PREDATORY TRIANGULATION AND EPISTEMIC INJURY
Dr. Peter Salerno
98,338 views
How can a confident, conscientious person become trapped in confusion and self-doubt?
Using a vignette from The Social Predator’s Secret Playbook that I recently shared during a therapist training, I examine triangulation, traumatic cognitive dissonance, and epistemic injury. We explore how a manipulative partner can exploit someone’s strengths—and why assuming the victim lacks self-esteem can reinforce self-blame.
I also discuss proactive aggression: goal-directed aggression used to obtain an advantage, and why intentional exploitation must remain part of an accurate clinical assessment.
Dodge, K. A., & Coie, J. D. (1987). Social-information-processing factors in reactive and proactive aggression in children’s peer groups. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 53(6), 1146–1158. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.53.....
Raine, A., Dodge, K., Loeber, R., Gatzke-Kopp, L., Lynam, D., Reynolds, C., Stouthamer-Loeber, M., & Liu, J. (2006). The Reactive–Proactive Aggression Questionnaire: Differential correlates of reactive and proactive aggression in adolescent boys. Aggressive Behavior, 32(2), 159–171. https://doi.org/10.1002/ab.20115.
Cima, M., & Raine, A. (2009). Distinct characteristics of psychopathy relate to different subtypes of aggression. Personality and Individual Differences, 47(8), 835–840.https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2009.0....
#Triangulation #CovertAbuse #EpistemicInjury #TraumaticCognitiveDissonance #ProactiveAggression
20 Comments
She knew about covert narcissists, but still operated from a paradigm that took apart the victim instead of helping them move forward.
Wow I never looked at it that way, and it’s so true.
Keep these videos coming Dr. thank you
Listeners: Yep. Heart rate increased, blood pressure raised, fight or flight systems online. Hearing your words, quite validating. Please continue exposing the unseen covert tactics that victims/survivors live with.
I grew up with these kind of manipulations. I learned early on that other people's opinions of me based on nothing but the need to manipulate me have no value to me. Triangulation is insidious and used often by incompetent, jealous, and manipulative people at home, socially and in the workplace. It is as if it is a socially acceptable thing these days
I am so grateful that Dr. Salerno decided to go public...you, sir, have an AWESOME, wise, wife! You chose well ❤
PREDATORY TRIANGULATION AND EPISTEMIC INJURY
Dr. Peter Salerno
98,338 views
How can a confident, conscientious person become trapped in confusion and self-doubt?
Using a vignette from The Social Predator’s Secret Playbook that I recently shared during a therapist training, I examine triangulation, traumatic cognitive dissonance, and epistemic injury. We explore how a manipulative partner can exploit someone’s strengths—and why assuming the victim lacks self-esteem can reinforce self-blame.
I also discuss proactive aggression: goal-directed aggression used to obtain an advantage, and why intentional exploitation must remain part of an accurate clinical assessment.
Dodge, K. A., & Coie, J. D. (1987). Social-information-processing factors in reactive and proactive aggression in children’s peer groups. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 53(6), 1146–1158. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.53.....
Raine, A., Dodge, K., Loeber, R., Gatzke-Kopp, L., Lynam, D., Reynolds, C., Stouthamer-Loeber, M., & Liu, J. (2006). The Reactive–Proactive Aggression Questionnaire: Differential correlates of reactive and proactive aggression in adolescent boys. Aggressive Behavior, 32(2), 159–171. https://doi.org/10.1002/ab.20115.
Cima, M., & Raine, A. (2009). Distinct characteristics of psychopathy relate to different subtypes of aggression. Personality and Individual Differences, 47(8), 835–840.https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2009.0....
#Triangulation #CovertAbuse #EpistemicInjury #TraumaticCognitiveDissonance #ProactiveAggression