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Last week, a coworker started a conversation with me in the break room --good guy. As I finished heating my food, I intentionally let the conversation die out, in case he didn't want to talk, but was just being polite. But after a few moments, he started a new thread of conversation, so I sat next to him and we talked the whole time. It made me feel good to know that he actually did want to talk with me. So in other words, don't be afraid to try again --your conversation partner maybe be a little shy, like me.

I can confirm that "talk to the quietest one" tip. I was once introduced to a group (who were, coincidentally, Lithuanians) and the quietest one did not speak because he thought his English was bad. Turns out that despite the bad grammar, he was very good at conveying the message and made for some very interesting conversations.

End the convo on a positive note. Instead of saying "good talking to you, but sadly I gotta go" try saying "I gotta go, but it was nice talking to you". People often remember last things said

Don't ask the quiet person if they are ok lol. They don't want that kind of attention. That affirms their fear that people think something is wrong with them. That will make them very insecure and uncomfortable. When you try to include them just treat them normally as if you can't tell they're being quiet.

Start lots of low-stakes conversations. The dude at the checkout that you'll never meet again. The grandma at the coffee shop who pays with a roll of quarters. A woman you don't want to date. It will literally erase anxiety and will also make life much more fun all around.

I don't know where the "towel on head = woman" concept for solo-made videos came from, but it's hilarious and I'll never get tired of it.

As someone recently experimenting with engaging good conversations, this are the most valuable pieces of advice you will ever hear.

I like how so many people represent ppl with long hair by wearing a towel around their head like that

As an introverted autistic teen, thank you.❤

If you’re young and watching this: I used to be the quietest and shyest person in class, afraid to talk to anyone. Now I’m the most extroverted of my friends and I make new friends anywhere I go. You can do it!

Basically my pro tip is: don’t have high standards for conversation. I can talk about any random thing that comes to mind. Not everything has to be deep or meaningful. And it leads to very funny convos. Don’t be afraid to step into the hypothetical. Be curious and ask fun questions. It will get easier as you go 😊

5:35 "the final parts of a conversation are what people remember the most." this is the best line of the whole video, im gonna focus on this a bit more

*Natural question, don't try to be clever.
*2 ears 1 mouth - don't talk too much, listen to the other person.
*Always give the other person something to respond to.
*The quiet person - include other people.
*Ask their name again.
*Finish on a high note.
*Leave conversation intentionally and confidently.
*OK to leave if you have a reason to, but don't leave without warmth.

omg from all the hour long advice on communication i've seen out there this is the most helpful! probably because what i truly needed was examples on how to do it and not only theory and more theory. Its so simple to understand and gives you nice starters thanks!

I will always be grateful to the people who's attempted to include the quiet one (me, im the quiet one). even tho most times it doesn't bloom to a great conversation because im very awkward, thank you for trying.

If you’re exhausted from constantly trying to keep your thoughts under control, Anwen Reid’s anxiety quiz may give you a different way to look at what’s going on.

As an introverted man, thank you

4:08 woww lithuania mentioneddddd

Leaving the conversation (when there's lots of people) is always a major struggle to me. I always tend to leave quietly like just saying "I gtg" because I always feel like no one really cares if I was there anyway 😂 but I definitely do agree that leaving on a high note is better. Its just something I have to work on.

I fall into the trap of not adding context to my short lined answers.