Video summary How to deal with toxic people

Informative points:
- Giving negative comments to someone and then everybody jokes around it, is bullying.

- Family issues, sub-content culture of joint family leads to toxicity.  

- Arabs have a rule once they married, the married couple has to have a home. But in our culture a boy is not settled who cant afford home thus he has to stay with his father along with his wife. Then it becomes challenging to deal with everyone.

- It has become about winning the argument these days.

- Even Islamic feminist ask for 50/50, this is so empirical. Its hard for a female to do 50/50.
A man is a bread winner. And a woman takes care of family. This should b the priority.

- 2 questions to ask:
- You are toxic yourself
- How u respond to people who are toxic towards you.

- Solutions to deal with toxicity

1. Make yourself govern by Islamic laws, don’t use brain to justify reason.
2. Consciously identify problem in you that maybe I am myself toxic
3. Have empathy for everyone
4. Lets say if you figure out a family member of yours has anger issue then you deal with that person politely
5. ALLAH loves forbearance, the moment the mind is shutt  off then you respond back aggressively, thus take time off and think and then respond back.

It doesn’t mean u learnt about forbearance today and tomorrow u will have forbearance. It takes a cycle and repetition to gain this. Answer bad with good. And u will b rewarded doing this.

- Same way u learn sabar by practicing it, u wont learn it in one day.

Rewards of good ikhlaq:
- ALLAH will call out the person who will leave anger at the time he could take out anger, and ALLAH will ask him to select which HOOR UL AIN u want.
Prophet SAW said who will leave argument even if he is on HAQQ, then he will get plot in jannah.

- Ego: let go of ego with humbleness. A humble person is first one to say sorry. And first one to forgive. He does it for ALLAH. You will get great reward.


- If you acquire humility for ALLAH then ALLAH will increase your respect.

- give room of mistake to everyone.

- joint family system is not proposed system of Islam.

- Husband is Qawwam, he is caretaker of the family. A true man controls anger.

- To save relationship be heedless, dont give yourself thought why he did this to me or that to me.

Give what u want more.
- forgive
- let go hatred and clean heart
- give respect and love

- May ALLAH make ME and  all of us implement this in our life.

Ali E is THE best with his one liners 😅 and the bond of Tuaha & Ali E 🤩 Ma Sha Allah what a group jazakAllah Khair 🌹

Such a serious issue but you guys have dealed with fun. 🤣
May Allah retain your friendship in Jannah. 🤝🤲

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Ali bhai in full mood, always taunting Abu Saad bhai coz of his gym craze 😂

Sir, please also cover these topics in upcoming podcasts.
- Students balancing of deen and duniya studies, way of lifestyle
- How to speak eloquently ( like Tuaha sir :D) (with clean heart, confidently irrespective other person dislike u)
- How to inculcate Confidence -in any field -towards anyone.
-How to be more zaheen (with each passind day)
That reflect in decision, speech.
- Instant Decision making n dealings.

JazakAllah khairan

P.S. why not start personality development course/podcast- one concept per session.
Importantly tips to inculcate.

I'm 100% agree with you guys but sometime when daughters are not happy than Mother-In-law doesn't want Daughter in Law to be happy. They continuously bullying daughter in law and at the end of the day Mother-In-Law becomes happy by ending the son's relation.

But some husbands are so toxic they wife doesn’t need saas, susar or any other relationship. That kind of person makes his wife and kids life hell with their attitude. Loving your 11th hour podcasts 👍

اسْتَغْفِرُالله الَّذِىْ لآَ اِلَهَ اِلاَّ هُوَ الْحَىُّ الْقَيُّوْمُ وَاَ تُوْبُ اِلَيْهِ

You are absolutely correct. My mother faced a really difficult susral and now when my brother was getting married she was determined to separate my brother n sister in law. My brother rented a separate apartment and now both my mother and sister in law share such a beautiful bond of respect and friendship because of the boundaries my mother created from the beginning.

“A man is upon the method of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as a close friend.”
– Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
(Sunan-ut-Tirmizi, vol. 4, pp. 167, Hadees 2385)

Finally after 9 episodes khuraam bhai bhi chair per beth gae :D

This is so true that in today's world if you r savage you will be praised no matter what words slangs u r using may Allah ﷻ guide us Ameen

Love how these conversations never turn awkward. Allahumma barik

Mary khayal ma asal ma toxic insaan wo hota ha jo apny ap ko dunia ma sb sy zada perfect samjtay howy apny qareebi sb e logo ko hr wakat low feel kraaty hain hr choti sy choti bt pah bizat krty ha or logo ko bhht zada useless feel krwaty ha koi bi bt ho us ma agr 99% positivity ho gi to wo bnda un ma sy 1% jo negativity ho gi sirf wo dakhay ga or bht e zada bhahs krnay wala insan hota ha.

May Allah guide us.. if someone is toxic to you remember have SABR, they are just showing you their inner state...

Sometimes we ourselves are the toxic people 😢
I did tauba and trying to be better towards whom i did toxicity. May Allah and those ppl forgive me

I really enjoyed this. I am struggling with controlling my anger and tongue. It is becoming more and more bitter.

Nobody's born toxic. It's his life experiences that make him that way. But the toxicity increases when that person, conscious of his toxicity, refuses to accept and fix it.

Love the way when Abu saad asked
"What about females bro?"🤗