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*CONCLUSION:* Regulation only happens when you stop fighting your current state. Shift your approach from urgently trying to fix your symptoms to accepting and supporting yourself, signaling safety to your nervous system.

For me what helped me, was to cut off social media, stop watching youtube "help" content, journaling and looking for help, a coach and anything to analyse myself.  I just went on a journey, I did 500Km by bike into the moutains in kirghistan by myself in 10-12 days. That Helped me more than 3 years in "therapy/coaching"

Sometimes, you absolutely have to change your physical environment. Once I moved away from family and decided not to seek another teaching position, my body slowly started to recover. Work in progress.

Today I decided I am scared of my symptoms and that’s okay that I am scared.

6:55 “ sometimes you just have to let yourself be the version of you. That is struggling” I’m gonna have to sit with this. Wow. So simple yet so profound.

Took me about 20 years to start realizing, what you just explained. I was just like you, meditating like I'm training for the Olympic games, doing EMDR, using lots of tools. I just felt so wrong entirely and a few month ago, the pressure just let me break down and realize, I'm never gonna get better as long as I feel myself as a threat. Your video came exactly at the right moment for me, thank you! <3

This hit me because it reminded me of how Step Into the Life You Deserve describes emotional overload. Arden Kale explains that your nervous system can’t regulate when your life is built on stress, chaos and unresolved patterns. Regulation isn’t magic, it’s lifestyle. You have to create a life your body can actually relax in.

4:17 oh my regulation is not about adding 17 things to your to-do list. It’s about slowing down.

The single most important and self-empowering day on one's healing journey is when you simultaneously realize that not only have you unconsciously been your own worst enemy but that you can now consciously be your own saviour.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻💜

The issue is more tricky than it seems. For sensitive people even windy weather, loud noises or low glucose in blood can trigger the sympathetic (stress) nervous system.

People keep telling me "you need to seek psychotherapie", but I am certain what I really needed would be some f..... time to myself and some human touch.

When I finally slowed my chronic fear of the future (a mindset from childhood), and endless thoughts that I won't be ok in the future, and told myself daily that I am safe right here right now, my system calmed down a lot. That, and I changed the batteries in my lucky astrology mood watch...

Your body isn't your enemy. It's trying to tell you something. And what you need to do is listen, take a time, slowly change the things that you can.

I took a mental health day from work today. I think the whole point was for me to be home to watch this video! Thank you.!

Thank you for your clarity.  I inherited my mother’s sense of urgency and obligation.  She struggles at 83 with so many ailments: Overthinking, upset stomach and itchy skin to name a few signs of chronic perfectionist thinking.

I think this is why realizing I had Autism made such a difference. I stopped caring as much about impressing others and feeling bad for not being as cool as everyone else. It’s still a struggle though. It almost feels like there is no healthy place between not caring at all and caring way too much.

You just described my life, (for the last 30 years). It is so sad but beautiful to know that someone else literally just told my story. May we all find peace and safety in our lives. Thank you for your bravery.😌

I woke up this morning and did something different. I told myself just do a few seconds of something, then take a break. So I got out of bed, put on a pair of slippers, and opened the curtains and went to the bathroom. I then sat in a chair by the window with the curtains opened and faced North, and just took a few breaths. I did this for a short time, felt okay, so went into the kitchen to get a glass of orange juice. I took it to the chair, sat down, breathed, and drank the juice. I kept doing very short, small tasks, taking breaks in between. It’s midday and this video popped into my stream. I’m “relaxing” in the chair by the window, with the sun going down quickly, but I’m doing okay. I’m planning on continuing the short tasks, seconds to minutes long, and then sitting down in between for tomorrow too, just allowing the feelings to be there while I listen and observe, and an occasional stream and comment. I hope this helps someone else too.🙏🏼❤️

This message is truly invaluable, and I wish more people understood it. Realizing that regulation comes from creating safety rather than forcing it is such a powerful shift. I also love how your videos are short but still packed with meaningful, helpful insight. Thank you for your work. I’m so glad I found your channel. ♥️