If my boyfriend told my dad he wasn’t allowed to fix something for me I would break up with him and I’m not even kidding. That’s gross.

The boyfriend that is mad about dad fixing the car gives off the vibe of a person who always promises to do something and never gets around to it. The symptoms look like something that needs to be addressed ASAP.

On the bf being mad that Dad fixed the car after *over* a week: huge red flag that bf is actively blowing up Daughter's support instead of joining in on Team Daughter.

Definitely a red flag from boyfriend that he tells his girlfriend's dad that he's stepping on his toes. Especially when he dropped the ball.

Well he gave her 11 years of guilt trip and now she gets to guilt trip him FOREVER 😂!

In NYC, letting people know when their stop is, especially when they don’t know IS part of the bus drivers job.

Re: the bus story

It’s actually not that easy to see your surroundings in all cities/towns with buses. In my college town, streetlights were not guaranteed and if it was dark, even the streetlights couldn’t save me sometimes. Definitely not in time to pull the string. If it weren’t for the buses there automatically announcing next stops, I would have been lost constantly.

The setup story reminds me of FRIENDS episode where Joey invites Phebs for a double date, forgets to find a guy for her and last minute says "His name is Mike". Then Joey goes into the coffee house and yells "MIKE?" until a random someone answered. lol

My husband would be thrilled my car is safe to drive. He would actually take care of it immediately but if I had someone else able to help me- dad or any other person- my husband would be happy because it’s about me being safe not his ego to fix something

NTA.The sister in law who keeps videoing her family, and trying to control every family event for her content, should've been stopped by everyone the first time she took over Xmas. The fact that she doesn't care how she's making everyone feel, especially the kids, shows that she's a selfish person and doesn't care about anyone else's feelings, including her own kids or her niece.

Oooo, the car one pisses me off.

I have a family member married to someone like this. They refuse to let anyone help and get really mad when someone else finally steps in, but they're completely useless and won't fix the problem themselves. To the point where their kids have gotten injured by his "quick fix" after refusing FREE help from another family member who is a professional and could have done an infinitely better job.

That one commenter was right, he's more concerned about his ego than his girlfriend's safety. She needs to RUN.

Regarding the jerk who guilted his wife about losing the necklace.... He is a colossal AH. I lost my engagement ring soon after my husband and I got engaged. I was devastated. I bawled. My (now) husband helped me search. We were so broke that neither of us could afford another (it was only $60). He went out and got a credit card to buy me another. Guys take a lesson from my husband; be a Jeff. Don't be the loser from this story.

Edited to add: buying me another is not the important part. The important part is that he comforted me and supported me even though I lost the ring he bought me. He is a peach.

Even with street lights on outside the bus, it might be harder to read your surroundings if lights are also on inside the bus.

"Fixing My Daughter's Car" - it is a shame the boyfriend didn't see this as an opportunity. He could have asked the dad, who is obviously good with cars, to show  him a thing or two. It would have been a great way to hang out and get to know each other, while making you look good to the dad for going the extra mile. Thomas Edison once said, "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."

1:40 "hey man, quit stalking my wife before you get a knuckle sandwich"

Car brakes: NTA. BF ignored your daughter's safety. At that point it was your job to step in. BF is not only AH, he is a big red flag.
BTW, He has a huge attitude problem and you are not the one getting in the middle. I think he means to teach your daughter that he controls his time and she will wait until he gets around to looking at her problems and that she had exaggerated her importance.

Please make sure that he's not now controlling her access to you and what she is allowed to tell you. That would mean her safety is compromised for his control.

The boyfriend who is mad at the dad about fixing his daughters car is absolutely the AH! He is also being openly disrespectful to OP, knowing he is her dad! This boyfriend is controlling and is displaying signs of an abuser.  Daughter needs to seriously reconsider that relationship!

As a former early morning bus rider I can tell you that the interior of the bus is well-lit, whereas the streetlights are much less bright. So looking out the window is often not helpful. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do to get to work.
When I rode the bus in Budapest I showed the driver a map and indicated my desired stop (Hungarian street names are difficult to pronounce correctly). Every driver announced my stop every time. It isn't the driver's job to extend basic courtesy? It isn't asking for the moon to ask the driver to announce my stop.

22:07 in German when a subtle hint doesn't do it, we say we give a wave/ hint with a fence post. SIL seems to need that.

I wonder if the bus patron has a visual impairment. It could explain why he has to take the bus and why he would try to time the stop instead of seeing it. He may have RP and have poor vision in low light but not need a cane or guide dog to get around.