as a disabled person, i think it’s important to note that there is a HUGE difference between saying that disabled people shouldnt exist and saying that if possible you want to avoid putting unnecessary suffering on your future child. one is literal eugenics, and the other is a completely normal thought process and opinion

How does that girl not realize that marriage is about two family's coming together??? If you don't won't kids fine - don't marry him. She also seems to not understand what children are like and needs more realistic expectations

The step-mother annoyed me- I went to a wedding this weekend and the bride was marrying a guy with a 9 year old daughter. Daughter was a prominent member of the bridal party, and then at the speeches the bride got up and spoke directly to the daughter, telling her how much she loved her and how she couldn't wait to watch her grow up. Bride cried, daughter cried, everyone cried. Kids deserve love from their caregivers and if you marry a man, you also marry his kids. Same rules apply if you switch the genders.

What do you bet that the girlfriend made up the excuse that her apartment would “be too obvious” because she knows her friend’s a crap roommate, and wanted to pawn her off on someone else? And now that the boyfriends kicked her friend out, the girlfriend is actually pissed because her place is the last resort.

The one abt the boyfriend being weirded out by his girlfriend saying “I love you” to her brother hit me hard. I always, ALWAYS tell my brother “I love you” after we hang out, because there was a time when he was extremely suicidal. This made me realize that him not always being here was a possibility, if the depression had it’s way. So now it’s just a habit to say “I love you” to him daily, and honestly it weirds me out that some people have a problem with that.

EDIT: First off, I want to say how much I empathize with the people in the replies who are going through the same thing. I'm tearing up going through all these responses, you are all so kind and sweet. I did not expect my comment to get any likes or replies so this much engagement is overwhelming lol.

Anyway, I want to clear up some confusion-- I understand that the boyfriend is most likely insecure with his relationship-- I was looking at this from MY personal perspective: "if my future partner has a problem with me saying 'I love you' to my brother". Basically, why I am personally weirded out by my future partner not being okay with me telling my brother I love him-- not you being uncomfortable with saying "I love you" to ppl(like I ONLY rlly say "I love you" to my bro, because of the above so I get it), but my hypothetical future partner lol. Sorry if my bad wording caused confusion! <3

In connection to the ableist story, I once interviewed a mom that had a genetic condition but decided to have 5 kids, 4 boys and 1 girl. All of them ended up having the condition, with the girl being a carrier. All 4 sons did not live past the age of a teenager, dying due to complications. So yes, I think it is understandable to not want children in fear of passing a genetic condition.

i'm confused by the first one...so he didn't get kicked out for BEING gay, he got kicked out for TELLING PEOPLE about it?? And that somehow makes it better???

The step mom wedding one seems like immaturity and jealousy, she wants to be the only woman in his life and cannot accept that his children and ex-wife are a package deal, she knew this before agreeing to marriage lol…wicked step mom vibes

Hey Dylan,
I’m disabled and wanted to talk about the AITA story about vED. The friend is WAY out of line, there is a huge difference between visual impairment or blindness then a fatal disability. Blind & Deaf individuals don’t considered themselves to be “broken”, those communities love and appreciate their disability and their community. They live their lives differently than a “normal” person, and that’s not to say that it isn’t difficult- because it 1000% is.

But to tell someone that it’s abelist to  not want to watch their child live with a progressive, painful, and fatal disease? That’s disgusting and extremely rude. I live with chronic illness everyday from multiple disabilities, and it will never get better for me just worse. I would never want to bring a child into this world with the possibility that they might share a fraction of the pain I live with. It’s so frustrating knowing that people like that friend exist.

I’m a firm believer that if someone wants you to refer to them as a certain pronoun or chosen name, then you should respect their wishes, it’s just common decency. That being said, if some douche-canoe started getting into a verbal fight with me in order to get me to call them by their professional title exclusively, I’d go outta my way to come up with the most stupid nickname possible for them and use it excessively, for the rest of time.

"he needs to be the bigger person"
weren't his parents bigger than him when they kick him out?? not to mention fully consient adults and knowing perfectly what they were doing

I’m honestly so glad that kid told their dad’s wife about how he treated them. Cause like how could you be with someone who literally says that their child “killed” their mother and blames them for something they literally had no control over??
If I was with someone and found out they did that, I would leave them INSTANTLY LOL

The fact that this doctor feels entitled enough to FORCE people to remind him of his profession and his alleged succsess each time they wanna address him screams narcissism. You command respect not demand it

The doctor thing is so stupid to me - how insecure and at the same time stuck up do you have to be to require people to refer to your as Dr. in casual conversation? I would probably be petty and just not use his first name ever again, but start calling him pet-names (buddy, pal, dude) to drive him nuts or call him like Doctor J or Doc.

there’s a difference between not wanting to give ALREADY LIVING people with disabilities opportunities and assistance because of those existing abilities, and not wanting to have a kid KNOWING that they will go through their entire life in pain.

I love how creative Dylan is with his sponsorships, they get better each video

about the woman concerned about passing the vEDS gene to her potential kids: this doesn't even have to be a disability discussion, this can be ended at her having the choice to do or not do with her own body as she chooses. if she doesn't want kids for whatever reason, that's valid, end of discussion. also i think there's a big difference between something like visual impairment (like the friend's family member had) and a syndrome that WILL kill you very painfully. there are enough kids without families out there. she can just adopt one.

Re: Kicking the girl out, I stayed at my friends' house for 4 days and I vacuumed every room, did the dishes, and folded laundry because I felt I had to pay them back for the food/bed/bath. Can't imagine staying with someone for 2 months without helping out 😭

As someone going into genetic counseling not having kids due to such a serious condition is actually a very responsible choice. The trauma that surrounds someone being born with a death sentence is horribly complicated both medically and emotionally. Also comparing disabilities that aren’t fatal to those that are is like comparing how to treat a cold to how to treat cancer.

dylan, buddy, i need you to stop with these sponsorship segways. it's literally so humiliating to fall for them every single time. i don't know how much more of this embarrassment i can take.