I love it when you say "the trans experience" bc it feels like im part of an exclusive club or something and im getting the the full trans experience

"The Trans Experience" sounds like an amazing psychedelic rock band from the 60s. I love it. I want it to exist as the next big LGBTQ+ music group.

Woaw, not gonna lie, it is so comforting to see that all these people are going through the same struggles as I do

Love that, makes me feel less miserable, actuallly, happy

I definitely lean towards being T4T. I share more experiences and interests with other trans people, but I'm honestly just attracted to androgyny. Anyone who plays around with gender is hot

Hi Noah! You have given me and my best friend the courage to come out as trans and we both adore you, thank you

As a cis woman, I would like to say something about the gender euphoria thing. There are instances where I've experienced "gender euphoria", but I wouldn't say it's a common thing, those are basically rare occasions when I'm dressing up for like a party, a concert or other special occasion. And it's basically like being proud of how well you've put that all together (outfit, hair, makeup, accesories...) to fit your body and personality. There are also instances where I've felt "gender dysphoria". I suffer from hyperthyroidism and one of the things it causes is the excess growth of body hair. And having really dark hair and pale skin on top of that, it is extremely well visible in my case and it also grows faster than what would the norm for a healthy person be and grows on places where women's bodies typically don't grow hair (not talking about peach fuzz). Having to shave every day (not an exageration btw) if you're a woman can really lower your self esteem and make you feel really sh*tty about your body.

Now, I put both gender euphoria and gender dysphoria in quotes, because what I'm experiencing is not the real gender dysphoria/euphoria. Tho the dysphoria in my case is linked to my gender, if I wasn't a woman, I wouldn't get the short stick from having more than normal body hair and certainly wouldn't even care.

I can relate to some of trans people experience (it goes much deeper than just a body hair, I don't have time to write it all and I'm sure no one has the time to read a whole-ass novel of a comment either), but I will never relate 100% as I can never get the full trans experience and I know that. That's also one of the reasons why I'm here, so I can learn something about the trans experience. I also have to say, that this is just me and I don't think a majority of cis people will be the same, mainly because I'm also neurodivergent and don't really have any significant relationship with my gender, all feelings about my gender are related to the things I've described prior in this comment.

I started crying when I told my bf I’m nonbinary I was absolutely terrified. The first words out of his mouth, “So what would you like me to call you?” And then came out as bisexual😭❤️

I'm non-binary and yeah, it's really hard to get people to see me as non-binary. For those in the know about identities and labels, I'm demigirl. For those not, I'm "mostly don't care but definitely not a guy." People see my with my big chest, my daughter who looks just like me, and my bearded husband and just default to she/her and forget I'm not cis-het.

I know it's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, but with the person who said "cis people look in the mirror and dont feel distress", I feel like thats not completely true. I'm a cis woman but I've dealt with self hatred due to my weight for years (getting better recently but in my teens I went though a long phase where I had to cover all mirrors) and hormone imbalances (that aren't being treated properly) have caused lots of excess facial hair and hair loss on my head, so I can't think of a time when I've looked in the mirror and not felt distress.

Like I said, I know that's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, and would never ever try to say that they're the same or that I know how trans people feel or that I have it worse because I 100% do not. But I liked what the next person said about it being more nuanced. Obviously cis people don't experience gender dysphoria, but it doesn't mean that we don't experience dysphoria in general/related to other things.

Really enjoyed this video, I really like it when you do reactions and point out more complexities and nuances :)

As a cis guy, I don’t really experience gender euphoria in any way. Like, I just am a guy, it’s not positive or negative, it just is.

Logically, my full gender identity would be agender trans, since I feel euphoric when I think of myself as a gender neutral guy, but I don't like the idea of tying myself to either binary gender. I find some aspects of being trans as relatable, but I don't associate with the label itself.

Additionally, due to my social anxiety, I have to tolerate people using my birth name, and the wrong pronouns. I just lack that ability to speak up about that sort of thing because I don't want to come off as an attention seeker :/

I’m a cisgender woman and I’m perfectly comfortable with that label and she/her pronouns, however sometimes being perceived as female still makes me extremely uncomfortable in certain situations, for example when I was in college there were only 4 girls in my class and the teacher would always say “I’m sure the girls want to be a group” or something like that and it would make me extremely uncomfortable. If I do/say something and someone says “why do girls always do that” I literally FLIP at them, or the fact that every time I told someone I was in college they’d say “let me guess, hair and beauty?”. I’ve thought about they/them pronouns but I’ve realised I am a woman and I like being a woman, but these preconceived opinions and judgements everybody automatically has about women and how we should and shouldn’t be or what we should and shouldn’t want are very offensive and dehumanising in a way. So I wouldn’t say “gender euphoria” is necessarily something cis people experience

As a very young transguy, I wish I wasn't trans, but oh well, I hope the world is better for transgender people when I am 18+, and I hope my family accepts me.

As a trans teen, this video was really interesting!  I understood where they were coming from and it made sense even if I disagreed with them.

When I say I’m “the best of both worlds” it’s as a joke, and it’s me I always put me down
But if someone else where to do it to me I’d never talk to them again.
It’s Fetishising Vs personal jokes
It’s like how you can joke with your best friends in ways you can’t joke with mutuals

im a very femme presenting non-binary person, i wear dresses, makeup, have longer hair, very typically ‘girly’ things. im not out to anyone but my friends cause i know my parents and family won’t understand. it’s hard to constantly be misgendered and it’s draining. i cant be myself fully cause it’s not safe for me but im thankful for the friends around me that respect my pronouns and shit. it means the world to me to have that place when i can’t get it in my own house.

Fun fact: trans teens backwards is sneet snart

I’m a trans teen. I feel this

Honestly, I feel like I wouldn't be the same person if I was a cisgender man. I've had so many experiences as a trans man (as well as when I lived as a woman) that shaped who I am, and I feel like without those I'd be a completely different person.

On the gender euphoria and cis people thing- I’m a cis lesbian, and often joke that I’m “ancient in queer years” because I came out at 10 and am in my mid-30s now and the queer world that I grew up in was a very different space (I suppose so is the whole world, in general). But one thing I think that sometimes gets overlooked is that cis queer folks often have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks. And maybe this is also a bit different now both because being queer has become a lot more normalized and we now have more words for and discussions around gender identity.

But certainly when I was a wee bitty lez and knew no lesbians in my personal life and there were like three semi famous lesbians in existence (Melissa Etheridge, KD Lang, Ellen 😂) I remember first feeling like I was “supposed to” look a certain way as a lesbian. I also grew up with like… a weird sort of reverse gender dysphoria. Like I knew I was a girl and I wanted to be a girl but had this secret fear I might actually be a boy? I wonder in retrospect if some of it may have been early internalized homophobia. But I remember hating wearing my hair up because I’d study my face and just be convinced I looked masculine. Or at 18 or 19 I started having serious issues with PCOS and rupturing ovarian cysts and my first one when they went to ultrasound me at the ED, I felt such a strange… dysphoria. Like I had exactly the parts I wanted to have but almost couldn’t believe it?

I don’t know. I’ve heard other lesbians say they’ve experienced similar. It was also in my late teens, that despite growing up a bit of a “tomboy” and fighting with my mom who was always forcing my into dresses that I really grew to embrace my own femininity. But I also think… while I may and do pass as hetero, what being femme means to me as a queer woman is a very different and uniquely queer and frankly, powerful/empowering thing. (In some ways I can almost relate to being like the lesbian version of an androphile. A femophile? Lol. Because there is like a total delight for me in all things female, that I’m pretty sure would be totally foreign and weird and not relatable to hetero women)

So for me, when I like really out intention into what I’m wearing and how I present or this time I went to a drag king show and was the youngest person in the room of a lot of very old school butch/femme paired lesbians- my gosh I’ve never felt more confidentially and fantastically and fully myself and in my own body and uniquely queer femininity.

So anyway- I can’t speak for hetero cis women or even other cis queer folks. But gender euphoria is definitely something I do feel. And dysphoria in its own way is also something I’ve known. I think a lot of cis queer people feel aspects of that or that it was more common before queerness became more accepted and normalized. It’s also why I’ll never understand the “LGB without the T” types. Because the whole compulsory heterosexuality or hetero as default thing is very interconnected with rigid gender stereotypes and policing. And queer folks of all stripes tend to have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks, if you really get down to it.