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Changing My Thinking Was Hard Until I Understood THIS!

David Bayer

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In this episode, David discusses the concept of the "unsolvable problem," a recurring challenge that persists despite all efforts to resolve it. These problems can manifest in various aspects of life, such as financial struggles, relationship issues, health concerns, or the search for purpose. David shares a personal story about a friend who was exhausted by unsuccessful attempts to find a partner, only to meet her future husband shortly after giving up the search. This example illustrates the idea that relentless effort can sometimes hinder rather than help.

David introduces the concept of a "core program," which is a deep-seated belief or trauma that drives these unsolvable problems. For instance, David's own belief that "something is wrong with me" led to chronic health issues, while his wife’s belief that she couldn’t trust others created challenges in her professional life. These core programs stem from early life traumas and continue to influence our lives, often in subtle ways.

David emphasizes that these problems cannot be resolved through typical personal development tools or external solutions. Instead, they require a process of surrender—acknowledging powerlessness and allowing a higher power, or God, to intervene. This approach is likened to the principles of the 12-step program, where surrendering control and placing trust in a higher power is key to overcoming these deep-seated issues.

0:00 - Introduction to Unsolvable Problems
0:37 - Personal Stories of Struggle
2:00 - Discovering the Core Program
3:32 - Core Traumas and Beliefs
5:03 - Repeated Life Challenges
5:58 - The Inability to Change Core Beliefs
6:48 - Anxiety and Health Issues
8:08 - Returning to 12-Step Programs
9:11 - Identifying Core Traumas
11:01 - Surrendering to a Higher Power
12:23 - Spiritual Surrender
13:17 - Letting Go of Control
14:48 - Trusting God's Plan
16:11 - Embracing Faith Over Fear
18:13 - Practical Steps for Surrender
21:02 - The Power of Surrender
22:22 - Closing and Final Thoughts

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20 Comments

@sebastiansfrazettae1099 1 year ago

I have this quote staring at me on my desk every day,
"Good morning, this is God I will be handling all your problems today. I will not need your help so have a good day! I love you!"

@ronaldmcgrath2344 2 years ago

Sharing your struggles doesn’t takeaway from your credibility, it adds to it. I appreciate and honor your authenticity. You inspired several insights for me today. Keep being you. You are making an impact. ❤

@AliciaJustice1980 2 years ago

Once I met an old man who gave me the best advice about worry. Despite having only one leg, he was the happiest person I'd ever encountered. He told me, "I always put my worries into one of two categories: things I can change and things I cannot. If I worry about something I can change, I change it. If I worry about something I cannot change, why worry?!" That man is in heaven now, but I'll never forget his wisdom.

@beautifullyunsettled 2 years ago

This episode is epic. Years ago, I was delivered exactly like this from an eating disorder that literally had me on my knees. Over the years I've considered how I could help others overcome the same thing, but the truth of the matter was I had no idea how it happened. It just disappeared. Nothing was overcome except my resistance. This is why your work resonates with me so much. Thank you 🙏

@patrickgalligan7770 2 years ago

A lot of people don't realize that the 12 step program was never supposed to be specifically for alcoholics. It got adopted for that, but it was meant for a much broader group of issues.

@cathyglascock1370 2 years ago

The problem is not yours to fight , it is the Lords to win.

@TheKngdom 2 years ago

Once you detach from outcome your manifestation comes to fruition!

@abbyg3346 6 months ago

That one word 'surrender' instantly made me cry and feel instant relief. I have tried so hard in two areas of my life I can now stop trying. Thank you 🙏❤

@dawnzigthestoryteller 2 years ago

David, I really love your channel. Shared. This episode really blew my mind. I’ve been through 12 step and recently have had financial issues - big ones - and I’m alone (orphaned family gone, divorced and couldn’t have kids) so doing this “on my own” almost took me down. I’ve made great money with a small biz I have in the past and lost hope. But as I began to let go I’ve noticed that miracles are happening, not as fast as I’d like - but actually right on time and with this message I know I’m very close to God now and I was programmed that “something is wrong with me” now I see this wound as a gift. Again, thank you 🙏🏼

@dontaefernandez 2 years ago (edited)

Man this hit deep. My core program is “I’m not good enough.” With a feeling of unworthiness. Manifests itself but never completing a project / cycle no matter how talented I am at starting things and getting traction.

Going to let go and Let God in on this one. Thank you David

@kimsemper 2 years ago

This has blown my mind! I'm 50 and still trying to figure out, why I'm unwell all the time. This hit a massive nerve.❤

@BrendanScholes 2 years ago

I honestly think I'm being devinely guided by you David every video I watch of yours most times randomly so relates to what is going on in my life at this exact moment and your videos line up with my feelings effortlessly once again I thank you David for my self awakening 🙌

@StrixVariant 9 months ago

Brother, this is BOOK NUMBER 2!!! You'll probably never see this, but my energetic prayer is that this topic, and this knowledge, births another book from you. This is powerful.

@maddytaylorbrandvold 1 year ago

Wow. When I listen to you I hear 100% truth and my soul is soothed by your beautiful calm and compassionate tone. Thank you so much. I am so glad I found your page. Nothing has resonated quite this deeply for me in my entire life. Beautiful beautiful beautiful. My spirit is uplifted thanks to you and I am inspired to let god into the places I cannot reach myself.

@asksteve_ca 2 years ago

David, I truly look forward to your videos. You're very easy to listen too. Thank you

@alexac8335 2 years ago

Please speak more on the ‘core programs’ in future episodes. This is powerful and explains a lot but would like to understand this more.

@alicegbemi 2 months ago

I’ve created a playlist called watch regularly, and they are all your videos. I’ll be adding this video, this teaching was exactly what I needed, I have felt so stuck and powerless about a particular area of my life , trying to solve it , but kept going round in circles. Thankyou so much , for answering Gods call , and impacting the world. You are changing my life and so many !!! ❤ you also have the same name as my late Dad, so I feel even more aligned to your work. Thankyou David ❤✨✨

@ScriptShaman 2 years ago

Once again….started my day hearing the answer to the problem I was facing when I went to sleep. Thank you David.

@mutatedillustration456 6 months ago

I truly appreciate this reminder to let go and let God. So similar to letting go of our pride to simply admit we need help from others, fighting a battle that isn't even ours to fight can be even harder to recognize.

@Robertborgerson 1 year ago

Listening to this I know what I need to do. It's back to A.A. I was never happier in my life, than when I was there and working with others. Thank-you David.