I feel bad for the girl but I really can’t blame Vanta. Especially when he said “Why would I assume that I have that much importance in someone else’s life?” Sometimes it’s hard to realize and believe that a person likes you, even if they say it to your face, yk? I’ve been in a similar situation, and I think it’s completely normal that Vanta didn’t realize. Just my opinion tho 🤷♀️
As a girl myself I am as confused as Vanta...I do feel bad for the girl that was attempting to shoot her shot, but I feel like it was way too subtle. Like commissions are a whole dedication but why didn't she have the same dedication to converse with Vanta? Why would you expect the others to make a first move to the point TWO WEEKS PASS?? Especially when you are in an online setting I feel like you have to explicitly express that you are committed. Because lowkey I would have had the same thought as Vanta if an online friend sends me a commission artwork and asks to be their valentine. Like neither of us even know basic information such as looks?? Tbh I feel like the girl fumbled harder than Vanta cause she just decided to walk away after assuming that they are dating?? Like why are you waiting for them to make the first move for two weeks when you are dating 😭😭😭
Vanta has a point about her not saying anything to him for two whole weeks despite thinking they were dating. A lot of what she did was obvious but that in particular really is a mixed signal. A lot of his fumble stories are painful but I can see how the confusion arises lol
You know what I kinda get why Vanta doesn't want to believe that the girl fell in love with him. They haven't met in real life. But if there were a lot of signals laid in front of him? Poor girl, I hope she's happy now.
I'd have to side with Vanta on this. coz I'm the type of person that if you don't spell it out on me, in my face, I wouldn't understand. And most of the time, specially if it's something romantic, I'd be having a hard time believing that you like me specially if we haven't met in person. So yeah. I agree Vanta. I agree.
Yknow ever since he mentioned he's demisexual, Vanta gets a pass for this Fumble. As someone in the ace spectrum as well, unless you've highlighted + underline + bolded + capitalized + shouted it over PSA that you're romantically interested, the unsuspecting Ace won't get it.
We aces aren't oblivious, we just have a wildly different perception of romance/sex 😭
I think I'm as dense as Vanta when it comes to this. Because if it was me, I'd definitely thought the girl ask me to be her valentine on that specific day ONLY. That's not how you start a relationship with someone online, whom you haven't meet face-to-face yet, no? That's too vague plus online communication leaves too many room for misunderstanding.
Everyone crashes out when they hear (another) Vanta's fumbled love story