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Why Do Men Avoid Emotional Intimacy ? #marriagecounseling #relationshiphelp #emotionalconnection

Dr. David Hawkins

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Dr. David Hawkins sits down with Dr. Eddie Capparucci to uncover the real reason many men struggle with emotional connection — it's not because they don’t love their wives, it's because of relational blind spots, and fear-driven patterns. You’ll learn:
👉 Why men think things are "fine" while their partner feels emotionally neglected
👉 How men and women view love differently
👉 The role of their family upbringing and attachment wounds
👉 Why emotional intimacy triggers fear and anxiety in many men

This conversation brings clarity to a question women ask all the time: “Why doesn’t he get it—even when I’ve explained it a hundred times?”

If you feel unseen, unheard, or emotionally alone in your relationship, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening—and what the path to change requires.

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20 Comments

@drkathweisel-plumbpsy.d9101 5 months ago

THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME FEEL SANE. HUSBAND SAID 'I MARRIED YOU. WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT? The entire marriage was me, the wife struggling to make him satisfied. His food, his family, his career, his aches and pains. I became invisible and lost everything. My self confidence, my career, my friends, my health. 40 year marriage and he is emotionally a 6 year old, alcoholic and he cast me into the role of his mother. 20 year sexless marriage. Terrifying.

@chrissa1013 5 months ago

In my case it came down the maternal line from his autistic grandmother to his autistic mother to autistic him.

He can’t sit with a deep emotion, but sure faked it well enough while dating to trick me until he switched up after marriage.

I feel robbed by his selfishness. I chose what I dated, not what he hid from me that gave me no choice in a binding legal contract that took me 27 years of confusion to define what was even going on=Emotional Immaturity mixed with autism.

@KMRAND 5 months ago

My husband won’t kiss me or make eye contact when being intimate. He stares at the headboard above my head…. It’s heartbreaking.

@grannyjclay-joannieholdhus925 4 months ago

I have to share this with you. I made a previous comment on this video. Since that time, my husband has been diagnosed with Autism-level 1. I had asked him to take the spectrum tests because I suspected there was something more to his story. I can tell you that it has helped me tremendously to know this. We are going to find proper counseling for both of us from those who have been schooled in this area. We have been married 56 yrs and we’ve had issues throughout those years that seemed to rotate and come back time after time - no resolve whatsoever. Now, I no longer see him as the enemy who is “trying to cause me to suffer” but someone who needs help to work through damaging issues between us. God flipped a switch in my ❤ and now I have nothing but compassion for him and a desire to work through all of it with him. God is so amazing.

@KhassiaK 4 months ago

Just listening to this discussion brings up frustration on my part. I'm beginning to think with so little emotional development happening in the home conflated with things like the Red Pill Movement AKA the 'Manosphere', we women are really up for nothing but compounded issues with men. Add entitlement, abuse and power & control dynamics and you have a recipe for disaster. I'm honestly scared for the next generations.

Having said that, what interventions could happen more broadly to counter this? It would have to be something consistent throughout a child's life on up to adulthood, not to mention some kind of emotional rehab for men. Private counseling sessions clearly aren't cutting it.

@grannyjclay-joannieholdhus925 5 months ago

Soooooooooo good!! Thank you!!!❤ Both me and my husband are in counseling (separate counselors right now) and this is a huge part of our 56 yr marriage. Thank you so much! God bless both of you!

@bronwynthomson8944 5 months ago (edited)

Dr Hawkins you are hilarious "Carrier pigeons and hieroglyphics". Its true though 😂 Thank you for your amazing work. Also, Thank you Dr Capparucci that was profound 😊

@nancycordero-severance7661 4 months ago (edited)

Why is that I can express and embody the courage of 2 men but my husband cant sit in a perceaved uncomfortable space of Emotional intimacy with me? Question of the year.

@thrivingyourway 5 months ago

Love the two of you together! This was so insightful. Thank you!

@estherjoy6236 5 months ago

Very interesting! And Thank you for this Honest conversation! But I think all relationships need the same thing if there is to be honest connection! We all need to learn! I grew up in a house in the 1960’s and that generation for my parents was “we just do not talk” So, as a women I needed to learn how to understand emotions and connection in relationships! I learned by becoming a born agin Christian so Jesus and the Holy Spirit ( which is called a teacher and counselor) taught me and reparented me! Thank you Lord! My parents did what they knew! And they just did not know! Sad but True! God Bless them! ❤️ They did a lot of other things right though! ❤️Connecting to the Lord Jesus is the best and He taught me what real Love and connection is! And yes there are higher expectations in marriage than in friendships in the desire to want to connect (deeply) intimately (emotionally) and spiritually! It is difficult when it does not happen when one person can not or does not want that!

@ValinaHansen 5 months ago

Something i learned from Harville and Helen in A New Way to Love was better providing a safe space for the vulnerable conversations to happen and expressing my needs with requests for something measurable-- not vague or subjective.

@eurodelano 4 months ago

If a man complains about his wife not wanting sex with him anymore it’s because he killed her libido by ignoring her needs. Eventually, the woman loses her attraction for him.

@Kimberlylechnick 5 months ago

Great discussion gentlemen. In a world where we are relying on labels, you are getting to the heart of the matter.

@nancycordero-severance7661 4 months ago

Identification of the Problem is first. But can we please have a video on what an emotionally mature conversation & interaction between a couple looks like and sounds like? Please

@arecipeforbeauty 5 months ago

So grateful to have listened to you both on this topic. VERY accurate and a much needed conversation for all to hear. Thank you both for the hope that you are getting people out there like me.. ❤🙏⚓️

@ValinaHansen 5 months ago

Thank you so much for continuing to bring your experiences and perspectives forward for those of us seeking answers and reminders. By the grace of God, I greatly benefitted from finding the Marriage Recovery Center. Ernest Hart was a great blessing as my counselor.

@missddly 5 months ago

Where is Part 2? I need that.

@jasmine3416 5 months ago

Can’t wait for more

@TracyThomas1214 1 month ago

My husband said he "erased" his abuse: i have said --that can't happen! It will ooze out! In horrible ways!

@Samanthasupernovaa 4 months ago

11:51 gosh just listening to you already stresses me out! And it sucks to feel unheard. It’s really sad! I hate being misunderstood so much! That’s why I broke up with my last boyfriend. I love him so much. I really wanted to be with him. I love him so much but I just couldn’t get him to understand or learn and I know he loves me. I know that he feels like he really loved me but he just wouldn’t. I don’t know. It sucks so bad.