Instead of leaving a negative comment, I'm going to run it back and just wish all woman well with whatever choices they may make in their life, I hope you are happy and proud of yourself and the life you are living. My best wishes to woman.

No, there is nothing wrong with choosing to be a homemaker. It's just tone deaf and strange for 1) a man to speak at this graduation addressing women,  2) make it about himself and his wife's experience,  3) only focus on how it went well for them. This dynamic (homemaker, 1 bread winner of the household) does not always work out or is ideal for every family. This is not a space to focus on YOURSELF- it's time to celebrate the students who worked their tail off for something THEY chose.

More women might chose to be homemakers if they were valued by their husbands as much as he values his wife.  Most wives don’t get any recognition or show of appreciation for staying at home and taking care of all that needs to be done. I hear my friends all the time complain that their husbands make comments that they get to sit around all day and do nothing. We as a society have devalued the job of homemaker so it makes sense to me why women would choose to do work outside the home that makes them feel valued.

As someone who went to a catholic school and worked in a convent for years, with daily contact to a lot of nuns... even the oldest nuns in the convent would roll their eyes at this speech. They made sure kids became a proper education for centuries - boys and girls alike. Their schools where among the first where girls where prepared for college. They themselves run schools, kindergardebs, hospitals. They had studied and were well educated and worked all their lives. Nope, that's not normal in catholic communities to talk like that. Just among some hardliners.

I love my kids and I’m a career woman! I will always keep my career because men change and you will be stuck and bitter with nothing. God gave me a purpose to be a mom as well as having a career.

I think that the "lie" he is referring to is that a career in the workplace  will be completely satisfying.
For some women it will be, for others it will not. I know women who wish that they had gotten married and raised a family instead of pulling their career.
But I also know women who  wanted more than just being a homemaker.
I also know women who have made both work in their lives.
It is just up to the individual.

My mother was a homemaker and I wish my dad was as  thankful with words as this man is. The title  Homemaker needs much more love than it gets. I am very thankful  of my mother deciding to be a homemaker over staying at teaching. I will always be thankful for that.

The key is that it’s a choice. A personal choice.  Women used to not be admitted into colleges, or promoted professionally.  Because of brave women in the past we now have options besides marriage to survive.

My mom was a homemaker to her 4 kids, then 26 years later, guess who left her to marry the girlfriend.
Kicked my mom to the kerb, she had to go to college as a 50year old to be able to get skills to be able to get a job. She became a bookkeeper.
She is a rockstar.
I am super proud of her. 74 years old now and still working. She said she loves it and will work until the day she dies.
But that’s the risk when you choose to become a homemaker. You loose your marketability.
I chose both. A career and a family. It’s tough, I don’t have a homeaid. I still have to cook everyday, clean over weekends, wash and iron the cloths.
It’s possible, you just have to settle for a less than perfect house.
What I don’t get is. Why are people so hung up on what woman decide to do? Especially men. We all different. Stop telling us what is best for us. Everyone’s circumstances are different.

Unfortunately so many men use and abuse women while they are homemakers. How many of us have dads that never appreciated our mothers ? Unfortunately not every man deserves a beautiful woman who will sacrifice her career dreams to raise him and his children.

I have a degree, and I'm a stay at home mom. It was not planned to be that way, I was supposed to go back to work, but let me tell you... the overwhelming urge to stay home was so intense. My husband was on my side, and I am so glad for it. My children are raised by their parents and not daycare.

I am 42 and a homemaker, I have been married to my incredible husband for 20 years. I left my job when we got married and did not finish college. He is now battling cancer, and has had his bladder and a kidney removed. Fortunately we have saved, life insurance, and other things setup just Incase. If we hadn’t planned and prepared for the worst when we married I would be incredibly worried right now as I do not have a college degree or career history. Being a homemaker is absolutely wonderful and I am so incredibly blessed BUT you need to have a contingency plan.

Dear Amala I can only speak for myself but as a stay at home mum who had four kids , it’s one of the hardest jobs in the world to carry out properly but I can honestly say it was worth every minute of hard graft and when anyone asked me what I did I told them I was a Domestic Technician 😂  it’s not for everyone I know but when I look at my four adult kids now, all Graduates with good jobs , I smile and think, job well done mama.

You can't have it all at the same time.  You just can't.  Find what works for you.  Everyone is different.  I know career women who love it, and i know stay at home moms who love that too.   Sometimes you can work different shifts or get grandparent help.   Every home is different. 😊

Amala, you're always so on point. So nuanced and logical. Always showing up with a caring, respectful explanation as to what you're saying and i really think you are doing such a great job in reaching people and allowing them to learn different points of views. You and Taylor are so needed!

Look, as a homemaker with a college degree, it is not a waste of time to become articulate and educated before becoming a wife and mother. It’s surprising how much the ability to think critically and understand studies, arguments, etc, is essential for guiding a family through the mess of our present times. I think it was a good reminder that motherhood and homemaking are vital to the fabric of society, which is why everything is falling apart right now. Sometimes people need to hear something but may not want to hear it.

My great grandfather was a photographer in the early 1900's in a small town called Fort Fairfield in Maine. He was the town photographer and he died at the age of 36 due to tuberculosis leaving my great grandmother with two kids under the age of 4. She became the town photographer when he died.

I am a Catholic wife and retired Catholic school principal.  I didn’t meet my husband until well after I graduated from college, and I did indeed have a life before that.  I think that the vocation of mom is a beautiful one, and matrimony is indeed a sacrament, but one can be a Catholic woman who is not called to be a SAHM.  Odd graduation speech.

I come from a catholic country in which MANY women from my mother's generation were home-makers.... let me tell you one thing: NO. You would need an outstanding integral honest straight laced man to do that, and the reality is, most are not. Not catholic men, not mormon men, not muslim men. I've seen some horror stories from financially trapped home-makers and mothers. I swore to myself I'd never and I didn't.

He could've just thanked his wife for her dedication and sacrifice as he's achieving accomplishment. It was tone deaf and weird to speak on ALL women.

Like women get left broke with children all the time. Or abused, cheated on, etc. Let's stop selling marriage and having kids as safe and fulfilling for ALL women.