In this episode, the BZW and BZE talk about how feeling understood in relationships can affect stress, well-being, and even physical symptoms. They discuss how anxiety is often misunderstood by partners and family members, and how advice or pressure can sometimes leave people feeling invalidated.


They also focus on validation as a practical response, including finding the kernel of truth in what someone is feeling and saying things like “that makes sense” or “I can see this is hard for you.” They explain the difference between offering solutions and offering support, and suggest asking whether someone wants advice, validation, or something else.


HIGHLIGHTS:


1:36 Feeling Seen, Feeling Stressed


3:54 When Loved Ones Miss It


5:45 Fixing Versus Validating


8:44 Why Validation Works


12:13 Find the Kernel of Truth


14:22 The Need to Feel Known


16:30 Practical Takeaways for Partners





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How to Know a Person (book): https://a.co/d/04qD6vzj





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