Probably because high school isn't real life?

I don’t really care about “high school popularity.” I only care about my friends/friend group!

It’s hard to find a social group to stick around after something ends. College/HS friends split. Often times you won’t talk to the people you used to once you leave a job/sports team.

And now, once you’ve left that social group, those people you hung out with everyday, you’d be lucky if they even checked in on you once a year.

Plans after high school:
🔹Plan A trillion-dollar grindset.
🔹Plan B ctrl+Alt+Delete.

Popular kids are the mosquitos of highschools

Imagine peaking in middle school

Where I went, during highschool, I feel like nobody cared about "high school popularity" which I'm grateful for. You could literally socialize with anyone without fear of getting bullied or whatever. In fact there was no such thing as a "popular Jock who bullies a bunch of nerdy kids". If there was, pretty much everyone in the school would outcast this person.

I was the weird girl throughout school that was bullied a lot. I secretly wanted to be part of the popular kids, even though they weren’t the nicest people. Eventually I realized how dumb popularity is in high school during my senior year and that I don’t have to see these people ever again. Now I’m a lot more comfortable with myself and made some great friends that like me for me

High School genuinely left me with trauma and self loathing. My life instantly improved the moment I went to college.

I can confirm the most popular kid in my grade ended up being the most hated after hs. He got kicked out of college, got an assault charge, and crashes parties when not invited. Dude lives a genuinely sad life now

We tend to lose friends as we get older. Most of us are not friends with the people we knew during high school. We grow up, become working adults, and find new social circles.

so glad I only cared about learning and having a good time in high school. I had a solid circle of friends and good grades - that's all that mattered.

One time a popular girl had befriended and confided in me. She asked if I ever felt fake, I said no. She said she was into anime and was afraid of being teased for it, but saw me with anime merch or cosplay to school on Halloween and wanted to know "how I was so confident" doing so. I told her that after being bullied a lot in middle school, I stopped caring what people thought and did what I wanted to do. I hope helped her.

Tessa I hope you're ok girl <3

Popular kids are kinda made for the real world since you need good social skills to have high positions in life. Introverted people may not have the connections to success. Of course it’s all depends on the person.

I knew that my high school reputation of being that quite non popular girl meant nothing when I left for a summer educational program. During my stay in that program, I was very popular and I formed so many connections. I figured out I wasn’t the problem, I just needed a better environment to let myself shine to others.

I feel like I got an advantage in this regard because I went fully online during freshman year of HS. Used to screw around 24/7 in middle school because I was obsessed with what other people thought about me, especially because I was fat and obviously got bullied for it. Then Covid hit and I pretty much became a hermit for 4 years. I actually started studying after gaming and watching tv got boring and I stopped caring about social crap. It helps that I started to work out but my confidence is now through the roof. I genuinely don’t understand why some people are so obsessed with looking cool or being popular so I just do whatever tf I want and it tends to work. That freedom can be a huge de-stressor when I see all of my friends worried about not looking cool or associating with “uncool” people and I just do it now not giving a damn.
It’s really freeing when you stop caring what people think about you or what they say especially when their opinions have nothing to really merit the weight other people give them. Like why tf do I care what a dude on the football team says about another dude and why do I care about what the part time twitch streamer says? Just be you cuz none of this is gonna matter in a year or two.

I experienced these in middle school and high school I noticed a lot of the time, people just want to impress each other. Lots of drama and gossip goes all around the school because someone did something. Sticking to a friend group or a few trusted people was what mattered the most and tbh they were the reasons why I had a good school year.

The crazy thing is, after you max out as the most popular highschool senior at your school all you can do is sink like a large stone in a deep pond.

Because they never know the meaning of failure everything handed to them in a sliver platter.

My own experience in high school is that popularity wasn't really a thing. Probably because I didin't talk to most people and was never interested in them. But it usually was like you have ur freind group and that's that.

As someone who was practically a reject in high school, it does get better if you allow yourself. Try to learn from your past mistakes and behaviors and make peace with yourself. I’m currently in my early twenties and I’ve never been happier. You’ll know when you find your people, and it doesn’t have to be limited to your hometown. There’s a whole world of people out there like you