Psychology of Composure: Be So Calm It Makes People Nervous
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Psychology of Composure: Be So Calm It Makes People Nervous
In this video we break down composure: what Stanford psychologist James Gross called "reappraisal," and why stepping in early changes the emotion while clamping down late only hides it. Gross's 1997 research found that holding a still face made your body's alarm louder, not quieter. Emily Butler's 2003 study went further: when one partner suppressed, it was the other partner's blood pressure that rose. Thomas Gilovich and Kenneth Savitsky showed that you believe your nerves are far more visible than they are, and that knowing this makes you a better speaker. Brad Bushman found that venting on a punching bag leaves you angrier and more aggressive, not calmer. Then five laws for holding your own setting when the room heats up, including Gerardo Ramirez and Sian Beilock's 2011 Science study on writing out your worry.
If you've ever kept a straight face through a heated meeting and then replayed it in the car for an hour, you already know the feeling this video is about.
Which law have you been getting wrong the longest? Naming it, the long exhale, emptying the worry, practising a little scared, or guarding your face? Be honest in the comments.
#psychology #EmotionalIntelligence #Composure #EmotionRegulation #Anxiety #StayCalm
Research referenced:
Gross, J.J. (1998). The emerging field of emotion regulation: An integrative review
Gross, J.J. & Levenson, R.W. (1997). Hiding feelings: The acute effects of inhibiting negative and positive emotion
Gross, J.J. & John, O.P. (2003). Individual differences in two emotion regulation processes
Gilovich, T., Savitsky, K. & Medvec, V.H. (1998). The illusion of transparency
Butler, E.A. et al. (2003). The social consequences of expressive suppression
Savitsky, K. & Gilovich, T. (2003). The illusion of transparency and the alleviation of speech anxiety
Bushman, B.J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame?
Kjærvik, S.L. & Bushman, B.J. (2024). Meta-analysis of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal
Ramirez, G. & Beilock, S.L. (2011), Science. Writing about testing worries boosts exam performance
Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.
Psychology of Composure: Be So Calm It Makes People Nervous
Psynapse Lab
126 views
Psychology of Composure: Be So Calm It Makes People Nervous
In this video we break down composure: what Stanford psychologist James Gross called "reappraisal," and why stepping in early changes the emotion while clamping down late only hides it. Gross's 1997 research found that holding a still face made your body's alarm louder, not quieter. Emily Butler's 2003 study went further: when one partner suppressed, it was the other partner's blood pressure that rose. Thomas Gilovich and Kenneth Savitsky showed that you believe your nerves are far more visible than they are, and that knowing this makes you a better speaker. Brad Bushman found that venting on a punching bag leaves you angrier and more aggressive, not calmer. Then five laws for holding your own setting when the room heats up, including Gerardo Ramirez and Sian Beilock's 2011 Science study on writing out your worry.
If you've ever kept a straight face through a heated meeting and then replayed it in the car for an hour, you already know the feeling this video is about.
Which law have you been getting wrong the longest? Naming it, the long exhale, emptying the worry, practising a little scared, or guarding your face? Be honest in the comments.
#psychology #EmotionalIntelligence #Composure #EmotionRegulation #Anxiety #StayCalm
Research referenced:
Gross, J.J. (1998). The emerging field of emotion regulation: An integrative review
Gross, J.J. & Levenson, R.W. (1997). Hiding feelings: The acute effects of inhibiting negative and positive emotion
Gross, J.J. & John, O.P. (2003). Individual differences in two emotion regulation processes
Gilovich, T., Savitsky, K. & Medvec, V.H. (1998). The illusion of transparency
Butler, E.A. et al. (2003). The social consequences of expressive suppression
Savitsky, K. & Gilovich, T. (2003). The illusion of transparency and the alleviation of speech anxiety
Bushman, B.J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame?
Kjærvik, S.L. & Bushman, B.J. (2024). Meta-analysis of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal
Ramirez, G. & Beilock, S.L. (2011), Science. Writing about testing worries boosts exam performance
Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.