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How to Respond When A Student Disrespects You

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It's never easy to be and feel disrespected by a student. But the way you respond can make all the difference in reducing the behavior, as well as increasing your self-confidence, sense of self-worth, and dignity in the face of student disrespect. In today's video, I am sharing ways you can respond when a student disrespects you.

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20 Comments

@wassimaddad 1 year ago

Your video is very informative honestly but, nowadays both students and their parents are disrespectful towards the teachers and I’ve been working as a teacher for three years and I believe it’s the hardest job ever because you’re a teacher, a doctor, a nanny, a source of wisdom ….. and the list continues

@NewLeafMovement 3 years ago

Ooooeee they be so disrespectful not just to teachers but to each other it's sad to see. Thank you for creating a video like this

@applesidertea 1 year ago

My strategy was to FULLY ignore the disrespectful students—no eye contact, nothing. I’d gather the well-behaved students into a circle and resume with quietly teaching them. I’d give them my full energy, and I’d smile at them. This confused the disrespectful students. After about 4-5 minutes, the disrespectful students would get frustrated that I was not paying attention to them. A few minutes after that, most of them would become embarrassed that they were not a part of the circle. Most would calm down after that. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@jamesbaggett2013 1 year ago

I'm a teacher's aide at a middle school and to be honest none of this really works in a group setting. I have a few groups of students that just refuse to be respectful, or to follow instruction. If I attempt to encourage corrective behavior I'm told to "Mind my business" or "You're not a REAL teacher" and my personal favorite "You need to check your caucasity"....The current generation coming up has zero interest in learning, and essentially no respect for others or themselves. It's infuriating, depressing, and heart breaking at the same time.

@rajeshadvani4194 2 years ago

I come from India and teachers are respected as much as God. No room for all this in Indian classrooms - Thankfully.

@silversurfer4441 2 years ago

Honestly, I think the best approach is to be like Data in Star Trek-and android with no feelings but instead approach your assignment goals and classroom management strategies with patience and with a long-term mindset. Select one of several disrespecting students at a time for focus. Go through the tiers. Ask for private time to discuss. If that fails, talk to parents. If that fails, talk to admin and a parent conference. And if all that fails, repeat again and again until the student realizes you're just as steadfast at making their lives miserable as they are yours. In time they'll get the message.

@Wrenz4731 1 year ago

Prior to covid parents use to say that the teachers are not teaching children anything but after covid I hope the parents realise how badly they have failed to teach their children social skills, children walking and eating and spilling food from their mouths etc, to respect themselves enough to respect the adults some parents have failed their children so badly.

@TheKnallkorper 2 years ago

I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’ve tried EVERYTHING. Call backs don’t work, asking for a level 0 doesn’t work. Taking a preferred activity away doesn’t work, calling parents comes back and bites me in the butt. I’m screaming into my pillow trying to teach a lesson for the 3 kids who care enough to learn how to build words

@sarahwomack4415 2 months ago

“Choose not to take the disrespect personally. It is a choice. It’s a mindset shift.” Your first point hits the nail on the head for me. The times that I have taken disrespect personally have been the times I have failed. In my anger I may have gotten compliance from those particular students,but it created an adversarial atmosphere.

@myoung6067 3 years ago (edited)

The problem is, I've watched a gazillion youtube videos on classroom management and they all say "use your consequences" but that's the part I have trouble with. What should the consequences be? Nobody gives suggestions on consequences and as a new teacher, I don't know what to do. If there's no consequence, there's no classroom management.

Edit: I'm coming back because I feel like my comment came across rude. I love your videos! I'm just frustrated, have a very difficult class and had a horrible day. I'm going to watch some of your other videos for ideas.

@dawng1783 2 years ago

Nothing is personal.

@juliuswilliams1438 2 years ago

When something is not ok and won’t be tolerated, what does that mean. It seems there aren’t consequences that they even care about.

@arthurbrantley7174 1 month ago

I learned...the only help for teachers is to quit...find another profession.

@Lookitsapanda24 2 years ago

What about when the consequence doesn’t matter to them even when it’s implemented? Parents who don’t care and blame you? Or when a large portion of a class feed off one another and there are too many to single out and consequences aren’t realistic given the number of kids who disrespect or disrupt?

Singular instances of disrespect are easy to manage. But a large class feeding off of one another as far as volume and meeting classroom expectations, it feels impossible to regain and maintain order and teach.

I’ve tried everything I can think of. Seating charts… revised multiple times… silent lunch… losing a portion of their PE. Contacting home and involving admin. These kids enjoy ILC because they normally get to sit in there and do nothing but play computer games or watch YouTube. It seems like an impossible battle when there’s almost no option to apply effective consequences to students who deserve them.

@ElainaWilliams994 2 years ago

Thank you so much! I just became a TA at a middle school after working at an elementary school for 11 years. I have never seen so much disrespect coming from children in my entire life.

@2_blAck 2 years ago

I’m staff support my students know I will write you up so quickly. I work with Seniors I will snatch that GPA down some notches. And erase those senior privileges🤷🏽‍♀️ They don’t play with me now

@melanieevans9206 1 year ago

“Nothing is personal.” Yes, it is personal. When you go above and beyond and actually invest your heart into those kids and in their undeveloped lack of social “ skill” they break your heart. THAT— IS personal. I no longer have the heart for them.

@DMarie76 1 year ago

Trainers, consultants and coaches often forget that it's just simply the fact that there are no consequences for poor behavior. That is the power play. If you have no leverage, then you have nothing.

@ninab7668 2 months ago

I experienced disrespect from young adult students in a community college setting in which I teach. Scrolling on phones in class, rolling eyes, calling me a b*tch, having side conversations while other students are speaking. I noticed that they struggled with basic math (e.g. fractions) as 22 year-old pre-nursing students, and I tried to help them so many times. But they did not want help and instead treated me with contempt.