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Narcissistic Parents: Normal Childhood Moments They Turned Into Trauma

Jerry Wise

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If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you know how normal childhood moments can turn into trauma.

In this video, I’ll walk you through 15 everyday experiences that were twisted into traumatic events by your narcissistic family. And how to reclaim your Real Self.

You’ll learn:
🔹 How minor mistakes were turned into lifelong shame
🔹 Why achievements were met with silence or criticism, leaving you doubting your worth
🔹 How expressing emotions became a source of guilt and suppression
🔹 Why your sickness or vulnerability was treated as an inconvenience
🔹 How family dinners turned into public humiliation
🔹 Why your birthday was hijacked for their emotional needs
🔹 Why small corrections turned into emotional lectures and much more

These moments were never about you—they were a reflection of your narcissistic family system.

It’s time to break free from these patterns and start healing.

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I’m Jerry Wise, a family systems coach with over 45 years of experience helping individuals break free from toxic family dynamics. My approach to self-differentiation empowers you to let go of the guilt, shame, and emotional entanglements that have held you back. If you’re ready to heal, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
0:39 - Number 1
2:00 - Number 2
3:03 - Number 3
4:12 - Number 4
5:42 - Number 5
7:00 - Number 6
8:11 - Number 7
9:10 - Number 8
10:32 - Number 9
11:39 - Number 10
13:15 - Number 11
14:23 - Number 12
15:26 - Number 13
16:48 - Number 14
18:12 - Number 15
20:42 - Join the Program

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@renatemocza7195 9 months ago

Growing up in a narcisstic family is torture.

@NYCLeeL 9 months ago

Also narc parents expect children to just know how to act perfectly (in their mind) and make no effort toward teachable moments e.g. yelling at a child for spilling a drink rather than calmly explaining that they shouldn't put cups near the edge of the table. As an adult you will probably live in fear of making mistakes, be anxious, and will probably not be authentic because you have lived waiting for the next shoe to drop because being a normal human being was not acceptable.

@pebblebrookbooks4852 9 months ago

My mom catastrophized every mistake...

@bshilala 9 months ago

I recall the moment when I was at a friends house & they spilled a drink. I started getting nervous & was waiting for the screaming to begin. The parent just cleaned it up & moved on. It was at that moment when as a child I realized that spilling something was not necessarily the end of the world.

@PalomaHammershlag 8 months ago

They ruined my birthdays, my wedding, graduation, every important moment of my life

@Geep1778 9 months ago

One time I got jumped by 5-6 guys who beat and robbed me for my sneakers and whatever little money I had in my wallet. My dad found a way to make me feel even worse about it and tried to blame me for it happening. Why didn’t I at least get a few swings in while I was running for my life?! I was 16- 17 at the time and thinking back I was totally unequipped to handle that level of betrayal from someone who’s supposed to have your back.

@joannahediger7820 9 months ago

If one parent is a narcissist the other is a witness to the ongoing abuse and mistreatment of their child. If they do not strongly and effectively intervene to protect their child, they are either enablers or narcissists themselves. This makes them accomplices to abuse. They are complicit.

@SummaGirl1347 9 months ago

So bizarre that you mention Birthday trauma. When I was 15, my mother threw me a Quinceañera - a huge party, hugely expensive, with 150 people present - my entire extended family. My mother didn't let me make a single decision about the event (my dress, the food, my hairdo, nothing) so, I knew it was just a flex for her to show off how she had enough money to afford this huge party. To prove my point, I left the party for two hours, in the middle of the reception, and went to sit alone in the park. Nobody noticed I was gone. At the end of the night, my mother asked me if I had enjoyed myself. I told her: "This wasn't about me. Not one person (including you) wished me a happy birthday today." She didn't talk to me for two days.

@inHTW 9 months ago

Emotions are taboo in a narc family

@suzan4012 9 months ago

This video is giving me a panic attack

@DG-yd4nh 9 months ago

I didn't even have a bedroom or bed to go to and be alone. No private time, ever..... I like being alone now and having my own place.

@alanaadams7440 9 months ago

When I spilled my milk my father yelled at me and acted like it was the end of the world. To this day I can't drink milk. I am 78 years old

@obiquin-MCO 1 month ago

My parents treated me and my brother like small selfish adults.

@Araniella_Inconspicua 9 months ago

A thing that really messed me up as a child, was how when there were guests, my parents would use my talents to get praised, but as soon as people left, I was punished for existing. I was expected to do extraordinary things, be extraordinary, and to do it perfectly the first time I tried, and at the same time, be punished for even trying, for existing, for my talents. If I did perfectly (or really well) I'd get even more severe punishments. This led to severe cognitive dissonance over the years, and I stopped doing anything (just sat on my hands, and held my breath), because no matter what I did, it was wrong, and I'd get punished.

@keke7216 9 months ago

I remember getting straight A's sophomore year in High School. I was ranked 21st in my class out of 750 students. When i showed my dad my report card he said 'maybe next tme i could move up even to #1. Devastating as i think of it now.

@AZ-Kelly 9 months ago

It's sabotage, an excuse to shame you. Love yourself, and make sure you're not doing the same to others.

@catpocalypsenow8090 9 months ago

My mother told me that having children was the biggest mistake of her life.

@thebookishkhmerican4303 9 months ago

After I went no contact and no relationship and moved states away from my narcissistic parent, I made it a regular thing to decorate my apartment, buy myself a cake and treat myself to rest and self-care every birthday. I used to not feel like I deserved to celebrate my own birthday. I really had to learn how to celebrate, validate and reparent myself in the way that I needed, but never received

@David_Goman 9 months ago

Wanna know what’s crazy? I prayed and asked Jesus to send me counselors who could help for my specific struggles, and Jerry popped up in my feed a couple weeks later. You’re mentioning things my parents did to the T, and I’m finally seeing it more clear and feeling the right to choose myself.