배우자와 말만 하면 싸운다면 꼭 보세요｜관계를 살리는 심리학 7가지
별별 심리
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#MaritalPsychology #UncommunicativeSpouse #Psychology
Have you ever said to your spouse, "Please understand how I feel"? We will calmly explain why those words kept escalating into arguments, and why 20 years of resentment exploded over a single cup.
A home where communication breaks down isn't destroyed by noise. It collapses when one person stops speaking altogether. Is that silence peace? Or is it surrender?
Seven ways to change the first words you speak at the dinner table today.
If you are going through today with similar feelings, please leave a comment below.
📚 References
Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology — Divorce prediction + 4 major warning signs (blame, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling).
Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1988). The social psychophysiology of marriage — Emotional Flood.
Christensen, A., & Heavey, C. L. (1990). Gender and social structure in the demand/withdraw pattern of marital conflict. JPSP — Chase-Avoidance Pattern.
Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1: Attachment — Attachment Theory.
Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. JPSP — Adult Attachment.
Beck, A. T. / Burns, D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy — Cognitive Distortion.
Bowen, M. (1978). Family Therapy in Clinical Practice — Self-differentiation.
Skinner, B. F. (1953). Science and Human Behavior — Behaviorism.
Stern, R. (2007). The Gaslight Effect — Gaslighting.
Freud, A. (1936). The Ego and the Mechanisms of Defense — Defense Mechanisms.
20 Comments
이해받지 못하고 살아왔는데,
필요한 용건만 말하는데,
서로 다름을 인정하고 다투지 않으려고, 불만을 얘기하지 않음.
딱히 불만도 없음.
하나뿐인 자식이 보물이라
자식 위주로 살고 있음.
그래서 웃을 일이 또 생김.😂
그리고 난 내가 좋아하는 취미를 함.
혼자서 책읽고, 글을 씀, 매일매일...
남편은 혼자서 기타 연습을 함, 매일매일...😂
배우자와 말만 하면 싸운다면 꼭 보세요｜관계를 살리는 심리학 7가지
별별 심리
138,494 views
#MaritalPsychology #UncommunicativeSpouse #Psychology
Have you ever said to your spouse, "Please understand how I feel"? We will calmly explain why those words kept escalating into arguments, and why 20 years of resentment exploded over a single cup.
A home where communication breaks down isn't destroyed by noise. It collapses when one person stops speaking altogether. Is that silence peace? Or is it surrender?
Seven ways to change the first words you speak at the dinner table today.
If you are going through today with similar feelings, please leave a comment below.
📚 References
Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology — Divorce prediction + 4 major warning signs (blame, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling).
Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1988). The social psychophysiology of marriage — Emotional Flood.
Christensen, A., & Heavey, C. L. (1990). Gender and social structure in the demand/withdraw pattern of marital conflict. JPSP — Chase-Avoidance Pattern.
Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1: Attachment — Attachment Theory.
Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. JPSP — Adult Attachment.
Beck, A. T. / Burns, D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy — Cognitive Distortion.
Bowen, M. (1978). Family Therapy in Clinical Practice — Self-differentiation.
Skinner, B. F. (1953). Science and Human Behavior — Behaviorism.
Stern, R. (2007). The Gaslight Effect — Gaslighting.
Freud, A. (1936). The Ego and the Mechanisms of Defense — Defense Mechanisms.