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How I learned to want to win

Ramsey Dewey

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This was originally an audio only podcast I did on Twitter… but since almost no one follows me on Twitter, and I barely understand how to use the platform, I’m posting it here as a video.

How I learned to desire to win. It sounds like wanting to win should come naturally (after all, who wants to lose?) but that wasn’t the case with me.

As a combat sports coach it is my job to help MMA fighters to win fights- so my evolution from complete athletic apathy to a genuine desire to see my athletes succeed in every way was a long and storied process.

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Ramsey Dewey is an MMA coach, referee, and fight commentator, and occasional musician based in Shanghai, China.

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This video features original music by Ramsey Dewey

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20 Comments

@RamseyDewey Creator 3 years ago

First! I’m writing this so those guys who write “first” will be forced to write a more constructive comment. Mwahahahahahahahahaha!

@dbzgtvaf 3 years ago

Thank you Ramsey. I needed that reminder. "Men find solutions, boys find excuses" that is applicable for life.

@stoned_dragon_86 3 years ago

When I walked into your class for the first time 2.5 years ago, I was a skinny wimp, mediocre in fighting and losing in life. You helped me become much better at fighting and life. Nowadays I still struggle, but found the courage to do a little better everyday. Thanks for helping me get here coach!

@LifesGameRulesGoals 2 years ago

Basically the triforce from zelda.
◇ Courage when on top of your game with no injuries.
◇ Wisdom to make less mistakes.
◇ force, be it in muscle or technique.

Godspeed.

@lancemurdoc6744 3 years ago

I am not a fighter. But I competed in some other sports. Individual sports and Team sports. Maybe it is just me. But I was never frustrated after a loss, as long as I felt I did my best. On the other hand I could not celebrate if I felt my opponent was unlucky or did not perform at his usual level. It was always "easier" for me to celebrate a win with a team. So maybe fighting is a special thing in this regard.

@theoneanton 3 years ago

The only thing I ever 'won' was a Game Boy with a winning ticket in a packet of crisps back in 1989.

Only one win, but what a win.

@GearlessJoe0 3 years ago

This is such I high quality video I hope it blows up more people need to see your content man specially the younger generation!

@tamazimikelaishvili877 3 years ago

ramsey have a poetic and narrative style of talking and it’s really interesting to listen to him

@ajshiro3957 3 years ago

I can relate. I always had the hunger to win. When i was a kid, I also was rarely picked during events. Though when I was, oh boy, was I competitive. For me, challenges were always an uphill battle due to my sight. So a win to me, even if it was a little thing, was a huge deal to me. it's because people would just count me out a lot. So I would strive to win, working 10 times as hard, to show them that I am worthy of winning. I've been like that ever since then.

@ll2nycell 3 years ago

I appreciate you, Coach! watched you for years now. I take so much of your advice to heart on my journey.

@IvanBarsch 2 years ago

Shame this video hasn’t gotten more views. It’s one of my favorites I’ve listened to.

@lolbeama 1 year ago

Thank you for the video. Such a huge part of being a martial artist is going through all these mental hurdles/battles, and these have often resulted in feelings where I can't even conceptualize to myself the ''roots'' of. Video's like these help so much.

@ConansTopGuy 3 years ago

This resonated with me very much. I've never had a fear of failure, but I definitely have a fear of success. "Men find solutions, boys find excuses" is very profound. It's a great litmus test to keep yourself honest. If you're making excuses, you don't want to win. Success it seems is mostly a choice

@hypnocoil3968 3 years ago

We love your voice Ramsey!!

@curtisrogers9285 3 years ago

I like the thumbnail it’s good to know no one is immune to posting cringe photos online.

@Kenjitsuka 3 years ago

I really like looking at your face when listening to you. No body language in a voice ;-)

@unsunghero8350 8 months ago

That's a great quote! Another awesome video.

@SamuraiCX 3 years ago

It's always nice to have encouragement like this as a friendly reminder to keep ones self on track. No matter what life throws at them! Thanks coach! 👍