the most enjoyable thing about  Yeomans is his very obvious humility. That screams volumes about him. Lovely, lovely.. Thankyou for posting.

I am 65 and a severe bpd and am having an anxiety attack from this video, because I have never felt so seen.

If I could give myself a precious gift, it would be a session with Dr. Frank yeomans ❤

What an incredible person! Patients with these conditions can be so challenging to deal with and yet he has so much emotional intelligence, patience, insight and empathy and explains things so well. Amazing video for healthcare professionals :)

Literally never heard anyone describe anyone in their 30s as middle-aged😂😂😂😂

“Neutral” is what my personality disorder clients describe me as and tell me it’s helpful.

When i was in the full grips of BPD, my emotions WERE ME. They determined hpw i saw myself and others and the world around me. My emotions HAPPENED TO ME. My emotions were bogger than me and controlled me.

Now, i have a healthy relationship with my emotions. They still feel bigger than they should at times, but i see how they are something i experience and can manage, rayher than being controlled by. I value my emotions and listen to them now but create space between myself and my emotions.

Now, i know who i am and that my emotions are like the varying trees in my inner landscape of self. Or the colours.

Throw a tv lol. But I know that’s exactly how their brain works. They’d throw a tv into your face, but as soon as their anger is gone, they’d talk to you even very a friendly manner as if nothing happened. It’s completely normal to throw a tv for them. I hope the husband is now safe.

Simple acts of charity or helping others can often be the best key to getting ones mind off of itself. It opens the heart up and can relieve pressure on the mind, and gets the focus off of oneself and by giving your also recieving. It promotes self love in a good way because by taking care of yourself you can provide for others and puts your problems in a true-er light.....🙏🏽🙏🏻🙏🏾

living with a bpd partner is being wrong and never been heard -slow disintegration -better leave and have the memories of better sides and love from afar

As a layman, and as a member from a dysfunctional family, I have always been intrigued by the contradictory behavior from people that suffer from NPD.

What is the behavior I have seen?

Most of the time it all takes place at parties or other social events that naturally makes people more relaxed and focused on leisure. The person with NPD is the odd person at the event because in some way the party is not about them or do not accommodate them according to some arbitrary norm that is not stated by the suffering person but should be known by everybody present. The person suffering from NPD is haughty, overbearing, stiff and putting wet blankets over everything and everyones experience. The person suffering from NPD both berates and humiliates other guests that naturally have their guard down until he or she reaches the guest that finally says no and instantly a scene breaks out. The rule is that the person that suffers from NPD denies it all and without any shame expects an apology from the person that protested. The person with NPD felt attacked and there were no awareness of the own behavior until he or she found the guest that said stop. It is like the position stated in the video, everything aggressive comes from the outside and inside there is no aggression to be identified.

a tip from someone with diagnosed bpd-accent: pick up boxing! It connects you to your aggression in a very positive way and you find strong, honest, authentic connections with other people in boxing. After you hit someone on the nose in sparring there is no sense in faking nice to them. You can really be yourself and be respected and you learn to respect others.

14:35 boom! That’s why I feel once I make peaces with my own aggression I’ll be better at dealing with conflict

15:12 the tv incident - as a possible candidate to a bpd diagnosis I can say that this generated me a mix of shameful and funny feels. Made me reflect on how primitive and childish some of my reactions have been throughout the years 😅

Thank you Psyflix for posting this lecture by Dr. Frank Yeomans.

Such a kind and nice doctor❤, truly compassionate and opening his knowledge and heart❤

It's incredible that people get married to those with BPD. After living with one for 4 months I can't stand it any longer.

As i listened to this very helpful talk, i saw connections between this model and IFS. Its just amazing how we manage to survive in rhevworld following traumatic experiences.

I would like to see interviews of patients for whom transferance Forcused Therapy helped.

Oh, for more human beings like this wise man.