we practice that the man is the HOH, which includes myself, when I talk back and I'm disrespectful my husband will use the strap with me, this makes me more submissive, and obedient to him, I am left in the back bedroom for 1-5 hrs to reflect on my bad behavior, then accountability happens and I ask for forgiveness, intimacy happens 4-5 days later to make this process more effective moving forward, these two issues of punishment and intimacy should never be blurred, in other words this should never be used as foreplay to intimacy, our house is much more ordered when this happens, and I'm alright with it, if you read the garden of Edan story closely is says God threw Adam out and Eve followed