I have been a fan of MilesJai for over a decade and this is my first time ever commenting on a video. I have witnessed Connor in person.

Sorry this going to be a long read:

To give context, I’m in a gay interracial relationship. (I’m Black and my boyfriend is White) A month ago (July 2026) We were visiting Atlanta and were at a bar that Connor was at. We weren’t alone as my two cousins made us a group of four. We were at a table in our own conversation enjoying the night. My boyfriend is standing at the edge of the table instead of sitting and I’m in sitting in a chair intimately close to him. I see Connor glance over a couple times and I catch him eyeing my boyfriend. (My boyfriend is a tall masc presenting muscle bear) I think nothing of it it’s a gay bar people are going to look.

Connor decides to walk over to our table introduce himself to my boyfriend and does not acknowledge the other three of us. (Two black males, one black female) Connor shakes my boyfriend’s hand then leaves out the bar and my boyfriend finds a napkin in his hand. In said napkin is Connor’s phone number, Instagram handle, and a short message saying. “I live three blocks away”. My boyfriend immediately throws the napkin away. There’s hand sanitizer at the bar and my boyfriend damn near empties the thing. It’s a big eye roll at the table over what just happened.

The night continues and we eventually leave the bar. My boyfriend and I walk out holding hands and my cousins are right behind us. Connor is talking to a bouncer and immediately catches my boyfriend’s attention. My boyfriend looks at him and proceeds to kiss my hand right in front of him and the four of us laugh at him as we walk off to the next bar.

To add to MilesJai’s discussion, in my opinion (again just an  opinion on the internet) I think gay men like Connor subconsciously have those white centered ideologies where he saw my boyfriend and automatically assumed he was single being the only white person present at the table. Connor isn’t the only white gay we’ve encountered where there’s an automatic assumption we aren’t together and are strictly friends. I’m not big on PDA and am not the holding hands strolling down the street type but in some gay spaces (majority white) I feel like I have to be and constantly signal some type of “we’re together” symbol in order to avoid those situations.

Not Mr. Val flirting with him at the end as if he didn’t just admit he doesn’t want to be with black men. This was such a mess, goodness.

Love you Miles Jai!!!

The second hand embarrassment I get from Mr. Val omg

Having a preference for eye color is crazy

Rejecting someone because of their race is racism. Plain and simple. No ifs, ands, or buts. If you write someone off because of their race, there is no way you can explain how you’re not judging them based on their race.

Miles! I need more commentary/video essays from you!

Miles this era is so iconic I’m so glad you are back! ✨✨✨✨

I see two men that doesn't date black men. 💁🏽‍♂️

This video really resonated with me. As a mixed Black/White trans British person, dating has been a complex journey. I’ve navigated fetishization from some, misunderstanding of my ethnicity, and the challenge of finding genuine connection without being objectified. Interestingly, I found more authentic freedom dating non-British men who didn’t carry the same societal pressures. It hasn’t been easy, but I’m in a beautiful place now. Since 2022, I’ve been with my partner, and we’re building a future—moving North, buying a home, and planning to adopt. Thank you for opening up this space for these important, vulnerable conversations.

Knowing this painful “interview” has a part two just makes my whole body shudder.

omg that flirting at the end!? an entire mess

Posts from you have me wanting to say "its so good to see you" 😅

I love this commentary style video from you! I ran here from the IG reel.

The marriage proposal cut immediately to the break up was BRUTAL (and hilarious - yes, I know I'm going to hell)

"that one" is crazy

I wish people would just date who they want instead of getting on the loudspeaker and announcing to the world exactly who they do not find attractive😭 talk about who you do like and the people you desire will come to you.

I love that you come back admittedly being fatigued from the world/internet making videos creating dialogue to help lessen what may have caused you fatigue. :)

That poor boy 😭 like it’s funny and it’s not at the same damn time 😂 I know he went home and just sat with the lights off.

I love this kind of queer content

Omg I love your long form introspective thoughts vids. Your voice is perfect for these types of videos. I am a loooong time fan and have loved your evolution over the years. This channel feels like home, Miles! Love ya so much! Would enjoy more like this, we wanna know your thoughts on all kinds of subjects