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When an AVOIDANT & an Empath Both Go NO CONTACT... THIS Happens Next | Matthew Hussey

Relationship Decoded

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When an Avoidant and an Empath both go No Contact, the silence is far more powerful than anyone realizes.

Most people think the empath is the only one who suffers while the avoidant simply moves on. But relationship psychology tells a much deeper story. Beneath the silence, both people are fighting emotional battles that are completely invisible from the outside.

In this video, we'll explore what really happens inside the mind of an avoidant and an empath after no contact begins. You'll discover why avoidants often feel relief before regret, why empaths struggle to let go, how attachment styles shape every stage of separation, and why so many couples end up repeating the same painful cycle.

Whether you're healing from a breakup, trying to understand avoidant attachment, or wondering if no contact really works, this video will help you see the psychology behind every emotion, every silence, and every unexpected return.

💙 In This Video You'll Learn:
• What an avoidant secretly experiences during no contact
• Why empaths struggle to move on emotionally
• The hidden psychology of avoidant attachment
• Why avoidants often come back after weeks or months
• The biggest mistake both attachment styles make
• How real healing changes future relationships
• Whether reconciliation is actually possible

If you've ever loved someone who pulled away, disappeared emotionally, or left you questioning everything, this video is for you.

👇 Comment "MIRROR" if this message resonated with your story.

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20 Comments

@BlueAvians 2 months ago

As an empath I do not follow the pattern in the video. I do not chase, I do not accomodate, and I dont shrink myself for the avoidant. I give space and I am not afraid to stand my ground. I know what I want from a partner and it's not an avoidant. This is where the power lies. A wise empath knows they aren't tasked to heal others. We dont need validation. We can love from a distance and keep boundaries. The avoidant created the distance, so they can fill the gap. We don't fix what we didn't break and we dont make wishful thinking on someone's potential.

@v.b6028 1 month ago

Sorry, but most avoidants will not sit in the pain. They will go and find somebody else and start the whole dopamine hit of early stage dating. That’s what they’re addicted to. They may miss you and they may bread crumb from you but that’s as far as it goes. They jump from one relationship to another and they leave once it going gets tough because the dopamine hit wears off and they’re faced with the reality of having to work hard in a relationship. And they don’t want to do that because it’s too much pressure. They have no capacity. Stay away from avoidant people. Not because they don’t deserve love but because when they haven’t started any inner healing, & they actually quite dangerous to the empath who overgives. I learnt this the hard way and it took me awhile to realise that while I was sitting there crying over him, he was underneath another woman, and a woman after her.. That’s the way they numb their pain and trauma of the past instead of actually having to look at themselves and do the work. Good luck to all the empaths out there. Be careful who you’re giving your empathy and time to and make sure they deserve it.

@Exoticforeiign 1 month ago

Never chased just gave presence and when it wasn’t reciprocated I pulled back

@danieldora2208 4 weeks ago

Oh, yeah!! I felt my identity was stolen...

@mattinamouyos3156 20 hours ago

MIRROR , MIRROR IN MY SOUL 💖

@ConstantinosSmith-rz9kj 7 days ago (edited)

Just so everyone knows it is extremely rare to find pure dismissive avoidants and even rarer to find pure fearful avoidants...so if you are sitting there thinking your ex is a pure thoroughbred avoidant think again. In most cases its a combination of other attachment styles like for example secure attachment. Take any information you get with a grain of salt, learn to observe, listen, feel and learn on your own. Otherwise you just sit there guessing and going down rabbit holes you don't even know where they lead. The reason everyone is annoyed with avoidants is because they know when to call it quits, just learn to do the same. Instead of sitting there living in a world that's based on a past illusion and putting an ex on a pedestal because of how you felt with them, take care of your self and move to the next more loving relationship. Stop quitting on your self because other people are messed up and don't know how to cope! All their doing is taking you down with them.

@AvoidantTruths-c8k 1 month ago

This explained my relationship perfectly. Thank you for putting it into words.

@NicolaTomlin-s2k 1 month ago

I’m a empath the man in situationship is an avoidant this explained everything

@christopherkraft5553 10 days ago

After 18 years, my wife just left and won’t speak to me. I’ve tried everything to get her back, but I can’t stop thinking about her. It hurts so much.

@mycomment8267 13 days ago

I was neglected as child. I have been hurt in every close relationship I have ever been in. Yet, I'm not afraid of love. Can't be childhood experience. Maybe interpretation of childhood experience and different personality type.

@SteveWild1114 2 weeks ago

I'm an empath and I didn't react at all the way you describe in this video when my avoidant left.

@jeannewright3027 1 month ago

Oh this is wonderful. Thank you…the empath. I just couldn’t see it in this one. I knew things from life, knew how to go slow, but didn’t do with this guy, I blew by my decades of process. It started months ago. But 5/6 months something happened. I spotted it cause it was 2nd time reaction in about 2 weeks, clueless first time. Not so much when it was time 2. It up set me, as I drove away I said to myself that is something not ok. To the point I couldn’t make my self go home, so I went to a park by the river that I had seen over time.Pulled in, sat on a big rock, starred at river until I could manage. As I walked up my porch, I said to myself, you did this to yourself, you did not follow the process. He had me and the control. And he is well not a bad person, how he got me, he was not a known person, but he to my knowledge was the first over decades to be what you and others call an avoidant. And I do believe he knows the terms and aware. I will not go back never is not in my vocabulary, but under my terms cause this is not peace, and he would have to sit in uncomfortable and hear my needs and know it’s not a guarantee, he has to be consistent and have capacity to hold on. I see the pattern, sad but I need peace.

@bmph345 1 day ago

Empath here in the midst of hell x 51 7 years ... & Burned out... Planning a safe exit after the ultimate betrayal . . . He sexually Assaulted me in my sleep & thought he had the right because we were married... He's wrong. .

@GanaLoveline 1 month ago

I appreciate this very much sir,thank you.this is exactly what me the empathy nd my avoidant partner are going through

@gillianmir6387 2 months ago

Ohh yes, this is very interesting, I can see this now, thank you

@saminarahmat1959 3 days ago

As empath this is true avoidant always find new partner nothing can bother them wt empath is suffering from they always avoid reality...they go for new people rather than take accountibility of everything...they avoid real based conversations which makes them uncomfortable