If you are child free you deserve the same. Just say no to single parents!However god bless those of you with the heart and patience to do so.

There aren't any pros.

I would never date a man with kids. I’m not dealing with anyone else children.

THOSE CHILDFREE DATING A SINGLE DAD READ THIS!!! (APPLICABLE TO CHILDFREE SINGLE GUYS ALSO) Single parents should stick primarily to dating each other. And men have double standards they will try and pick up prime real estate when they have kids, or when they have one or more baby mamas, and expect to bag the childfree women who are good women. But when a woman has a kid, or multiple kids and the guy is childfree, for the most part they cannot be asked, and will say they dont want a woman with baggage. I think if you are a maturer woman and childfree, it`s best to opt for a man that is also childfree, or as a second option a guy that has a child whose not young ie 16,17, 18 + if you are in your 20`s dont ever date a guy with baggage if your childfree!

There are wayyyy more downsides than positives if your childfree dating a guy/female with baggage: Disclaimer there are exceptions to the rule, and scenarios that dont always happen, but from my observations, personally, from friends, from tv, media, this happens far more than it doesnt - see below ladies (Alot of these points also work for single childfree guys too, if the person they intend to date is a woman with baggage and the father is very active in their childs life, only a guy can end up in more serious fights/broke/and if they move in homeless and need to find new property ):

Often the single parent:
1) They have less time to spend with that man and the man less time with her (less one on one quality time and these can change last minute depending on childs needs).
2) They have less flexibility
3) You are more likely to have a 3rd party in the relationship excessively if their children are younger (which although they have the right to, it may feel intrusive)
4) Unresolved feelings can resurface on both or one side (rebounding, and them wanting to try again at the perfect family)
5) If you break up and have invested time, money, energy in the kid, you break up with the child also and have no rights to see them again, your hardwork is flushed down the toilet.
6) Statistically a man with kids is liable to have less disposable income
7) The child can be rude, abusive, not like you, tell you, that you are not their mum
8) You will never share that first experience with the partner its less special, even though people say every birth is a blessing, and as special as the first thats BS, you always remember your first time for everything.

9) Parents evenings, sportdays at school, school plays, hospital/medical treatments, parental discussions in person, graduation, weddings, grandchildren, etc: you will always be the outsider looking in, with little or no rights and no title, when compared to the mother.
10) You may disapprove of certain ways the child is raised on the maternal or paternal side, your opinion, thoughts are secondary and in some case uninimportant

11)Added responsibility, emotional support and financial burden of someone who is not yours jointly.

12) If that person broke up and also didnt get married (married in the sense of marriage as a lifelong commitment), this could mean a higher likelihood that they may not commit to you, and leave you as a single parent, unmarried and alone down the line also.

13) You will be the second woman to the mans family, to the child, to him. The mother of the child is always the most important role, therefore the first woman in his life indirectly, as if he loves his children and sees them as his everything, then the child comes first, and therefore the wellbeing, raising of the child is the most important, therefore the mother of the child is a package deal and the first in his life. (This still is the case if they hate or can`t stand each other, its just that the view of that person on a personal level is dislike etc, but they are still the first woman to him because of his kids and the important role of raising them.)

Overall: It`s not an equal partnership, it`s unfavourably imbalanced against you the childfree person having to sacrifice, compromise, understand, be patient, be left out in scenarios, take on extra extra stress, the burdens of your man and his child, and the ex. The ex could make both you and his life a living nightmare, be ratchet, bitter, jealous, insecure, bitchy, vindictive, petty......There may be some few benefits, but there are deffffffffffintely more downsides!!!

Yea, childless women should not date men with kids and vice versa. It is too complicated. I have one son and I do not date men without any kid.

There are no pros if you’re childfree...

I have said this in other videos:

Single men and women without kids don't look for single parents. They stumble over them.

No one I know of (I included) wakes up one day and says "Hey, I think I am going to go and look for a single mom or single dad." Or get on their knees daily and pray "God please send me a man or woman who already has like five kids from a past marriage or relationship."

Nonetheless, I commend those who have gone into relationship or marriage with a single parent and made it work.

I’m dealing with a bitter baby mama. 😐 And Im starting to see a change in the kids. It’s painful.

He is a good man..and youre a wonderful woman..god bless you both..i feel this video!! my boyfriend has a child as well..its the hardest relationship ive ever been in but my heart belongs to him..i adore him..

With a man with a teenager, the mother has passed away. I am a child-free woman. I am not interested in being a step-mom.

People always make step moms evil. I hate when people paint this picture of us. It is so hard to be a step mom. You are never appreciated. I wish I never got in a relationship with a man with a child.

I cried with y'all. I can only imagine the love parents have for their kids.

Aww 😍 his face lit up when you mentioned starting a family together. He can’t wait for you to have his babies. 😂

Respect yall both! I'm in a similar struggle we all will make it. Them negative bitter BMs and BFs won't win! Peace and love!

This is 1 of my favorite topics... we are a blended family. I love my son like I had him. Jay will tell u I love jaylen Smith like my girls. As my grandmother says.. treat those kids like they are yours because these are your that God gave u. His real mother is sorry as hell and he needs needs. I'm mother to him😙 14 years and counting.😊

I had a video date with beautiful woman. But as soon as i found out she has 3 children, that immediately put me off.  A total deal breaker.  What upset me most is that her personality is so vibrant and joyful.  I have to let her go. I truly dont want to raise someone else's childre.  I give props to men  who want to date a single mother. Dating a single mother entails me going in as an underdog and she will always put her children before.  She is also going to have to talk to the father because there are matters they are going to need to discuss. And the same goes for women who want to date single dads

I cant imagine having to suck up to a child I did not make!

Very admirable and awesome to see step moms show emotions like that towards their step children

Man you guys really did a great job! I’m so sorry that you guys are having some issues with co parenting but just know that you all are amazing parents! I love you both😘😘❤️

Women don't like to give single dads a chance but expect men to accept them and a house full of damn kids as a package deal