Why do we stay where it hurts, even though we know that a relationship, a job, a friendship or a situation is no longer good for us?

In this episode of "With Ela at the Doctor", I talk to Cerasela Rogen, transformational coach, about the fear of abandonment, emotional dependence, relationships that consume us, the nervous system, validation, childhood, old patterns and how we can start choosing ourselves.

🗣We talk about questions that many people feel, but may not have the courage to say out loud:

Why can't we leave, even though we know it hurts?
How do we know if love or fear is holding us back?
Why are we attracted to people who don't choose us completely?
Why do we confuse intensity and suffering with love?
What role does the nervous system play in the fear of change?
Why do we seek validation from others?
How do we end up criticizing ourselves so much internally?
Why can silence seem boring to someone used to chaos?
How can we become calmer, more aware, and gentler with ourselves?
What can parents do to avoid taking their wounds out on their children?

💢Cerasela explains why the nervous system sometimes prefers the familiar, even if the familiar hurts, why change can be felt as a danger, and how we can take small steps to break out of patterns that keep us stuck.

💕An episode about relationships, love, fear, children, parents, validation, calm, emotional healing, and the courage to choose yourself.

If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a place that hurts, but you don't know how to leave, this episode is for you.

💥 In this episode we discuss:

toxic relationships and emotional addiction;

fear of abandonment and attachments;
the nervous system and the fear of change;
why we repeat the same patterns;
validation received from others;
how we can speak to ourselves more gently;
comparison with others;
calm in the midst of chaos;
relationship with parents;
parenting, teenagers and boundaries;
how we teach children by our own example;
how we can ask ourselves daily: "is this an act of love towards me?"

⏱Chapters
00:00 Intro
3:04 Why do we stay where it hurts?
6:10 Fear of change
10:41 Is love or fear holding us back in a relationship?
15:25 Why do we feel the need for validation?
21:02 How can we change and how do we relate to ourselves
27:10 Why can a quiet life seem boring?
31:55 Expecting the worst
36:04 How to change your perspective for a better life
38:17 Toxic relationship with parents
41:19 Where it is hardest for us to act
45:31 Ceraselei's childhood vs her daughters' childhood
49:09 Message for mothers
54:32 The biggest challenge for parents
56:13 Final message

💌Write to me in the comments: What is the place, relationship or situation where you felt that you were hurt, but still found it hard to leave?
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