Is wanting attention from women automatically unhealthy? Bentzy argues that attraction and the desire to feel wanted are natural, but the bigger question is *how much of your identity, motivation, and energy depend on receiving that validation*. The conversation explores the difference between taking care of yourself because you respect yourself and doing it primarily to gain approval from others.
Bentzy explains why real confidence is not something that can simply be manufactured through appearances, attention, or social status. Instead, he believes deeper confidence develops through self-mastery, personal growth, and becoming someone whose actions align with his values.
Reza and Bentzy also break down the difference between *healthy and unhealthy validation*. Validation from a partner, close friends, or people who genuinely know you can carry very different meaning than approval from strangers online. The key question becomes: Are you desperately seeking validation to feel worthy, or are you receiving it naturally as a byproduct of how you live and treat the people around you?
The conversation then turns to one of the biggest challenges of modern life: *social media*. Reza openly discusses the emotional impact of views, likes, and engagement, while Bentzy explains why these platforms can become so psychologically difficult to step away from. They discuss digital detoxing, removing notifications, limiting access, and learning to create without allowing an algorithm to determine the value of your work or your self-worth.
A candid conversation about *men, confidence, attraction, social media, self-mastery, and learning to enjoy validation without becoming dependent on it*.
Learn more about Bentzy and his work through The Free Man and his coaching focused on helping men develop stronger identities, healthier relationships, and greater control over their attention.