A man who heals alone, in silence and darkness is the most dangerous being on Earth. That man will never again trust blindly, never again give without thought, he will ALWAYS measure things first, calculate before allowing himself to open up. A man like that only gives after he has made certain that his gift will be treated honorably, anyone who doesn't measure up, well they're simply left in the dust where they belong. For that rare few who DO measure up, they will have the most dedicated, honorable friend they could ever find.
this reality of getting caught in a fantasy with the narcissist is the most bizarre experience a human being can ever feel when they realize what has happened.