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I just cant imagine someone being a good person while also being friends with a malicious rapist

I remember when Gabbie Hanna first exposed what happened on an episode of her podcast and nobody took it seriously because of who said it

Something interesting to note: whenever Tana does the live Cancelled Podcast tours, she asks fans not to record and post videos when they’re there. If that fan never posted that video, this probably wouldn’t have blown up like it has right now.

As Hbomber once said, if you're caught for [something] once, you're bound to have done it multiple times.

Why can't public figures just be normal!? Seriously like how hard is it to just not be creepy towards kids!

I don't get why people think bringing up Tana being a party girl or how she dresses or behaved is a valid argument against her. Tana is a textbook example of the type of girls who get preyed on. She's from a tumultuous family background with no parental supervision. She's hanging around in adult spaces. She's old enough to feel grown but young enough to be very naive. She had just moved away from her home state and parents. She had just started blowing up and was probably not doing so great dealing from the sudden amount of scrutiny she was receiving over everything she did and said. And she's been Cody's fan since before she was 15

As a woman, there's this clarity that happens around your mid-twenties, thirties.  Where you become super aware of all the adult men that targeted you when you were most vulnerable.  You look back at parties and friend groups and even family members...and the lines they used on you. Lines that would never work on an adult woman but they knew would work on a girl desperately trying to feel like an adult or desperately trying to feel loved and seen.  I was watching a Doc on Netflix recently and it said that predators go after young people that have past trauma, for lots of reasons right, we have a less than solid support system, we see ourselves as more "adult" because of what we've been through, and this is important...people are less likely to believe us and we are less like to view ourselves as victims until much later in life.  You hear adult men defend their attraction and relationships with literal children, young women who's brains aren't finish growing...by saying, oh she's "mature" for her age, "she's wise", "she's not like other teenagers, she's quiet and she's lived".  But its bull. A girl that's been hurt or had to take on adult responsibilities is still a GIRL. You're targeting her because she has the body of a woman and the mind, experience, and self autonomy of a child.  You're hooking up with her because she's easily impressed, doesn't see through your bullsh*t, and is desperate to be loved.  These guys get in a habit of dating and seeking out 16, 17, 18 year olds cuz its easy and the girls are so adoring.  And the messed up thing is it'll be years before they understand what happened to them and they were scammed, their bodies used and not respected, used as props in fantasies and not as vulnerable children.  That, "quiet, mature, deep, crazy-smart-for-her-age, GIRL", leave her alone!! Let her heal and figure herself out.  Let her date people her own age. Let her be a teenager.  Any you, either step up your game so you can approach women your own age or be alone. But being that guy always hitting on the youngest woman in the room, dating high schoolers and college girls well into adulthood...we see you, we get it now, and we will call you out for being sad, gross, and a predator.

I said it in the comments of D'Angelo's video, and I'll paraphrase it here.
I am a 25 y/o man. 17-year-olds are not my peers. They're gangly kids who need their parents' permission to hang out with friends on a school night. They're the high schoolers I tutor. They're my youngest cousin, who's just starting to fully grasp that there's a whole world of people outside the friends he grew up with. They can't vote, they can't drink, and many of them can't drive. They have So. Much. Growing left to do.
The difference between me and them, in terms of brain development and life experience, is absolutely staggering. That difference stacks so much power in my favor that it sickens me. To pursue someone sexually with that level of power over them is predatory, full stop. And if you're also a minor celebrity they already look up to? Fucking forget about it.
I hate when people use these situations to nitpick over age of consent shenanigans (i.e. "she was basically 18!"), when the literal number of years someone's been alive is not the actual problem. The problem is the difference in power, and it's why I as a 25-year-old man absolutely cannot see myself being attracted to someone more than 3-ish years younger than me. Even undergrad college students feel like starry-eyed kids to me now. I don't think there's any justifying Cody's behavior.

I’ve seen too many people arguing that Tana was close enough to 18 that it doesn’t make a difference, but dude, we aren’t playing darts. The age of consent is not a target for you to hit. You don’t win because her age was “close enough”. She was not an adult and it was not appropriate for him to take advantage of his influence to sleep with her.

As someone who is the same age as Cody was when it happened, it’s horrific thinking about sleeping with a 17 year old. They act like children because they are children. They do not have anywhere close to the same life experience as a 25 year old so there is inevitably naivety there that shouldn’t be taken advantage of.

He was the adult, he should have done better. It’s not hard to not sleep with a 17 year old.

I’m 25 and honestly the thought of dating someone 21 would be weird. But someone young enough to be in high school… that’s horrifying. The older I get, the more disgusted I get with the ‘she looked over 18’. No. Everyone who is a teenager looks like a teenager. Full stop.

So glad to see Tana’s age addressed. So many people are arguing about her age and even if they know she was 17, they argue about the morality of “well, it’s two months before 18….” which is just. ugh. no.

As someone who's experienced something similar to Tana, in terms of having to grow up far too early, it definitely rings true.

You do things you think you understand, and it's fine in the moment, but in retrospect... what kind of adult allows that to happen... disgusting..

She was sexualized and sexually exploited so much that this one incident doesn't feel traumatic to her 8 years later. So many people are taking that as an excuse to say it doesn't matter.

Im so glad you mention Angelika's video! Everyone has been talking about how D'Angelo brought this all to light, and it always bothered me that no one gave Angelika props for making that video back then before there was pressure to speak out about  cody ko.

I'll always prefer to apologize for thinking someone's a rapist than apologizing to someone for not believing they were raped. I don't like Tana, but of course I'll believe her.

this whole situation is so upsetting, it feels like once someone hits a certain amount of popularity it gets to their head and they think they cant get caught for anything

edit: in a way cody ko really wont get caught in the sense that he wont get punished, he wont go to jail or anything. The worst that can happen is he loses a couple thousand followers, however at the end of the day he'll still have a good nights sleep and a full belly

IMO - If it happened to Tana - it happened to others. You cannot tell me based on the evidence we can see that Cody just thought Tana was the one exception. That’s what’s sickening & sad.

I will say, out of all of this shittiness, I am glad that we now live in a time period where someone can say "I was 17 (or 16, 18, 19, etc. just... teen ) and got with someone who was 25 - 26(+)" and people will now actually say, yeah that's gross and not okay. Because it really is not okay. That sort of thing for so long has been so normalised like, "oh they just like older men/women" not "that adult hooking up with teens is a fucking creep"
I "dated" someone who was 26 when I was 17, so I can speak from direct experience when I say any adult willing to get with anyone who has the -teen suffix on their age, is fucking gross. I'm glad this is a more common realisation now. Trust me, especially to any young girls out there: hooking up with older guys is not the flex you want it to be, you are being taken advantage of. Please get away from those people; they will not show you respect, love, or care.